I Can't Catch A Break... I'll be a grandfather at 33

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My son is tall for his age and a light bright with curly sandy brown hair. He going to be a problem, he already gets preferential treatment and praise about his looks everywhere we go. I hope he doesn't go out bad like me... I'm REALLY working on him, he's going to be hitting the books and occupied with sports.

I did the same with my daughter and she did better than me but it's still not ideal. I just atleast want her to finish college and we're going to work through this like my folks did with me. She did say that she would still finish school. She's a biology major and her dream is to work for the CDC, we will make certain that happens for her.
You got the right idea. Life ain’t over. Once y’all get over the initial shock, you move on and do what needs to be done.

Hopefully, her ole mane stays in her and the babies life, and he’s able to make something of himself. Ya baby girl and the baby gone be good. She gone finish school, and she’s still got you and her fam in her life for support. Y’all gone make it and be aight.
 

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nothing wrong with a 19 year old woman becoming a mom, especially one that has a ring on her finger. the problem is what status is the father? if he works full time then this might turn out ok.
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a ring on her finger., really?? Now you have two “engaged” -married
Teenagers with no income or viable job prospects raising each other, when they weren’t fully raised by their own parents at that age, raising a baby and all growing up together.
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This ring has magical superpowers that will automatically generate income, maturity, peace of mind or something??
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the fact the breh putting a ring on it at that age is a huge plus his head on the right, now all OP and co gotta do is open that crib in a sense that it's a place where he can feel that security, i.e. apart of the family.

You got the right idea. Life ain’t over. Once y’all get over the initial shock, you move on and do what needs to be done.

Hopefully, her ole mane stays in her and the babies life, and he’s able to make something of himself. Ya baby girl and the baby gone be good. She gone finish school, and she’s still got you and her fam in her life for support. Y’all gone make it and be aight.
 

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I was in middle school all the way back in the early 90s, and I do remember seeing the occasional pregnant classmate here and there. I also remember seeing lot of my classmates get pregnant throughout the high school years as well...but I don't think it was as normal as some are making it out to be in this thread - all of this free fukking as early teens, I mean. Even the girls I knew who were getting pregnant then, they were messing with dope boys or guys who were 18 and older...these was not our contemporaries knocking them up and, as such, this was obviously a problem.

The tape cannot be run back for you, OP, but with your new grandchild (congratulations to you on that), you have the opportunity to instill in in him or her the importance of waiting to have sex. When you consider the true purpose of sex, it is surprising we approach it so flippantly and, sometimes, the results even moreso.

I have a friend who is actually in your shoes as well. He told me he always taught his children that when a person chooses to do things out of order or out of time, s/he can expect 1 of three consequences - grace, pain or bondage. In the case of having unprotected sex outside of marriage or a committed relationship, one can either expect, if s/he's lucky, nothing to happen at all. However, there could be a painful result - such as contracting a venerable disease, or there could be bondage, such as causing/carrying an unwanted pregnancy - thus, shackling two people together for life, though they might not want to be. There can also be permanent bondage through contracting an incurable disease.

Consider, even more ironically, all this chaos can be wrought from engaging in something that lasts, on average, 15 minutes.

I don't put it in those terms to be condescending; rather, I put it in those terms so we can clearly see the possible consequence we opt to get for our action. For sex, we can get an illness or baby, or just ghosted, if we are lucky.

If your grandchild is a daughter, you can instill in her the importance of taking great care and caution when it comes to sex. I have seen degeneracy encouraged and applauded on this forum for the short time I've been here...countless rallies for brehs to put their dikks in dangerous places all in the pursuit of a nut. I could go on and on about why men need to more carefully plant their own seeds, lest they doom their own children to a fate of having a crazy (but onion-assed) mama and all the fukkery that potentially goes along with that. And, in real life, I do.

Here, though, I would say, as a woman, we never get to escape the consequence of 'successful' sex. In short, as a woman, there is no outrunning or ghosting a seed quickened in our womb. We will either live with the consequence of carrying a pregnancy to term and raising the child, carrying the child to term and giving it up for adoption, aborting the child and living with the aftermath of that, losing the child through miscarriage and bearing the feelings of that, or losing our own lives either during the pregnancy itself, during the delivery, or during the postpartum recovery. Getting pregnant is always dangerous for a lady - ALWAYS.

If your daughter should bear a daughter herself, let her know to never let a man inseminate her who would not show he is not just able but is willing to care for her and their child. Being pregnant leaves us vulnerable to so much. Actually, even if you have a grandson, teach him that a well - to not sow any seeds in a woman he doesn't truly care about.

I think this thread touched me because I remember how afraid I was of ever getting pregnant before I was ready. My mama stayed on me about leaving sex alone as a young teen because it had the power to change the course of your life. With my own 2 kids, I will constantly be on them about this as well and pray it works out for them as it did for me. A good friend of mine comes from a family of 3 daughters and a son, and they all graduated high school with honors, all attended and graduated college, all got married, and then all but one had children only in the confines of marriage (the last had no children at all). I still have never seen anything like it - that amount of consistent success. They are not perfect by a longshot, but they all managed to escape some of the things which often trip us up in life. When I asked what their parents did, my friend just told me their mother put the fear of God into them about disappointing her and making it clear to them constantly that having babies early on was not acceptable (i.e. the "don't come round here with no babies" talk). She did other things as well, but that part stuck out to me - whereas there seems to be this expectations that daughters will just naturally come home pregnant early, this was not the standard which had been set for them or their brother.

In any event, good luck to you. You have the youth still to keep up with your new grandchild and that can definitely be a great blessing to a family, from what I have seen at times.
 

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OP, you're probably gonna end up living to be a great great great grandpa.
 

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The word means "activity"

Your actions are the result of previous actions. And your actions cause future actions. There is a reflective quality. The subsequent actions mirror. Vice versa.

Almost inevitable that their actions will reflect your actions
 

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A new generation!!! :wub: Congrats!!!

let’s look at the positive since you can’t change what happened!

You will be able to see another generation and possibly another in your lifetime!!!!!
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:mjlol::dwillhuh:...:gucci::what:
a ring on her finger., really?? Now you have two “engaged” -married
Teenagers with no income or viable job prospects raising each other, when they weren’t fully raised by their own parents at that age, raising a baby and all growing up together.
:skip:
This ring has magical superpowers that will automatically generate income, maturity, peace of mind or something??
:skip:
Yes.
 

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19/20 really isn't that bad of an age to have kids. My mom was 19 when she had me. Pops was 21. They divorced when I was like 2, but by the time they were mid 40's no more kids in the house and they could stack and do them. Now my mom is 60 with terminal cancer. Had she waited until my age (39) I'd be like 21 and so fukking lost. shyt I'm scared of being in my 50's with a teenage daughter, but thats life. Her having them early could be a blessing fam. You'll be able to help out more, play with the kids more. Help your daughter get where she has to go in life, and be able to communicate and be on the same page as her. In the end, you also get to spend more time watching each generation of you grow. shyt low-key if my daughter gets pregnant at 20 I'll be happy. 60 year old grandfather. Like I said earlier, I'm 39, my grandfather was 41 when I was born. Enjoy your clan. Puff your chest out and know you have generations of yourself roaming the earth.
 
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