IIVI
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That’s life unfortunately.
It’s on them to somehow learn the lessons, be a better person and hopefully if they ever have kids it’s after finding a smart partner.
It’s not magically going to start happening.
How dude we raise Black boys to be better men in an American system that wants ADOS males to be second class citizens?
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It’s on them to somehow learn the lessons, be a better person and hopefully if they ever have kids it’s after finding a smart partner.
It’s not magically going to start happening.
It's the right answer , let go of the stupid acronyms . Unfit single moms raise bad kids .
MoveForward
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They are irretrievable casualties, we can’t look back. Black people in the hood have everything given to them and we don’t foster the talent that we have in healthy middle class and up communities.
IIVI
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Can’t blame either gender, it’s on BOTH the men and women to step up. If you’re not of the right caliber, find someone who is then do what’s needed to be done: stay committed.
If you’re not the right caliber of parent, then maybe you need to think twice about wanting kids. You’re only going to make life harder for yourself, kill your reputation and walk around with some guilt.
shyt is a mess and the solution is the one people don’t want to hear. Some cats simply ain’t parenting material.
If you’re not the right caliber of parent, then maybe you need to think twice about wanting kids. You’re only going to make life harder for yourself, kill your reputation and walk around with some guilt.
shyt is a mess and the solution is the one people don’t want to hear. Some cats simply ain’t parenting material.
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I think we should practice self preservation first.
Voice of Reason
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Voice of Reason
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A dumb ass pan-Africanist sounding like a conservative cracker again.
The harsh reality is ADOS are a permanent underclass if we don't undo these systems.
That does not mean individual ADOS folks can't be successful.
My point exactly.
Wtf are you or "ADOS" gonna say that would encourage them to be better men when yall spout this doom and gloom bullshyt
You b*stards would sound like Mike Tyson with that little girl
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I don’t argue with niqqas on the Internet anymore
Montessori-like managerial skills.
Passing down skills and knowledge
Passing down HOW to learn. Don’t get mad at them for doing something wrong when you didn’t teach them how to do it right and make sure they practice it at home in your sight. When you teach them how to practice and problem solve you eliminate learned helplessness. They need the knowledge and how to
Community centered nuances that require active participation and generate a sense of belonging
Just like how we enroll them in sports programs.. if they don’t like sports enroll them in something else where they have peers and older and younger brother-like figures — this creates affirmation building mechanisms. Like how black people who grew up with black dentists and doctors have. It also keeps them busy, instills discipline, teaches them effort, competition and gives them a role, which gives them a trajectory. It also gives them a skill to leverage and a network and community — a compound exercise in socialization and combating anti-social behavior
Actually know who the fukk your kids are
Have normal expectations but high satisfaction thresholds.
Nurture an “effort over innate” mindset. Slight tiger parenting. — this combats learned helplessness
Also teach them their history. Make sure they know how to read. Them knowing how to read efficiently already puts them ahead of half the country
And know who the fukk your impregnating family values
Also you as a black man should be reading research papers regularly. If you read non fiction books do it for the research papers in the bibliography
Passing down skills and knowledge
Passing down HOW to learn. Don’t get mad at them for doing something wrong when you didn’t teach them how to do it right and make sure they practice it at home in your sight. When you teach them how to practice and problem solve you eliminate learned helplessness. They need the knowledge and how to
Community centered nuances that require active participation and generate a sense of belonging
Just like how we enroll them in sports programs.. if they don’t like sports enroll them in something else where they have peers and older and younger brother-like figures — this creates affirmation building mechanisms. Like how black people who grew up with black dentists and doctors have. It also keeps them busy, instills discipline, teaches them effort, competition and gives them a role, which gives them a trajectory. It also gives them a skill to leverage and a network and community — a compound exercise in socialization and combating anti-social behavior
Actually know who the fukk your kids are
Have normal expectations but high satisfaction thresholds.
Nurture an “effort over innate” mindset. Slight tiger parenting. — this combats learned helplessness
Also teach them their history. Make sure they know how to read. Them knowing how to read efficiently already puts them ahead of half the country
And know who the fukk your impregnating family values
Also you as a black man should be reading research papers regularly. If you read non fiction books do it for the research papers in the bibliography
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Playing for keeps.
Teach them their history. I've always felt like I won the lottery in life being born Black and a man.
One thing I will always thank my parents for is instilling ethnic pride in me, it really made a difference
It was little things, I can't remember the title but I'd have those African-American history books for kids, we'd watch old sitcoms from the 70s, pops would break down everything from blues to p-funk
I just naturally loved being AA; it made genuinely proud I was able to read and write knowing my great-great grandparents were legally barred from doing so
We've survived Africa and America, we'll continue to survive
One thing I will always thank my parents for is instilling ethnic pride in me, it really made a difference
It was little things, I can't remember the title but I'd have those African-American history books for kids, we'd watch old sitcoms from the 70s, pops would break down everything from blues to p-funk
I just naturally loved being AA; it made genuinely proud I was able to read and write knowing my great-great grandparents were legally barred from doing so
We've survived Africa and America, we'll continue to survive
Until a zeitgeist-tier discussion is had on our history and how it doesn't match the current gender-driven expectations, "choose a better woman" isn't the real answer because that woman isn't going to exist based on her contemporary socialization.
Or, at best, you're resigning yourself to an agreement to practice a form of eugenics to procreate for the sake of it and carry on a sexless union if that woman does exist.
Men ain't doing that nor should they have to.
Or, at best, you're resigning yourself to an agreement to practice a form of eugenics to procreate for the sake of it and carry on a sexless union if that woman does exist.
Men ain't doing that nor should they have to.