is it me or after u turn 25 life gets real, I feel like Im losing my mind
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Mr Hate Coffee
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How can doing something uncomfortable lead to comfort???!? That's the very definition of work. lol. Sacrifice and hard work (things that we are led to believe are necessary to achieve our dreams) are not comfortable.
Its nothing wrong with grinding as long as you have a vision. Hell, even Zuckerberg had to go through his grinding/uncertainty stage.
And you still need money to have food, clothing, and shelter. Nobody just wakes up like "Lord just give me all the things I need...
But I want to be comfortable. 
" Christianity as a whole is based on suffering to lead to an eternity of bliss in the afterlife.Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Naw its just you man. Im going on 30 and I feel better then I did at 21 
Hollywood Co
Primetime Reppin
I work 10:30 to 7 and its not that bad. Still have time to hit the gym or go out and be in the house before 12/1 and waking up at 9 
As for this thread though, I've been feeling this way since I thought I lost everything at 24. Now at 26, my life has made a complete 180. Still no where near where I want to be but I'm learning what it takes to make it in this world and ultimately being able to do what I want. Gotta put in the work though.
As for this thread though, I've been feeling this way since I thought I lost everything at 24. Now at 26, my life has made a complete 180. Still no where near where I want to be but I'm learning what it takes to make it in this world and ultimately being able to do what I want. Gotta put in the work though.
26 and depressed like a motherfukker. Pretty much nothing is going my way. I started having suicidal thoughts in elementary school. It comes and goes. True definition ofjust went back to school to finish up my undergraduate degree. Trying to outlast this storm, but i'm not going to lie shyt has been real. I don't even want to seek any medical opinion. They'll probably diagnose me with all types of shyt. The past two years I been really hanging on by a thread. There's brighter days ahead though. At least that's what I keep telling myself.
Trying to put these goals into fruition. I stopped looking at my Facebook feed, everybody struggling. My moms working two full time jobs, man this is not life.
Ever think of doing volunteer work? Maybe join the Peace corps.
swag johnson
All Star
sounds a lot like me, especially the feeling that i should be doing something else during random times. like i need to figure out what my life's purpose is.Man, I just hit 22 on Sunday, but I can dig this thread. I've been having this feeling that time is running out or something and it's weird because I can be doing something that I'm enjoying at that moment but it feels like I should be doing something else. I do get stressed out at times, but this isn't stress but I can't really explain it other than something has been feeling "off" for a while
shyt, I was sitting in class the other day and I just got up, left, went for a walk and skipped my other 2 classes doing nothing but just fukking walking. I even turned off the Samsung and I never turn off my phone. I just wierd my own damn self out sometimes, I swear
. It's probably because I think too much for my own good. The more I think about shyt the more pointless stuff becomes to me; I just need to chill the hell out and turn my brain off
this thread the realest since kumbaya
Paisley Darts
All Star
At 25, I got laid off..had to wash dishes at a restaurant for a few months. Then "upgraded" and got a job working customer service for a logistics company. My boss was this big, fat disgusting black chic that hated black dudes..probably because she was big, fat and disgusting. bytch would talk shyt and emasculate me everyday. I hated my job but I needed money. I worked from 11am to 8pm Monday-Friday..no sunlight/couldn't do shyt during the week, except work. I was stressed the fukk out. I've never quit a job before but it got to the point where I had to leave because I knew I was/deserved better than that. I quit and found the best job I've ever had. Life has been good ever since. Sometimes "going through it" makes you grind, work hard and better yourself. Keep your head up.
Man, I just hit 22 on Sunday, but I can dig this thread. I've been having this feeling that time is running out or something and it's weird because I can be doing something that I'm enjoying at that moment but it feels like I should be doing something else. I do get stressed out at times, but this isn't stress but I can't really explain it other than something has been feeling "off" for a while
shyt, I was sitting in class the other day and I just got up, left, went for a walk and skipped my other 2 classes doing nothing but just fukking walking
School is very traumatizing.
Yeah once I get my undergrad degree, i'm definitely moving and doing something drastic. Peace corps would be right up my alley.
Wow brehs u guys really supplied lots of knowledge in here. I'm subscribing the fukk outta this thread for later motivation . Even dudes that's trying to make it to the top got me motivated!I feel like I've achieved my goal in life which is to obtain my career and I love my job I love going in everyday wondering what challenge will I have to face. I love the feeling when one of my patients tell me thanks for what u did for me! Just a year ago I was a broke college student now I got the job of my dreams and making 100k.
But u know what ? Making this much money doesn't make me happy.... I wanna achieve more in my life .I wanna share these moments with my family...that's what would keep me happy. Helping my people around me get to their goals that would keep me happy.
To all my nikkas in the Coli that got that drive to make something better out of yourself I
you. You got my support.
I been thinking a lot about this too. I'm 24 from a humble background
and i just finished an MSc in engineering from a good university
I got a few interviews coming up for some jobs in Germany and my starting salary should be upwards of $66k
This would be quadruple of what I used to earn, I should be excited right???but somehow i aint too bothered even though
i enjoy engineering more than any other subject
I still chill with my school nikkas, a lot of these guys are hustlas
and most of our time goes on women, alcohol and weed
It aint even like i lack work ethic, i was working part time in a call centre for 4 years
and before then i had some jobs in construction and warehouses
I'm the type of nikka that enjoyed the warehouse job more than the call center (except the women 
)
I know I'm in a bad routine but once i start on that career path i know I'm not gonna get another chance.
I feel like there's so much more to life but what i really dread is becoming a zombie in an environment that will have very few people that have shyt in common with me.
I felt like that in my first year in uni until i meet my sudanese, egyptian, jamaican and eritrean brothas
I really need to sit down and figure out what the fukk i want in life and just fully commit to that goal
and i just finished an MSc in engineering from a good university
I got a few interviews coming up for some jobs in Germany and my starting salary should be upwards of $66k
This would be quadruple of what I used to earn, I should be excited right???
but somehow i aint too bothered even thoughi enjoy engineering more than any other subject
I still chill with my school nikkas, a lot of these guys are hustlas
and most of our time goes on women, alcohol and weed
It aint even like i lack work ethic, i was working part time in a call centre for 4 yearsand before then i had some jobs in construction and warehouses
I'm the type of nikka that enjoyed the warehouse job more than the call center (except the women )I know I'm in a bad routine but once i start on that career path i know I'm not gonna get another chance.
I feel like there's so much more to life but what i really dread is becoming a zombie in an environment that will have very few people that have shyt in common with me.
I felt like that in my first year in uni until i meet my sudanese, egyptian, jamaican and eritrean brothas
I really need to sit down and figure out what the fukk i want in life and just fully commit to that goal
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Cloutius Maximus
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Yo I just read through this whole thread.
I personally think that we should all be greatful. Most of us are the descendants of slaves. A lot of black men don't even make it to their mid twenties without getting caught up in the prison industry. Just being a black man with a college degree, or on his way to getting one, means you've beaten the odds in a major way.
Thread is real is fukk for me. I'm 24, and nowhere near where I want to be. I was always told I had potential growing up, was in gifted and talented education, did classes at private schools during the summer, honors classes, all dat. I dealt with anxiety and depression and a feeling of not fitting in so I got into dro and other drugs (shrooms, lsd, e, did coke a few times, tried k and meth once, smoked trees every day for a few years) and got into partying. I'm also an introvert so I like to chill and listen to music, read, watch movies, etc. That led to a lot of wasted time. Plus, being an introvert, I wasn't really about that party life. Kicked it with alpha nikkas who were all about that life and I was never completely let into the inner circle, so I ended up going off by myself and doing my own thing, and without any social support I let the anxiety take over and just kinda shut myself off from life. Sometimes I was happy but the way I was living was unhealthy and anti-social.
Now I'm going to school and finishing up CC so I can transfer and get my degree in economics/finance and start living. I'm into this field, I like knowing about money and it's allocation and how it affects people and demographics. Working part time at a call center and shyt is repetitive as fukk, hella hoodrats with like 3 kids, cats with missing teeth, people slanging shyt on the job, the usual. It's not that bad and at least they got tvs where a nikka can watch football and a cool view, but shyt, nikkas is in they 30/40s working here, shyt can't be life.
Livin wit the folks right now. My pops still gotta work 6 days a week and he like 62, got no savings, credit is fukkED (couldn't even get financial aid til last year cuz this nikka didn't pay his taxes. nikka talkin bout "we livin off the grid" The fukk that mean?!) , he got shafted back in the day because he had a baby momma who he was paying money to, who ended up lying and suing him for child support and WON! nikka smoke trees too. It just bums me out cuz I wish I had a nikka to look up to instead of a cautionary tale ass nikka of a father. But whatever.
I been reading the dhammapada lately and it just shows that all you need is a good mindset and you're good. We learning more and more about neuroplasticity, finding that we can basically change our minds at any stage of life. We used to think that at 30 your brain "hardens" and if you loser that don't know shyt it was a wrap for you. NOT the case. If you willing to put in that work and make some sacrifices, you can build something at any age. Plenty of examples out here. Look at 2chainz. Look at colonel sanders. Look at the nikka who opened the first Mcdonalds. You can build something at any time, and you can lose it at any time. Even if you get that dream house, dream wife, dream family, shyt happens. You lose that job. House burns down. Wife cheats on you. You get cancer. Kid gets sick and dies. Always prepare yourself to win and be ready to get back out there when you lose.
So yeah, long story short, I'm bout that sacrifice. Bout to smoke my last bowl of piff and listen to some music and watch Breaking Bad. Then it's all about hard work, bettering myself, travel, good food, good women, and meaningful, rewarding connections. Anything else is pointless.
I personally think that we should all be greatful. Most of us are the descendants of slaves. A lot of black men don't even make it to their mid twenties without getting caught up in the prison industry. Just being a black man with a college degree, or on his way to getting one, means you've beaten the odds in a major way.
Thread is real is fukk for me. I'm 24, and nowhere near where I want to be. I was always told I had potential growing up, was in gifted and talented education, did classes at private schools during the summer, honors classes, all dat. I dealt with anxiety and depression and a feeling of not fitting in so I got into dro and other drugs (shrooms, lsd, e, did coke a few times, tried k and meth once, smoked trees every day for a few years) and got into partying. I'm also an introvert so I like to chill and listen to music, read, watch movies, etc. That led to a lot of wasted time. Plus, being an introvert, I wasn't really about that party life. Kicked it with alpha nikkas who were all about that life and I was never completely let into the inner circle, so I ended up going off by myself and doing my own thing, and without any social support I let the anxiety take over and just kinda shut myself off from life. Sometimes I was happy but the way I was living was unhealthy and anti-social.
Now I'm going to school and finishing up CC so I can transfer and get my degree in economics/finance and start living. I'm into this field, I like knowing about money and it's allocation and how it affects people and demographics. Working part time at a call center and shyt is repetitive as fukk, hella hoodrats with like 3 kids, cats with missing teeth, people slanging shyt on the job, the usual. It's not that bad and at least they got tvs where a nikka can watch football and a cool view, but shyt, nikkas is in they 30/40s working here, shyt can't be life.
Livin wit the folks right now. My pops still gotta work 6 days a week and he like 62, got no savings, credit is fukkED (couldn't even get financial aid til last year cuz this nikka didn't pay his taxes. nikka talkin bout "we livin off the grid" The fukk that mean?!
) , he got shafted back in the day because he had a baby momma who he was paying money to, who ended up lying and suing him for child support and WON! nikka smoke trees too. It just bums me out cuz I wish I had a nikka to look up to instead of a cautionary tale ass nikka of a father. But whatever.I been reading the dhammapada lately and it just shows that all you need is a good mindset and you're good. We learning more and more about neuroplasticity, finding that we can basically change our minds at any stage of life. We used to think that at 30 your brain "hardens" and if you loser that don't know shyt it was a wrap for you. NOT the case. If you willing to put in that work and make some sacrifices, you can build something at any age. Plenty of examples out here. Look at 2chainz. Look at colonel sanders. Look at the nikka who opened the first Mcdonalds. You can build something at any time, and you can lose it at any time. Even if you get that dream house, dream wife, dream family, shyt happens. You lose that job. House burns down. Wife cheats on you. You get cancer. Kid gets sick and dies. Always prepare yourself to win and be ready to get back out there when you lose.
So yeah, long story short, I'm bout that sacrifice. Bout to smoke my last bowl of piff and listen to some music and watch Breaking Bad. Then it's all about hard work, bettering myself, travel, good food, good women, and meaningful, rewarding connections. Anything else is pointless.
Suicide King
#OldBlack
Seeing Gucci losing it recently, made me realized something.
We scrap all our lives, because since a teen we been putting forward 10x the amount of effort versus how the other side lives just to get the same results. Now once we beat the odds, no more obstacles to overcome, our mind becomes restless to the point it runs in circles so anxiety sets in. Because we no longer have the stimulation of facing challenges each and everyday, we become bored then depressed.
This has happened to me, and I see the same thing happening to Gucci.
How do we deal with the fact that our situation created a Hyperbeing who is sharper than the average person. Its almost like when a soldier who comes home and has to get used a place where he don't have to fight anymore. I feel like we all are still in perpetual motion.
We scrap all our lives, because since a teen we been putting forward 10x the amount of effort versus how the other side lives just to get the same results. Now once we beat the odds, no more obstacles to overcome, our mind becomes restless to the point it runs in circles so anxiety sets in. Because we no longer have the stimulation of facing challenges each and everyday, we become bored then depressed.
This has happened to me, and I see the same thing happening to Gucci.
How do we deal with the fact that our situation created a Hyperbeing who is sharper than the average person. Its almost like when a soldier who comes home and has to get used a place where he don't have to fight anymore. I feel like we all are still in perpetual motion.
