How many of you guys have given up on marriage?

[jjj123]

No marriage unless that hymen breaks other than that fukk no

 

[Mowgli]

, so a man who has been married for 20 years and his wife steps out, or all these grey divorces ala women in their 50s adn 60s filing for that last freedom is the mans fault?

Often times the man has stepped out first a lot earlier in the relationship and ends up catching that home stretch infidelity when he's diabetic with heart problems looking disgusting and finished.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

my eyes were opened again the other day when my brother in law at church preaching said he contemplated divorce before on numerous occasions, and he and my sister are two of the most humble, in love people I have ever known.



ill just feast off these divorcees and insecure women as i get older :aah:

Pretty much

I'm just saving money..going to 5 days resort at Dr in march

My married friends will be heated
Cause deep down they would die to switch places with me

Why? Cause I been there...

 

[King Poetic]

I can't even relate to married people when they discuss a lot of topics from taking care of the kids to certain movies or other activities.. I'm like a deer in the headlight...

Then I hear dudes complain especially from there 30s to 50s about only fukking once every 2 or 3 months and there wife just lies there..I'm like nah..

Then I had my one boss go through a divorce and lost everything and he was the one who caught his wife getting doggystyle by her co worker...

Much respect to u dudes who are married and enjoying it, but I rather be unmarried looking at the ocean by myself

 

[MikelArteta]

Pretty much

I'm just saving money..going to 5 days resort at Dr in march

My married friends will be heated
Cause deep down they would die to switch places with me

Why? Cause I been there...

going to hawaii in june for my bday
alone till i set up my tinder a few months before for some brehettes to show me around


if i was married with kids, prob couldnt afford to travel, or load up the minivan to long island or ish

 

[MikelArteta]

I can't even relate to married people when they discuss a lot of topics from taking care of the kids to certain movies or other activities.. I'm like a deer in the headlight...

Then I hear dudes complain especially from there 30s to 50s about only fukking once every 2 or 3 months and there wife just lies there..I'm like nah..

Then I had my one boss go through a divorce and lost everything and he was the one who caught his wife getting doggystyle by her co worker...

Much respect to u dudes who are married and enjoying it, but I rather be unmarried looking at the ocean by myself

the beauty of not being married is you can hop in a relationship or date if you feel like it, end a relationship if you feel like it, or just be single if you feel like it - with no ramifications. The choice is yours, when your married your stuck, good luck trying to even get a week away to refresh and ish.

And that's the scary thing even if your wife cheats on you the cardinal sin, it doesn't mean anything more than likely she will still get the kids and you'll still be paying so much in lawyer fees, divorce etc.

 

[Remote]

I haven't given up on marriage, but I'll admit that I'm like 80% out the door on it.
I just don't see the benefit of it.

Risk vs Reward is just insane.
Better to just be together.

You don't need the wedding or marriage to validate shyt.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

going to hawaii in june for my bday
alone till i set up my tinder a few months before for some brehettes to show me around


if i was married with kids, prob couldnt afford to travel, or load up the minivan to long island or ish

That's when tinder comes handy

That Hawaii trip will be dope..

I have like 3 trips set up this year..

One in march

2nd in july

3rd..In Oct




And PS going on trips with your s/o sucks
Unless its a new relationship

 

[King Poetic]

Marriage is for women to have double incomes.. stack there money while eating off yours and it's really sad when the woman make more than her husband and she still spending his money..

I knew this cop who was making $55,000 a year and his wife was making close to $90,000 they got divorce and she still wanted alimony payments...

fukking crazy

 

[MikelArteta]

I haven't given up on marriage, but I'll admit that I'm like 80% out the door on it.
I just don't see the benefit of it.

Risk vs Reward is just insane.
Better to just be together.

You don't need the wedding or marriage to validate shyt.

the thing is many women want that ring and the "security"

I wouldn't even live with a woman because then I'd still have to live with breaking a lease or common law etc., it's better when you can just go your seperate ways.

If I find out my girl is cheating on me well it sucks, yeah my heart is broken. But I can just delete her out of my life and never talk to her again and I'll get over it.

if I find out my wife is cheating it sucks, I can't throw her out because it's her place as well. I have to sit and eat dinner and see that cheating face day after day until I can find a new spot, the house is sold/lease broken. Then I have to go through the divorce process, pay lawyesr like 300 dollars a hour, go to court, hear accusations and slander about me, divide up assets and possessions.

And if their are kids? even worse.

 

[MikelArteta]

Marriage is for women to have double incomes.. stack there money while eating off yours and it's really sad when the woman make more than her husband and she still spending his money..

I knew this cop who was making $55,000 a year and his wife was making close to $90,000 they got divorce and she still wanted alimony payments...

fukking crazy

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?fid=2

get married brehs

 

[A1aaa]

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[MikelArteta]

Growing up my Mom left our family to run off with another man and deserted us. It caused my dad and siblings a lot of problems and took a while for our family to recover. After that I realized I never thought I would get married. I dated a lot of women but I just never thought I would want to marry anyone after what my mom put us through. To this day I never saw my mom again and she tried to call a couple of times but I will never see her again.

So I got to college and I met my now wife and we got married and had 2 kids right away. My wife after 21 years of marriage is still very beautiful. And being she is beautiful she gets approached a lot by other guys. I took this in stride and have always thought I was a very lucky guy. We have had a good marriage and got along very well. Our Sex life has been good and a lot of passion on both sides. Really thought I had hit the lottery. If we had issues we would talk and get them resolved. Looking objectively I have been a very good husband and she has been a good wife. Our two kids are now in college and we had come to a different phase of our lives.

I was out of town one night and could not get her on the phone. She would not answer and did not answer several texts. I was worried and I looked for where her IPhone was and it showed she was at a hotel 200 miles from our home. I was so stunned I did not tell her I knew where she was. The next day she said her phone had been on vibrate but that had never happened before. I had just got her the phone so she did not know I could track the phone. Two days later I flew home a day early and I went to do some laundry and she had some lingerie hanging there drying that I had never seen. So I did not do my laundry and when she saw me home she looked sick to her stomach. I checked an hour later and the lingerie was gone and she was her old self. I asked what she had been doing this week and she said she was home all week. Another red flag was she had shaved her downstairs bare. She had tried this before but did not like the feel or the itch. She said she would never do that again. I also prefer that there be a “little grass on the playground” so to speak. So it was clear to me that she did not shave it all off for herself since she complained last time she did it and she did not do it for me. At this point I was sick to my stomach and almost 100% sure she was cheating on me. I tried not to let on and she asked me what was wrong but I just said everything was fine.


I hired a P.I. and the next time I left she went to a Hotel again out of town. It turns out it was with her boss who owns the place where she works. He is very wealthy and she has been having an affair with him for who knows how long. The P.I. did show me video of them eating at a very nice restaurant that he recorded and also of them out walking together. It looks like two people dating holding hands and kissing having a great time. They slept in the same room so I now have all of the proof I need on what happened. When the P.I showed me what he had I did go to an Attorney and I have prepared for a divorce getting my ducks in order. I have not told my wife that I know about her affair. I have had to act the same and the past couple of weeks have been very hard. She knows something is wrong with me but I make excuses on not feeling well and needing to go to the doctor. It has bought me some time.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=552588

 

[MikelArteta]

Only downside I see to NOT being married is being old and alone in a nursing home on some bullshyt

granted, people with many kids end up there... but how to counteract the fact that you have no seed to pass on in children? that's the only big downside i see.

everyone dies alone, hell just hire a filipino live in nanny, or move to a carribean country and live out your last days.

I've volunteered at nursing homes before, many people were married and hav ekids and grandkids but they don't come and visit.

who cares about when your dead about some seeds?

worse comes to worse you can adopt, or do the michale jackson

 

[Remote]

the thing is many women want that ring and the "security"

I wouldn't even live with a woman because then I'd still have to live with breaking a lease or common law etc., it's better when you can just go your seperate ways.

If I find out my girl is cheating on me well it sucks, yeah my heart is broken. But I can just delete her out of my life and never talk to her again and I'll get over it.

if I find out my wife is cheating it sucks, I can't throw her out because it's her place as well. I have to sit and eat dinner and see that cheating face day after day until I can find a new spot, the house is sold/lease broken. Then I have to go through the divorce process, pay lawyesr like 300 dollars a hour, go to court, hear accusations and slander about me, divide up assets and possessions.

And if their are kids? even worse.

You're right.

Marriage benefits women more than men.
They have more to gain from the marriage, and more to gain from the divorce.

It's just the system, B.