"I took a major L getting married, I make 150k and I'm broke" - My bestfriend
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U live in a bubble...where I came from most black people are stagnant and just give up....No, I did not.
You guys are way too young to be so bitter.
It's miracle I'm where I am....
So I have a hard time young blacks are living so well...I guess I compare it to my life story
King of Creampies
Hop in. You coming too!
I was married for 2 years and I filed for divorce. My exwife was about 100K in debt...off a BA and she is a Special Ed teacher.
I had no debt, never ever even held a bank account with her and she had bad credit to boot...seriously bad. Not to mention the lack of emotional awareness and other issues she had.
I made a mistake marrying that woman but I got out quick...would I marry again? It's really hard to say because it's one of my worst fears that I am going to run into the Darth Vader of T&A and she is going to lock me down in love...but right now at 38...I wake up every morning with 2 funky ass cats, no kids, no wife, no gf...and I am honestly happy but a small part of me longs to have a good woman with some sweet pussi holding me down with a ring on her finger.
Marriage is bills, credit, work, health problems, struggle, 401k, and family issues but you know if you find the right woman or man whom you can make a great marriage with then what I mentioned really isn't shyt.
I had no debt, never ever even held a bank account with her and she had bad credit to boot...seriously bad. Not to mention the lack of emotional awareness and other issues she had.
I made a mistake marrying that woman but I got out quick...would I marry again? It's really hard to say because it's one of my worst fears that I am going to run into the Darth Vader of T&A and she is going to lock me down in love...but right now at 38...I wake up every morning with 2 funky ass cats, no kids, no wife, no gf...and I am honestly happy but a small part of me longs to have a good woman with some sweet pussi holding me down with a ring on her finger.
Marriage is bills, credit, work, health problems, struggle, 401k, and family issues but you know if you find the right woman or man whom you can make a great marriage with then what I mentioned really isn't shyt.
You gotta hustle your way up in the financial latter only to share it with some broad ..And she gonna take half eventually
But here's the thing: nobody thought it would be that way. Real talk
Everyone that gets married is so in love. They always talk about how they envision growing old and having kids. But half of marriages sadly end in divorce
You think that's how they thought it would be?
Of course not. So everyone goes in with that same happy mindset you described, only for half to become a "statistic". But they all think it's gonna be happy and they'll defy those odds. Everyone thinks it won't happen to them when half the time it is them lol. You really think it won't be you? I'm sure my parents thought the same. They're both on their second marriage and still only get along 3 months out of the year. Still can't get it right. I'm sure they didn't think it would happen to them neither
So with that being said, some dudes would rather not risk it. They don't wanna take the risk of becoming a statistic
Entropy Fan
Superstar
No, I did not.
You guys are way too young to be so bitter.
Keep thinking men can be continually shamed into an institution that has been recently reconfigured to suck him dry brehettes
There is a lot of truth to this... I was married for almost 15 years 
I worked (in the army) and being deployed multiple times for months at a time, even year long stretches; and while my ex was riding around in a brand new nissan armada platinum, I was going to work in old dusty ass integra (still have it by the way), were the painted was faded as hell and the rims all scrapped up. And as your friend says, the wife and kids really never paid no mind or acknolwedged the sacrifices we make as men and head of the household.
Imagine the squad wants to go out for lunch, but you can't because you don't have any money
Imagine coming to work on a monday morning and hearing everyone having fun and you stuck at the house
Imagine going shopping with brehs and they copping all new fits and sneakers and you sitting there in your bum ass gear thats about 4 or 5 years old :
It wasn't until my wife cheated
and I left her and now having the freedom of just doing what i wanted and when to do it returned to me - i felt like a new man 
Then that child support comes in for $1,735 every month and she g-checking a week prior asking when she can expect her paycheck, got her hands out like
...fukking bytch
But yeah, now that i got my shortys from her cause she don't know how to be a fukking mother, that child support is no longer paid to her and in fact she is suppose to pay me... a measly $300 for four kids, but since I'm the bread winner, i had to pay that broad over 1700 at one point.
I say all to say this - if you are unhappy in a marriage, get out because it never EVER gets better. I learned this the hard way. I got married at a way to young of an age. Don't get me wrong, marriage was beutiful, and I enjoyed the majority of it, like 80%, but not having money because she spent all of it was a back breaking experience for me. Instead that ol dusty integra, i'm riding in nice truck and I know exactly where all my money is going.
I promised myself that i wll never ever go down that road with a woman again. If we ain't on the same page with religion, finances, professional level and child up-brining - she ain't the one for me brehs.
I worked (in the army) and being deployed multiple times for months at a time, even year long stretches; and while my ex was riding around in a brand new nissan armada platinum, I was going to work in old dusty ass integra (still have it by the way), were the painted was faded as hell and the rims all scrapped up. And as your friend says, the wife and kids really never paid no mind or acknolwedged the sacrifices we make as men and head of the household.
Imagine the squad wants to go out for lunch, but you can't because you don't have any money
Imagine coming to work on a monday morning and hearing everyone having fun and you stuck at the house
Imagine going shopping with brehs and they copping all new fits and sneakers and you sitting there in your bum ass gear thats about 4 or 5 years old :
It wasn't until my wife cheated
and I left her and now having the freedom of just doing what i wanted and when to do it returned to me - i felt like a new man Then that child support comes in for $1,735 every month and she g-checking a week prior asking when she can expect her paycheck, got her hands out like
...fukking bytch
But yeah, now that i got my shortys from her cause she don't know how to be a fukking mother, that child support is no longer paid to her and in fact she is suppose to pay me... a measly $300 for four kids, but since I'm the bread winner, i had to pay that broad over 1700 at one point.
I say all to say this - if you are unhappy in a marriage, get out because it never EVER gets better. I learned this the hard way. I got married at a way to young of an age. Don't get me wrong, marriage was beutiful, and I enjoyed the majority of it, like 80%, but not having money because she spent all of it was a back breaking experience for me. Instead that ol dusty integra, i'm riding in nice truck and I know exactly where all my money is going.
I promised myself that i wll never ever go down that road with a woman again. If we ain't on the same page with religion, finances, professional level and child up-brining - she ain't the one for me brehs.
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Entropy Fan
Superstar
I guess the right one doesn't exist cuz I've heard countless similar stories. I heard one hooping a bit back. It seems to be the theme of most marriages. Saying u picked wrong is almost a deflection at this pointSounds like he married the wrong one
Entropy Fan
Superstar
Willingly join slavery brehs
I received a call like that from a good friend of many years. He wondered if it was worth it. I told him to focus on the good aspects of it all.
It's strange though that all my friends who are married tell me not to do it.
GMB
It's strange though that all my friends who are married tell me not to do it.
GMB
the bossman
Superstar
so what happens if that lifestyle gets old? because it can and it will. what then?Brotha could be traveling the world....dating beautiful women......eating world-class dishes.....while still saving hella money and retiring early....
Instead -- he's gonna be working until he's 60, probably be F&S and looking back on his adulthood wondering what could have been
Demon
Evil b*stard
he said noone appreciates his hard work or sacrifices...thats really shytty 
but he is bytching about the actual hard work and sacrifices too which is
when you wife someone and bust out 2 kids with her...you supposed to sacrifice for your family....dumbass
since this is probably ducktales anyway, i wont even touch on why hes broke
4 person families make half of that with the 2 parents combined and arent broke
but he is bytching about the actual hard work and sacrifices too which is
when you wife someone and bust out 2 kids with her...you supposed to sacrifice for your family....dumbass
since this is probably ducktales anyway, i wont even touch on why hes broke
4 person families make half of that with the 2 parents combined and arent broke
