I don't respect folks who have babies with randoms that they're just smashing.

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I have 3 female peers who basically did the same thing. Got knocked up in their early to mid 30s by men they clearly were not in relationships with IMO just to have a kid. Only 1 of the women have the childs father in their life.

Did i mention all 3 of these peers are 30+ Black women, live in the south and have Sons? :francis:
That's wild, do they not know about the fact that we reincarnate. That might be an uncle or great grandfather on his side and you taking on all that by yourself
 

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This response nails it.

Lot of these women who do this have self esteem issues.

They stay getting pumped and dumped, and deep down they don't think they have what it takes to attract a quality, valued man that will see them as worth sticking with..

But they know a child will never leave them and has no choice but to stay with them and love them unconditionally. So they just say fxck it, sit back relax and let it happen consequences be damned.
It's hard for a lady to get a high value male. Every woman wants one but it's hard to get one. Average at best is the majority of men and what do women not want... the majority of men
 

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Me if single: 3 kids and single, what were you doing.

Me: same dude, oh, that means you valuable, the hitta stayed and the ass and titties sit nice, what's up girl? :wow:

Yeah you right, we just too Simple. Sorry. Even the most intelligent of us just have primal thoughts and desires. You look like a snack, we want all of the snack. Just the male in us.

You ever thought about long distance?


Yes I tried it, my ex (first real relationship after my children's father) was from Chicago
It was hard, lasted 2 years, maybe because of C0vid...
Not sure if I would try again but I'm open (no pun)
 

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Yes I tried it, my ex (first real relationship after my children's father) was from Chicago
It was hard, lasted 2 years, maybe because of C0vid...
Not sure if I would try again but I'm open (no pun)
You should consider it with someone who isn't scared to relocate, works remote, and wants what you want in the future as you do. Get straight to the point, feet on the pedal. Since you are coparenting, leaving London isn't likely or smart but you got options. Pick wisely.
 

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If you and your baby moms had a child and yall was just freak buddies, respectfully eff you and her. Yall disgust me. You dregs of society.

How much would a condom have cost? How much would a pill cost?

How you have a whole baby with somebody you didn't even care about like that?

Can somebody explain this to me? I'm understanding about a whole lot of things but I don't understand this one.

What brought this on? I met two women recently and I wasn't even mad about the fact that they had a child. We grown folks, I understand.

But when we got to talking about their baby father, they told me "yeah we weren't together. We was just messing around."

I hit the :dahell: cause I can't even fathom having a child with a woman I don't have feelings for.

Discuss.
Wayne been telling dudes to stay on code
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Raw sex may feel nice. Until someone spreads their seed into someone they didn't intend to create a child with. Next thing, child support and alimony is knocking on the door like

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This is where consent and boundaries lies in. Get tested. Wrap up the willy. Get bizzy. Avoid the aftermath of having an unexpected child.
 
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Wayne been telling dudes to stay on code
quote-safe-sex-is-great-sex-better-wear-a-latex-cause-you-don-t-want-that-late-text-that-i-lil-wayne-92-88-58.jpg


Raw sex may feel nice. Until someone spreads their seed into someone they didn't intend to create a child with. Next thing, child support and alimony is knocking on the door like

will-smith.gif


This is where consent and boundaries lies in. Get tested. Wrap up the willy. Get bizzy. Avoid the aftermath of having an unexpected child.






Bruh, so many people have babies and are in bad situations.

The women are in bad situations because they're not with their baby daddy, and they are forced to work to provide, and then they have trouble finding people to take care of their baby while they're working, not to mention the stresses that come from a single parent being responsible for the child.

The men are in bad situations because either you're willingly spending money to buy things for your child, or you're being forced to do so if she got you on child support, not to mention having to keep dealing with this woman for the next 18 years who has an issue with you and you don't get along with.

It's sad, man. :dahell:
 

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OP noone cares what you do or don't respect. if you ever have kids you'll probably have to spend 30gs to get it cooked up in a petrie dish.
 

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Having babies out of wedlock is certainly not something anyone should strive for but people have sex…raw sex, because it feel amazing….and sex has the chance to lead to a baby. It is what it is. Good luck stopping people from having raw sex in a free society

Edit: one thing I’ve realized as well is when a woman like you like that….they do not care about none of the shyt they claim they do like being in a relationship, using a condom, getting tested…they gonna let you hit raw

Facts. Also the most adamant militant responsible chick will be begging for you to shoot the club up

I have had many many cycles and not once did I ever get the overwhelming need to have a baby when ovulating.
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You don't know my life. :camby:
We all have our things that we dismiss others for. Just keep it moving. It should be like going to the grocery store and seeing shyt on the aisles. You see it, acknowledge the label and either your going to grab it or not. You don't go back to the car like "wheat thins? Wheat thins! fukk wheat thins!" You saw it on the shelf and didn't even give it a second thought after you saw something else.
 
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Yep. And it’s only gonna become more common with this gender war stuff.

On one end you have women legit hating men, but on the other end…the flesh is weak.

I don’t think the average man realizes the physiological things that occur to a woman when she’s ovulating. (This is a benefit of listening to women irl). Nggas be taking these women’s rhetoric as gospel. Believing in their tough talk. Man…Catch that same women when she’s ovulating. Her body is screaming at her to not only have sex but procreate. I should make a thread :jbhmm:




Women LIE. The best advice that my OG gave me was that sentence right there. Once I accepted that and started watching woman's actions over paying attention to their words, everything fell into place for me.
 
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