How can folk believe its okay to hit kids to correct behavior but not grown women?

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i got beat with extension cords, belts, switches, paddles with holes in them.. and so will my offspring when they get out of pocket :birdman:

That's unfortunate :manny:


Beating your kids won't make them any better or worse kids. In fact it will create resentment against you as a father in many cases. I feel that it's just lazy parenting to hit your kids.

My mom beat me all the time but I never remembered any of the beatings. It didn't curb any of my bad behavior. The only thing that was effective in instilling values in me vis-a-vis my mother was her adult criticism of my life trajectory, she was honest in telling me that whatever I was doing was leading me to become a loser, and that stuck with me.

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That's unfortunate :manny:


Beating your kids won't make them any better or worse kids. In fact it will create resentment against you as a father in many cases. I feel that it's just lazy parenting to hit your kids.

:ehh: i agree with the resentment but it did set me straight.

My mom beat me all the time but I never remembered any of the beatings. It didn't curb any of my bad behavior. The only thing that was effective in instilling values in me vis-a-vis my mother was her adult criticism of my life trajectory, she was honest in telling me that whatever I was doing was leading me to become a loser, and that stuck with me.

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that's cus it was ya moms beating you. i don't know ya upbringing, but with me -- pops was the one to tear that ass up with a belt or something, while moms was there to nurture me after.

i get what you're saying though, i just disagree. im not saying take your day out on your kid, but discipline is always needed. i've seen what asian dads do to their kids, and i see how well they strive for success and the approval of their parents.

fukk i look like, trying cac parenting on some "you're in time out now, mister"
 
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