If you're a parent and can offer nothing to your child in their adult life, you've ultimately failed

[The Realist Perspective]

I had to work for everything I have now and received zero handouts from my parents. I do OK. But, I just think, what if I had some sort of nest egg or inheritance that could catapult me to the next tax brackets? Hell, even a property? Land?

That's the mistake a lot of people make, not focusing on generational wealth at all causes stagnation to your lineage. Without keeping this in mind every single new adult released into the world, start on square one. It's not in the child's best interest.

Now I grew up with both a mother and father in a relatively middle class stable lifestyle but it's just still not enough. I'm competing against people that have old / long money fueling their ambitions or basic life.

Don't even get me started with grandparents. If your grandparents cannot pass something on you might as well not even meet your fukking grandchildren, otherwise what's the point of you? My grandparents left me ZERO and left my mother and her siblings with debt and anxiety taking care of them in their final years.

I know the circumstances were different back then. But for Christs sake, start building that nest egg or something as soon as your child is born. Pay for their school, down payment for a house, something that can give them an edge rather than starting all over again.

I feel selfish feeling this way. And I even lowkey resent my family for this. It's a complex range of emotions.

But I'm curious how y'all feel about it.

 

[TEH]

Yes you did fail in a way because generational wealth is important and necessary to give us financial freedom. But honestly support and a shoulder to lean on is the most important thing I feel a parent can give to an adult child.

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

In some cases, it's hard for a parent to build anything when everytime you turn around their grown kids and grandkids are stuck with their hands out.

 

[Germms]

I agree with you it's just easier said than done. I had to start from 0 like you because my parents were kids when they had me and didn't really improve. That's literally only because they didn't have the best opportunity to do so themselves. That's just my life though.

I've heard parents in my age (26) group say that they want their kids to come up rough like they did. They don't want them to be entitled. I mean I don't think that's smart but that's just how people think.

I wouldn't show resentment towards my elders because of what they didn't do but I would show appreciation for what they could.

 

[get these nets]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

 

[SadimirPutin]

Absolutism is a dangerous thought process

 

[Hungerpain]

In before people call you entitled and ungrateful.

Facts tho.
If you not 100% invested in your kids success you shouldn't be having them.
Whats the point of having kids just to watch them struggle through life?

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

That's a parents responsibility though since they brought the child in the world in the place. Can't get credit for something you were supposed to do in the first place. Just playing devils advocate.

 

[Koba St]

My parents don’t owe me anything. They fed me, raised me, paid for my education, put a roof over over my head etc. That’s more than enough.

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

DON'T BLAME YOUR PARENTS BECAUSE YOU AREN'T AS FAR ALONG AS YOU WANT TO BE. STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN AND BLAMING OTHERS FOR WHERE YOU ARE. GET IT OUT THE MUD AND BE THE PERSON YOU WANTED YOUR PARENTS TO BE.

 

[Koba St]

That's a parents responsibility though since they brought the child in the world in the place. Can't get credit for something you were supposed to do in the first place. Just playing devils advocate.

It’s their only responsibility. anything else is a bonus that you should be grateful for and if you don’t get it from them, go get it yourself

 

[Heafcliffe]

Yes you did fail in a way because generational wealth is important and necessary to give us financial freedom. But honestly support and a shoulder to lean on is the most important thing I feel a parent can give to an adult child.

I agree.

Crazy thing is, with a 2 parent household, I didn't have either.

Always vowed that if I had children, I would support them and talk to them wholeheartedly about even the smallest thing.

 

[get these nets]

That's a parents responsibility though since they brought the child in the world in the place. Can't get credit for something you were supposed to do in the first place. Just playing devils advocate.

And they settled up on that responsibility, once you become an adult.

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

It’s their only responsibility. anything else is a bonus that you should be grateful for and if you don’t get it from them, go get it toursel.

And they settled up on that responsibility, once you become an adult.

That's true as well. That's why I mentioned that it's hard for a lot of parents to build anything to leave anything when the grown kids and grandkids are always asking for something. Mom and dad won't do it and are perfectly find with telling the kid to ask grandma and grandpa. The money will be long gone before they even get the chance to benefit from it.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

Yes you did fail in a way because generational wealth is important and necessary to give us financial freedom. But honestly support and a shoulder to lean on is the most important thing I feel a parent can give to an adult child.

I understand that but that's a basic requirement as well.