Correction I; you lost 'em because you didn't know how to keep 'em.
Correction II; the girls can only be around you for so long before they get bored.
Look man, I don't do either and I play that shyt like, "it's all good, you gotta drink/smoke/do drugs to kick it like me." I make 'em feel lame for needing vices to get through life and relationships.
I'd rather ski, snowboard, surf, box/muay thai, lift, ride motorcycles, and drive fast shyt around all day.
I like taking risks that'll put me on top, not wasting time and energy on being a weed head or a drunk, that's the suckers way out.
Stop being around lame women.