I hate having sex with my fiance. But it’s too late to call off the wedding

[JQ Legend]

Damn y’all really talked about this for 8 pages?

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

ole boy need to hit the gym

That's divorce waiting to happen. A coworker of mine used t be swole. Around his mid 40s he started losing muscle, dude is going through a divorce right now. Looks aren't forever my guy.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

If that raw, sexual attraction she clamours for was not there in the beginning, it will NEVER work out.

The sooner people admit to sex being an integral part of the relationship (a make or break factor) from the beginning, then you'll avoid falling for someone for those other reasons and then discovering later that those other factors will subside and won't hide the fact the sex isn't what you want it to be. It's not superficial or unreasonable to want good sex. It's a huge component of a successful relationship.

If a woman isn't sexually attracted within literally seconds of meeting you, there's no chance. It's only a matter of time before things go south. Guys should be very wary when meeting a woman and what her type is etc. The physical attraction aspect is paramount to opening the door to a potential relationship. There's no other effective way of entry.

The reason why it's looked down upon is because some women still use men for a comeup. Mothers raise their daughters to date the man with the most resources for this reason. That shyt needs to change. People need to get with who they are attracted to, period.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

How attractive is she if she's getting curved by these dudes

Her husband is Indian, the guys rejecting her are white. Do the math.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

That shyt wears off though and beauty fades. People get older, gain wait, fall off, etc...then what?

Divorce. The whole concept behind marriage makes no sense. You expect people to remain sexually attracted to each other forever?
In the netherlands you and your partner can enter into a "registered partnership" . You're pretty much married except you have to renew your marriage every so often. If both of you aggree not to renew the marriage then you are not together anymore . No one gets the other person's assets either. This is how marriage shohld be tbh.
Marriage, registered partnership and cohabitation agreements

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

I think this is a woman problem in general, I think a lot of females feel this way but overlook it if the man is able to provide financial security.

They overlook it temporarily. Expect a divorce in the future though. That's why when brehs say "I'm going to stack my paper first before getting married" I laugh. That's just going to attarct gold diggers my guy.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

Mans is done. Only a matter of time before she returns to the streets

Breh did you see the part where she said " i like the ways his eyes crinkled and I was drawn to his warmth". She's drawn to his warmth because he would make a "safe" father. Dude probably looks like a "nice guy" or a simp.
Simp gang come hold this L

 

[Amor fati]

More cracker problems

Moe Crackers Moe Problemz

 

[The Darkness]

So she secured a beta male provider and wants to complain she's not attracted to him

When men get a good girl. They don't complain that she is not as sexy as some ig model.

They get side pieces.

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

I agree though a lot of people have standards that are too high and want everything in their partner and have to learn to sacrifice in certain areas I just think. I just think that in the OP that chemistry isn't really there and she's mistaking it as sexual attraction.

Nope. It's the other way around. The chemistry was there. That's why she got with him in the first place despite not being attracted to him.

Don't forget that chemistry exists between non-romantic partners as well.

She would've never gotten this far with a guy she wasn't attracted to if there wasn't at least some chemistry.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

We need a Get married Brehs song with the John Cena beat.

I can actually hear it in my head

" Get Married Breeeehs, Get married breeeeehs get maarried breeeehs"

 

[eastside313]

Exaggerated to say NO chance, but it's a very steep uphill battle.

Women make those decisions instantly upon seeing you and if they are sexually attracted it's up to you to now show you have the rest of the package to really pique her interest or to not severely fukk it up at least.

If that's not there to begin with, then of course you may have the occasional feel-good love story about how a guy wasn't a woman's type but he was so nice and did this and that. That's an uphill battle though, because every time she looks at someone sexually attractive to her, she'd be thinking "what if". Once a woman in a relationship thinks "what if"...good luck.

Are you speaking from experience when you say it's not true?

I done got plenty of snatch from broads that did not like me at all when we first came in contact.
Most women are not like men. Men see females and say yeah i wanna fukk. That’s not the same mindset of most women.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

ole boy need to hit the gym

it isn’t the gym...to borrow an overused NBA trope...he doesn’t have that dog in him. She feels no excitement

 

[3rdWorld]

Cac problems..

 

[HarlemHottie]

You are talking out of your ass breh.

No, he's right. Me and my man 20 yrs in and the sex is STILL outstanding. We were both each other's type* and didn't get flabby n sick. Having that strong base of attraction has helped us avoid a lot of bs over the years. Otherwise it's a huge chink in the relationships armor and you end up letting all kinda ppl in.

*Of course, there were other considerations and requirements as well.