I Can't Catch A Break... I'll be a grandfather at 33

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

His entire lineage was insulted. Called the whole family losers. Then yall keep speaking on him having a child at 14 like it wasn't 19 years ago AND comparing his daughter's situation to his. Also, while I think she is a young mother, an engaged/pregnant 19 year old is not quite the same cycle as being 14 and having a baby. OP probably more worried about being a young grandfather, but when you have a child at 14, you cant control that.

What age were you when you had your first child?

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Only on the coli will nikkas condone having a child at 13

Good luck to the OP though. I wish you well.

THIS. And then getting mad at the people who are against it. People are wild triggered.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

I can't believe what I'm seeing. The Locker Room is a mess.

Facts.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Why would I be working until I'm 90? I have two kids and one is an adult. Do they have a home to bring the baby home to? Yes, she does actually. A car? Yes, I purchased her a new one a couple of years ago. I post on a message board just like you... So what?

I make decent money, I have a townhouse that I rent out, a permanent residence in a great community, and her tuition is taken care of? Again, considering it all, I'm good.

The fukk is wrong with some of you?

All of that “opportunity” and she still became a teenage statistic

apparently she needed attention and emotional support that she wasn’t getting under your roof, she looked for outside of the home - you’re in here talking about what you accomplished but never once stated the goals or accomplishments that she wanted for herself; what her achievements are, her direction. Which is exactly why 13 yr olds shouldn’t be parents. The first 8 yrs of her life, you were a child “raising” a child. The next 10 yrs- you were building a life. Money and materialism doesn’t make up for virtue and inner development. Where did that leave her? Grandparents can’t take the place of parents - these are the same grandparents who had a 13 yr old son become a father and an underage teenage daughter have a child with you. Full circle. Really concerning how you’re blaming your daughter for what she was born into.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Why would I be working until I'm 90? I have two kids and one is an adult. Do they have a home to bring the baby home to? Yes, she does actually. A car? Yes, I purchased her a new one a couple of years ago. I post on a message board just like you... So what?

I make decent money, I have a townhouse that I rent out, a permanent residence in a great community, and her tuition is taken care of? Again, considering it all, I'm good.

The fukk is wrong with some of you?

Dude you keep talking about material items idgaf - the legit question is not what YOU have done but has anyone in your family asked what she NEEDED?? There is no way in hell that you were fully engaged in raising her when you were age 14 -20 years old.

and you say that your meeting the baby’s father parents in a few days. Is this the first time that you’re meeting this kid?? and his parents? - have you ever met with them before? Have you had a convo with the bf before she got pregnant?

 

[Apprentice]

Why would I be working until I'm 90? I have two kids and one is an adult. Do they have a home to bring the baby home to? Yes, she does actually. A car? Yes, I purchased her a new one a couple of years ago. I post on a message board just like you... So what?

I make decent money, I have a townhouse that I rent out, a permanent residence in a great community, and her tuition is taken care of? Again, considering it all, I'm good.

The fukk is wrong with some of you?

It’s the internet brozay u kno how it go they gon be over critical bout wat they kno bout your life

 

[SheWantTheD]

That ain't that uncommon. Back in middle school one of my nikkas had a kid that was like two years old already when I met him in 7th grade.

That's sexual abuse

 

[Estarossa]

Never read any type of shyt like this in my life...

Well, at least you’ve created a good support system for her. At the end of the day you can’t stop two consenting adults from fukking...

 

[SheWantTheD]

19/20 really isn't that bad of an age to have kids. My mom was 19 when she had me. Pops was 21. They divorced when I was like 2, but by the time they were mid 40's no more kids in the house and they could stack and do them. Now my mom is 60 with terminal cancer. Had she waited until my age (39) I'd be like 21 and so fukking lost. shyt I'm scared of being in my 50's with a teenage daughter, but thats life. Her having them early could be a blessing fam. You'll be able to help out more, play with the kids more. Help your daughter get where she has to go in life, and be able to communicate and be on the same page as her. In the end, you also get to spend more time watching each generation of you grow. shyt low-key if my daughter gets pregnant at 20 I'll be happy. 60 year old grandfather. Like I said earlier, I'm 39, my grandfather was 41 when I was born. Enjoy your clan. Puff your chest out and know you have generations of yourself roaming the earth.

Fam, but you said they divorced when you were 2.

So I'm guessing you didn't grow up in a household with both parents.

A lot of people start having children in their mid 20s. Plus I'm sure it would have been a lot better for your mom to go through terminal cancer with a husband, children and grandchildren around her.

A husband/wife's support can't be compared to any other. I just can't agree that having a child at 18/19 in today's world is a viable option. There's too much temptation, most people at that age are "living their best lives" and have very little responsibility.

And many relationships at the age of 18-20 don't last as people are still growing, finding out what they like and don't like in a partner. The average young adult isn't mentally nor emotionally prepared for raising children and marriage in 2021 in my opinion.

 

[GzUp]

Now all of a sudden we are expected to believe there’s this influx of 7th graders having babies. Everyone is supposed to know or known a pregnant 7th grade 12/13 yr old father. The things y’all say to fit in to a convo. 7th grade baby boom- goh . That would have made news headlines. So gullible.

7th grade - 12/13
8th grade- 13/14
9th- 14/15
10th- 15/16
11th—16/17
12th- 17/18

I only know one person in my life that had a baby in 7th grade, it’s not hard to believe that others have too.

Why does everything trigger u, u come off as mentally unstable.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

I only know one person in my life that had a baby in 7th grade, it’s not hard to believe that others have too.

Why does everything trigger u, u come off as mentally unstable.

As you evaluate me from your keyboard having never met me in life.

I’m triggered and you categorize me as “mentally unstable”
bc I state that teens should have more priorities other than having sex as you post up a comment about pregnant 12-13 yr olds. And OP is pondering why his daughter is a pregnant teenager after him being one. Yeah ok. My fault. Clearly the mental illness is in this thread otherwise he wouldn’t have created a thread about it. But my comments are triggering - dafuqqqq, I was a grown ass adult when I started having kids. Fukkin weirdo making excuses for 7th grade CHILDREN in sexual situations, but I’m the problem??. Stop trying to justify why you look at teens.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

That's sexual abuse

Exactly!!! You see it.
A child at that age (12-13) having sex is a clear sign Of sexual abuse. that’s trauma based. wtf are people making excuses about this for.

 

[85 East]

Fam, but you said they divorced when you were 2.

So I'm guessing you didn't grow up in a household with both parents.

A lot of people start having children in their mid 20s. Plus I'm sure it would have been a lot better for your mom to go through terminal cancer with a husband, children and grandchildren around her.

A husband/wife's support can't be compared to any other. I just can't agree that having a child at 18/19 in today's world is a viable option. There's too much temptation, most people at that age are "living their best lives" and have very little responsibility.

And many relationships at the age of 18-20 don't last as people are still growing, finding out what they like and don't like in a partner. The average young adult isn't mentally nor emotionally prepared for raising children and marriage in 2021 in my opinion.

I lived with my mom until I was 4 and a half. Then I moved in with my dad. My step-dad didn't like the fact that I was half black...My mom has been married 4 times and divorced 4 times. She has a "people" problem. As in she just doesn't get along with other people very well. We have never been relatively close. My dad told me straight up I'm what saved his live. All his friends totally went overboard with coke and liquor. He loved his coke, but he had something to keep him focused and on the right path. I have a step mom. So I grew up in a house with both parents. I just had to do the weekend visit shyt. To be honest now that I think of it, all my aunts and uncles who had kids did before 20 and all divorced. I'm the 9nky one who grew up with his dad though.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

The internet:


Teen coli parents: oh wow, that’s great!!!!!!! . #blessed #onelifetolive #shythappens #nothing ventured nothing gained #YOLO til your DOLO

 

[Alvin]

I thought 2020 was a b1tch...

So my daughter is pregnant and engaged at 19, what a start to 2021.

classic coli thread lmao!