IMO Black men shouldn't pursue women or help the black community until ...
I think "financial stability" wouldve been a better termUntil you achieve your dreams???
That might take a lifetime or never happen.
Black woman are the devil
GMB
HOH
HYON
All they are is wenches
am i doing the coli right ?
Some of you have a lot of hate in your hearts, and lash out on the people closest to you , and that have always held you down
you ok breh?
Nah. Thats not an excuse anymore. Weve long been woke and nikkas still do the same shyt.
I've seen black man with good intentions that were great guys but didn't have it together personally and they all eventually wasn't able to do community outreach. You have your thing popping first than comeback. You also need to go through a ho phase period so u aren't trying to sleep with your interns or younger females. They need guidance , not to be fukked.
Who said anything about black women?Black woman are the devil
GMB
HOH
HYON
All they are is wenches
am i doing the coli right ?
Some of you have a lot of hate in your hearts, and lash out on the people closest to you , and that have always held you down
Youre projecting breh.
Ignore the fact that having a good supportive woman can help a breh achieve his dreams, breh.
You're literally suggesting that black men become robots to success and force away organic companionship on some monk shyt.
It's interesting that you assume a kid or children would not respect their father figure is he hasn't already achieved his dream. I'd argue that children who grow up watching their father figure put in the effort, time and hard work to achieve what he has and overcoming stumbling blocks reinforces that work ethic in the child.
A child who grows up only after the spoils of success are had would be more at risk of taking hard work for granted in many cases.
"The black community is vicious. In order to deal with black people you must obtain all the superficial shyt nikkas worship." -Where are you getting this bullship generalization from? Materialism is an american issue, not localized to the black community.
I'd agree that the youth are more prone to being distracted by materialism but for people who are actively trying to get their public housing administration to remove the fungi/mold from the corners of their children's bedroom walls and trying to get through the arduous process of finding out how to ensure their child goes to a good school where the teachers actually care about their kids... I think you're generalizations are insulting as fukk, breh.
And before you pull up any photos of black kids on long lines at footlocker - I'd remind you that most black children aren't lining up to footlocker for sneakers.
Before you pull up random pictures of people posing with their income check - I'd remind you that no matter how many pics you find, most black youth AREN'T posing with money.
Go outside, breh.
Right. nikkahs think getting rich is the be all to get all the women you want but its not gonna mean shyt if you cant flow to get her turned on or to have her mentally kept. Youll only be her square financial. safety net while a hood nikkah with swag end up smashing her in and out
StretfordRed
Afro-European
Keep using that as an excuse, brehs.
There are black people from all walks of life have prospered. Black people as a whole aren't REALLY attack WS outside of social media IMO.
Momma always told me you can't sit back and complain. At some point you've either gotta fight it or you'll continue being a victim of it
The Coli really helps a black breh hone his skills on being able to defend the bond between black men and women, I tell you.
But, that isn't evidence that on the path towards following your dreams, you need to put mental blockers on regarding women as the OP suggested. I feel like you're countering my point(which is okay) but are you reading what the OP said and cosigning it?
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Although @DrX makes certain points that have some veracity, the type of extreme point he's making is offbase. All of the things OP mentioned regarding 1. helping black community, 2. courting someone/being open to having a companionship w/ a compatible woman 3. being in the process of working towards your dream - can be all down simultaneously w/ balance.
That's like saying a person can't grow a garden while going to business school.
OP, do you atleast admit that taking such a position without allowing leeway when certain things happen organically, can actually be harmful to black men?
A black man who is working hard to gain the success he's set for himself could volunteer to help repaint the neighborhood or join a mentor program - BOTH which could lead to connections and networking that can help the community as well as help the breh w/ his own success.
A black man who is working hard to gain the success he's set for himself can stray away from being a robot to success and be open to engage a woman who's caught his attention and possibly get with a woman who energizes him or puts that battery in his back.
Upon second read, I'm not completely against DrX's premise, he's just using some language that is REALLY suspect and sounds like some black hate and stereotyping.
Most women will become a distraction, I'll give you that. It won't be because their women, it'll be because most people just aren't compatible.
But, that isn't evidence that on the path towards following your dreams, you need to put mental blockers on regarding women as the OP suggested. I feel like you're countering my point(which is okay) but are you reading what the OP said and cosigning it?
Support how? Women take up alot of time & money...... Time & Money that could be spent building something. [Breh, balance. No one is saying spend all day and night on some Hitch shyt to try to get married or in a committed relationship before your father, the King of Zamunda, commands you back to your home kingdom.Also, if you are hemorrhaging money as a result of a woman/women, you're handling courtship all wrong.]
When I was broke.... My girl was driving around giving me rides and paying for shyt and doing my laundry.... Thats real support.... The average dude aint gettin that..... The average dude only gettin sex and companionship if theyre lucky... But thats not REAL support.... Support is financial or tangible in some way.... Alot of men waste time chasing women [Absolutely. So instead of shytting on the idea that it's possible to be available to compatible women, why not just suggest that brehs adjust the way that they are handling courtships?]
I wouldn't advise dudes to waste time playing around with women unless they get lucky and find a real down chick. [Reread my comment that you replied to and tell me if you honestly think I disagree with you. If anything, the fact that you are saying this should make you disagree w/ OP's premise since following his advice would more than likely lead a breh to have tunnel vision and ignore a "real down chick".]
Its better to focus on your self and get women when youre in a strong position [Yes, true. The point should not be so extreme by OP is what I'm saying. Your focus should be balanced.] .... Not a weak broke position
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Although @DrX makes certain points that have some veracity, the type of extreme point he's making is offbase. All of the things OP mentioned regarding 1. helping black community, 2. courting someone/being open to having a companionship w/ a compatible woman 3. being in the process of working towards your dream - can be all down simultaneously w/ balance.
That's like saying a person can't grow a garden while going to business school.
OP, do you atleast admit that taking such a position without allowing leeway when certain things happen organically, can actually be harmful to black men?
A black man who is working hard to gain the success he's set for himself could volunteer to help repaint the neighborhood or join a mentor program - BOTH which could lead to connections and networking that can help the community as well as help the breh w/ his own success.
A black man who is working hard to gain the success he's set for himself can stray away from being a robot to success and be open to engage a woman who's caught his attention and possibly get with a woman who energizes him or puts that battery in his back.
Upon second read, I'm not completely against DrX's premise, he's just using some language that is REALLY suspect and sounds like some black hate and stereotyping.
Allowing this dikkhead back on this forum is one of the worst things the mods could have done.
