How Do You Overcome Your Fears?

[Chesirecatdaddy]

I always take calculated risks and only go for an opportunity when I believe I'm capable of succeeding 100%. Failing at something really hurts me to my core; it shatters my soul. I absolutely hate failure. Every time I've failed at something, I've cried like a baby, I've been really upset. But I'm slowly learning that failing is sometimes the stepping stone to success. Yet, I still have fears about going after something that I'm unsure I can obtain. This is greatly limiting my capabilities.

My manager is looking to fill a new position & has personally filled me in on it, and has even printed out the application form for me to fill out. The new salary could literally change my life. I'd be earning x3 what I'm earning right now... BUT, I'm deeply scared. The position comes with so many responsibilities and I like to be lazy. I don't think I'm ready yet. Plus this position is full-time & I enjoy working part-time and sleeping in the afternoons. I've told another colleague about the job position & even though she's less qualified than me, she's applying for it as we speak. I want to apply for it too but I only like to do things when I'm 100% ready. However, this is a great opportunity, and I don't want to miss out on it due to fear.

How do I overcome this? How do I grow some balls? Metaphorically speaking, of course.

You know deep down inside the answer to your own question. The best way to face your fear is head on... deep down inside you know you need to... and you should. In life we're never always 100% ready...comfort is an illusion for the weak.

 

[Bender Rodriguez]

the only way you get over it is by actually doing it, cant go through life thinking what if

 

[Fillerguy]

I've listened to countless "theres nothing to fear" or "you only live once" type of advice and they're all meaningless to non risk takers. These type of people The best advice I can give is:

- force yourself into uncomfortable situations; for example I needed a well paying summer job during college and found one that required going door to door in rich areas. I was kind of shy person and lacked tact. Dude invited me over for an interview (i said yes) knowing damn well this was out my comfort zone. To make it worse on myself the site was out of my way so I had to keep working there in order justify my weekly traveling expenses which i already couldnt afford. I didnt stay there long but now im a people person
- put on a mask, mimic the person you most admire aka fake it til you make it. I got through the above mimicking Tom Cruise, mostly from Jerry Maguire and im Black