If You Cheat On Your Girlfriend or Wife, That Means

[rahji]

nikkas that cheat are actually more romantic.

Women that cheat wont even ask you if you're hungry when you come home.

Dapped for hard truth.. Damn

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

People who think they can cheat but still love somebody are fooling themselves.

You truly cannot be in an active state of loving somebody if you are lying, deceiving, and disrespecting someone.

Dudes in here trying to justify this because they want p*ssy. So they try to compartmentalize their actions. Unfortunately, a lotta of these nikkas don't know what love is.

It's action. Constant selfless action of investing in someone else's happiness, growth and well-being in the same way you desire for someone to do for you. It's not a state you get to and just stay in. That's why love takes work. And that's why the golden rule works whether ur a man or a woman.

If you can't get to a place where you can't treat the one you love the same way YOU would want to be treated, then stop lying to urself.

As soon as you stop thinking about ur partner's well-being and what will help them grow, you stopped loving them.

No ifs. No ands. No butts.
It ain't about separating the emotional or the physical. It ain't that deep. You knowingly throw away trust, loyalty, faithfulness and honesty and respect for a nut, then love ain't in you.

That's all. And what's funny is that this applies to ALL relationships, not just romantic ones.

Lmao! Who da hell ya'll foolin?!

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Meh, I don't think so. I have had mistresses while loving the mains and thought nothing of it. The mains stop doing basic things in the bedroom department, so I had to venture outside to find it.

Eventually women start to ration off the sexscapades from when you first met. First they would take it all ways for all days(kitchen counters, bathtubs, etc.), then head only happens on special events, then missionary and no head, then "Can you hurry up already?", and the finale is no sex at all. Sorry ladies, if you can't keep a guy interested sexually, you are going to lose them.

Men are inherently conquerers and women play the long game and get emotionally invested when they creep.

I've crept with two jump-offs in the week and went home to the main and slept like a baby...it isn't cheating to me unless you get caught IMHO...

Unfortunately, it's the same with men romantically. Men get comfortable and the same courtship gestures, sweet things done to get her, fall by the wayside once she's urs.
I wonder if men ever make the connection between the lack of sex and the lack of courtship once people are together and vice versa.

So a lot of women cheat for lack of those romantic needs much like men cheat for lack of sexual ones. Doesn't justify either.

If people would put as much energy into what they have instead of following the whole undisciplined grass is greener bullshyt, relationships would be a hell of a lot better...

 

[Taadow]

People who think they can cheat but still love somebody are fooling themselves.

You truly cannot be in an active state of loving somebody if you are lying, deceiving, and disrespecting someone.

Dudes in here trying to justify this because they want p*ssy. So they try to compartmentalize their actions. Unfortunately, a lotta of these nikkas don't know what love is.

It's action. Constant selfless action of investing in someone else's happiness, growth and well-being in the same way you desire for someone to do for you. It's not a state you get to and just stay in. That's why love takes work. And that's why the golden rule works whether ur a man or a woman.

If you can't get to a place where you can't treat the one you love the same way YOU would want to be treated, then stop lying to urself.

As soon as you stop thinking about ur partner's well-being and what will help them grow, you stopped loving them.

No ifs. No ands. No butts.
It ain't about separating the emotional or the physical. It ain't that deep. You knowingly throw away trust, loyalty, faithfulness and honesty and respect for a nut, then love ain't in you.

That's all. And what's funny is that this applies to ALL relationships, not just romantic ones.

Lmao! Who da hell ya'll foolin?!

Agree with all of this except for the red.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Btw here's a hint...respect is a foundation of true love. That's how I know some of ya'll have NEVER been in love.

You can't love someone and not have any respect for who they are as a person. Damn, this generation is sad as fukk.

 

[Ollie Williams]

*shrugs*
*shoulder leans out of thread*

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Everybody wants to claim that what they are doing with somebody in a relationship is love but it's really not.

You with her b/c she make u feel good. Or she gotta fat ass. Or she was there for u when u didn't have shyt. Or because society keeps telling u to get in a relationship. Or because you want easy access to p*ssy.

Nothing is wrong with any of these reasons but be honest with urself b/c none of this is love. We wanna call it that b/c nobody wants to be savage enuff to say "I'm wit this person b/c they fit my life right now."

This ain't love but people will put that title on it to make what they're doing valid.

Well when you put "love" on anything, it's no wonder you think you can look somebody in the eye everyday, lie and deceive them, jeopardize their happiness, forget about putting urself in their shoes, but still delude urself into thinking u love them. Lol!

Can we get a lil higher than this shyt?

 

[Elle Driver]

In my experience, Afro Caribbeans were notorious for this.


They go the extra mile buying you apology gifts in preparation for an apology, and then get mad when you don't take their apology for cheating on you. Like you should be happy he's taking care of yo ass, cause you the main. Come to find he's been hiding 3 baby's muvas this whole time and y'all find each other at the cook out and he's all non chalant about it. And his answer is, "but I love you, why you even mad fo?".

 

[GoFlipAPack]

lol, nobody.

This is like the 4th time I've been asked this question in this thread.

I've never been cheated on.

 

[Entropy Fan]

So only virgins need to be faithful to each other? GOT IT.

Don't be dumb. Men value their women's prior chastity. Women value their man's fidelity with her.

Women lie about their numbers men can be honest about theirs for a reason he won't lose value to her if his number is high
If u wanna play dumb I'll let u cook

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Pleasurable sexual habits die hard.

People who rotate different people in the beginning seasons of sex life don't grow out of it simply because they desire a spouse and/or gain one. But they'll foster a commitment with a significant other for the benefits of having a man or woman in your corner. Cheating is the word said s/o uses when they find out the person is doing them.

But there's a variety of lifelines/tricks said people employ as damage control, like crying, accusing the s/o of not performing their s/o duties correctly, pretending they had an isolated moment of weakness, accusing the person they cheated with of seduction or rape, etc.

Bullshyt. We really need to stop giving excuses to behavior that people can control. You're not "doing you", you are lying. Simple as that. You're a liar. It's nothing else wrong with you.

So in order to avoid being cheated on, People should just avoid liars. Gotcha.

 

[Software]

Lmfao im dead

 

[Alan Emerald]

Everybody wants to claim that what they are doing with somebody in a relationship is love but it's really not.

You with her b/c she make u feel good. Or she gotta fat ass. Or she was there for u when u didn't have shyt. Or because society keeps telling u to get in a relationship. Or because you want easy access to p*ssy.

Nothing is wrong with any of these reasons but be honest with urself b/c none of this is love. We wanna call it that b/c nobody wants to be savage enuff to say "I'm wit this person b/c they fit my life right now."

This ain't love but people will put that title on it to make what they're doing valid.

Well when you put "love" on anything, it's no wonder you think you can look somebody in the eye everyday, lie and deceive them, jeopardize their happiness, forget about putting urself in their shoes, but still delude urself into thinking u love them. Lol!

Can we get a lil higher than this shyt?

Maybe in getting higher than this shyt we must be as savage as you put it. I would use honest over savage however. We must forst be honest wit ourselves. Know what u want. If i just wanna smash a few times, then i need tp search for women who fit the bill. A woman who made have the personality and body of what i want but who clearly exibits that she wants something meaningful, i should be honest enough to let her pass or at least let her know my intentions so that she can choose. Unfortunately most of us wont do that.

Also if I want a relationship, i have no business mixing it up with women who do not and catching ill feelings when it doesn't work out. And you so right about love, what many of us consider love is lust, convenience or comfort. Love is a verb and action that requires work of both parties involved. And there's levels to it. Many timesthings go wrong because two ppl use the same word but their meanings aren't compatible.

 

[Alan Emerald]

you don't love her, so stop saying that you do. If you did, then you wouldn't have cheated.

You dontr respect her and she should leave after she get revenge$$$$

Just letting you all know.

Are you sure that is a matter of him not loving her? Coukd it also be he doesnt love her the way she loves him? Perhaps his idea/concept of love is different and thus not compatible with hers.

i for one beleve there are levels to love and eveyone saying the word aint saying the same thing. I also see no reason why someone cheats on a gf/bf outside of selfishness. If u have no children, nothing in each others name and you see someone else you want, go for it and let your gf/bf be free.

 

[Dusty Bake Activate]

Some of you guys are idiots. & I won't feel sorry for any of you when the girl you've cheated on leaves you and takes your money with her.

Maybe you were just on some juvenile gender war male-bashing bullshyt when you made this thread, but me saying you were naive had nothing to do with gender specifics.

Both males and females cheat on people they love all the time. It's not right and I'm not justifying it morally. But cheating often occurs to due personal failings, and inability to cope with situations, not whether or not or how much they love their significant other.

People can truly love someone and cheat on them because of issues they're dealing with internally. Monogamy is difficult and goes against our biological wiring, and people often fail at it. It's not a perfect analogy, but someone could have a food addiction, gambling problem, drug addiction, money spending problem, co-dependency with a family member, or some other type of flaw that leads to the dissolution of a relationship. Cheating can be a personal flaw that's too great to overcome for some people, irrespective or whether or not they love their partner.

Maybe you'll understand that someday when you've gained more knowledge and experience.