How Can Woman Jump From Man To Man?

[iBrowse]

You nikkas need Iyanla

@Spotlessmind this went over my head what is lyanla?

 

[SheWantTheD]

Because people play so many games these days, most people are hesitant to fully commit. I see people going into relationships expecting failure.

As a woman, most have a good defense roster available just in case the dude isn't true. It helps to move on easily knowing u have somebody else to talk to and interact with.

U can really like someone but still be cautious until u get to know them while ur dating. In this age of fukkery, it makes sense to do this.

I'd have to disagree in that it makes sense to do this. You are doing the exact same thing you don't want done to you and which led you to even start doing what you are currently doing. lol that make sense? Those guys you have as emergency situations, "just in case" plan b, etc aren't getting all of you. If they find out that they are second, third, fourth choice they will get hurt and might even carry on the cycle of using people so you don't end up lonely.

Thing is people need to improve upon their self-esteem and self-confidence to where they can be alone. Does dating multiple people ever really end well?

 

[SheWantTheD]

Because being alone is kind of trash. I mean when you're used to it that's one thing, but if you're not it sucks. Being "boo'd" up is a legit good feeling. Not to mention winter is coming.

I agree but how can one do it. Unless I block off my emotions and pretend like I'm into the person I can't just have feelings for one person one day, and then have feelings for another person the next day. Monkey branching from relationship to relationship without any breaks must take a huge toll on one's emotional health.

 

[MoonGoddess]

Some women just do not like being alone. I had a friend like this when ever she was getting ready to break up with a guy she already had her back up on deck. She grew up the spoiled niece of like 5 uncles cause both her parents died so I'm sure that had something to do with it.

 

[SheWantTheD]

If a woman is single it's said that there must be something wrong with her because "good women are snatched up early"

If a woman jumps from man to man, it's because she doesn't know how to be single.


She can't be single, but she also can't not be single.

Can't win with some guys.

Why can't women just live their lives without every move being questioned and examined....

Like I said before, some families and communities really look down on single and childless people. And don't be a good looking woman who has a nicely shaped body and maintain her weight or a guy who isn't considered unattractive by woman and in shape...people gonna think something is wrong with you if you aren't snatched up. With that mentality, people tend to want to have a boo so they wont get looked down on, questioned, suspected, or thought of in any negative manner.

And some folks just used to being in a relationship and have to have somebody in their lives. Some folks don't wanna go to a function all the time single and look stupid with nobody.

Come on, people are going to look at a woman sideways if they see her with a different man every so often. They are definitely going to look at her worse than if she took breaks in between relationships. That's just a cop out and a terrible one at that. The only time people look at single women sideways is if they are single late in the game, or single for long periods of time.

But you are single because you are working on yourself, making your goals and dreams a reality.. your family and close friends will know why. Who cares what strangers think?

 

[SheWantTheD]

Some women just do not like being alone. I had a friend like this when ever she was getting ready to break up with a guy she already had her back up on deck. She grew up the spoiled niece of like 5 uncles cause both her parents died so I'm sure that had something to do with it.

I know why people do it, but I'm asking how. How can they be ready to willingly give themselves to someone else so quickly after just ending something?

 

[Raava]

@Spotlessmind this went over my head what is lyanla?

Iyanla, Fix my life

 

[MoonGoddess]

I know why people do it, but I'm asking how. How can they be ready to willingly give themselves to someone else so quickly after just ending something?

I don't know

 

[SheWantTheD]

*Looks at username*

Ask questions you already know the answer to brehs

I'm not asking the "why", I'm asking the "how".

 

[SheWantTheD]

Dumb question.

Think about what courtship entails from the perspective of a woman.

Your old man is gone.
Here's a new man to:

1. Gas your head up (attention)
2. Take you out to dinner (food)
3. Shower you with love, adoration, compliments, time, money, gifts, vacations, new people, new experiences, new dikk.

Or you could just stay home, watch reruns, and see what all your friends are doing on Snapchat.
No woman alive is gonna go for that.

Sure but how do you know those things are happening? Why do you think women jump from man to man? Because their relationships fail time and time again. And without taking any breaks, they can't work on themselves, heal from past relationships, learn from past relationships, etc so they choose better partners. When you don't take breaks from relationships, you choose the same man over and over again.

It's unfair to the other individual. They are giving you their all, while you are just out of another relationship and still have feelings for your ex. Many of these women also still keep in contact with their ex, sleep with their ex, etc because that emotional attachment is still there.

 

[SheWantTheD]

this is one of the biggest turn offs for me if I find out a woman is still in a relationship while hitting on me or has a history of jumping from relationship to relationship, I immediately give her the as a matter of fact, if her last relationship hasn't ended at least half a year ago, I'm not interested

Real talk if I find out it's automatic bushes. It's extremely disrespectful and she will do the same to you. The fact that she monkey branches from relationship to relationship means she isn't even emotionally available. She still has an emotional attachment to her ex and best believe she might still be in contact with him or having sex with him.

 

[Easy-E]

As a woman, most have a good defense roster available just in case the dude isn't true. It helps to move on easily knowing u have

Why i dont wanna get married... Ppl need warranties for relationships...

 

[Luck]

To be honest, this isn't anything you can put the fault on woman for doing since there's always simps who will be cool being blown off, played to the side and sittin in the cut until she leaves her current situation and they get their chance.

Men have damn near given up all power in this shyt by lacking self control and restraint. This applies to dating across the board and this is why shyt is so fukked up now.

I was readin some shyt where a broad was asking about why is it that after she told this guy she was dating other men at the same time as him, he started tryin to make more dates with her in an attempt I guess to occupy her time so nobody else could have her shyt like this is why the game is so fukked up now

 

[iBrowse]

Iyanla, Fix my life

Oh that's her name .

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Sure but how do you know those things are happening? Why do you think women jump from man to man? Because their relationships fail time and time again. And without taking any breaks, they can't work on themselves, heal from past relationships, learn from past relationships, etc so they choose better partners. When you don't take breaks from relationships, you choose the same man over and over again.

Of course their relationships keep failing. Everyone's relationships "keep failing" until they get married. What kinda shyt is that?

It's not even that deep, breh. A woman doesn't have to be "insecure" or "broken" or "emotionally scarred" to prefer the company of someone new (who is willing to court them) over being alone and depressed over the end of a relationship.