Have a kid but still want to **** other chicks

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

that's why the child support system is fukked up now. dude is CLEARLY being a good father to the child. what is the need for child support? chicks use child support as punishment, and that is bullshyt. child support is for dead beat dads who run from their responsibilities. not for dads who decide that they don't want to be with the mother anymore.

Ayeeeeee, I'm 7 months pregnant. My hormones took over and typed out that message bruh......

When I read his comment about her stomach/appearance after she put her life on the line to bring his child into the world; IMO he's a selfish b*stard and doesn't understand what she had to endure. Might as well let him feel some form of pain and get raped financially

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

I'm a woman. Sexual desires, and being a father don't correlate. Wanting to keep your family does correlate with your sexual desires. You can still be a good father, but sleep with numerous women.

So let's say, was a good spouse to you, good father to the kids and have several side pieces, all clean, nothing sloppy - such would be ok with you?

 

[Uncle Trill]

Why do people even bother trying to commit these days, no one can be faithful in this day and age

 

[john goodman]

Whatever you do... Don't turn the p*ssy thinking you are doing your kid a favor

You'll just end up resenting your child deep down... It may strain the relationship

 

[dr. pill biden]

If she's your baby mother, and ya'll are together, why haven't you married her?

If you don't want her to marry her, why are ya'll "together"?

Problem solved

 

[HoLLaBaCK]

OP be honest with yourself and decide what your feeling, is it her weight or is it your desire for other women or is it u just don't wanna be with her anymore. Once you decide what it is than be honest with her, if its her weight then help her out breh...start jogging with her or just eating better. If its the desire for other women that will always be there if it ain't the chick you speak of it will be another chick, you have to decide if chasing skirts is worth losing what you got. If its you just don't wanna be with her anymore than bite the bullet and do what you gotta do.

Last thing I would suggest is cheating! Cheating is all good when its just u & her I don't condone cheating when a child is involved ESPECIALLY when you seem to want to be in the child's life. If u decide to break up with your chick shyt COULD get ugly...if you get caught cheating they WILL get ugly.

I understand its tough bc u love your child, u can still be a good father without being with the mother. I will say though this woman will be in your life for the rest of your life in some form or fashion, be mindful of her feelings and be respectful bc if u play your cards wrong breh she could just damn well make your life miserable. Good luck breh.

 

[innocentdevil]

So let's say, was a good spouse to you, good father to the kids and have several side pieces, all clean, nothing sloppy - such would be ok with you?

You're not understanding what I'm saying. He doesn't need to be with the mother of his child to be a good father, but if he still wants his family intact then he shouldn't act upon his sexual desires. Having desires to sleep with another person is natural, but what matters is his reaction to it.

edit: Also he wouldn't be a good spouse to me if he had side pieces, but that wouldn't take away from him being a good father.

 

[twan83]

You're not understanding what I'm saying. He doesn't need to be with the mother of his child to be a good father, but if he still wants his family intact then he shouldn't act upon his sexual desires. Having desires to sleep with another person is natural, but what matters is his reaction to it.

edit: Also he wouldn't be a good spouse to me if he had side pieces, but that wouldn't take away from him being a good father.

I feel what your saying but if his sexual desires are that strong it won't work and he shouldn't even bother he will end up cheating and that's not fair to the kid or the mother.

That's y i can't stress enough to dudes have fun do you till you feel satisified enough to where it won't be a issue. Granted he got a kid now but he still can be a good father just don't be bringing them females around his kids and keep his issues to himself and not tell his baby momma at all. YOU NEVER STAY WITH SOMEBODY JUST CUZ U GOT A KID IT WONT WORK

 

[innocentdevil]

I feel what your saying but if his sexual desires are that strong it won't work and he shouldn't even bother he will end up cheating and that's not fair to the kid or the mother.

I realized that already. I was just making my point clear for a person that quoted me.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Why don't you just break up with your BM. Cheating on her is just gonna make her hate you and you don't want that. No matter what you choose to do she's gonna be upset about it but at least you won't be a cheater.

 

[PartyHeart]

I hope people are being sarcastic in here. You being a good father or not has a ton to do with the way you treat the mother of your child. If you want to fukk other people, break up with her. Thats unfortunate that y'all cant make it work but at least that's real. To stay with her and go around behind her back fukking anything you can shows no respect to her or the "family" you'll be pretending to have when you're together (which includes your child)

@ the idea that a child is going to be cool with you sleeping around on their mother just because you were there and active in their lives. They'll resent the shyt out of you.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I hope people are being sarcastic in here. You being a good father or not has a ton to do with the way you treat the mother of your child. If you want to fukk other people, break up with her, thats unfortunate that y'all cat make it work but at least that's real. To stay with her and go around behind her back fukking anything you can shows no respect to her or the "family" you'll be pretending to have.

@ the idea that a child is going to be cool with you sleeping around on their mother just because you were there and active in their lives. They'll resent the shyt out of you.

This is true. I have a love/hate relationship with my dad because of the way he treated my mom and the way he treats my step mom. He's a good dad but staying up with your mom/step mom while she's crying over the shyt he does kinda makes you hate him.

 

[blackzeus]

I feel what your saying but if his sexual desires are that strong it won't work and he shouldn't even bother he will end up cheating and that's not fair to the kid or the mother.

That's y i can't stress enough to dudes have fun do you till you feel satisified enough to where it won't be a issue. Granted he got a kid now but he still can be a good father just don't be bringing them females around his kids and keep his issues to himself and not tell his baby momma at all. YOU NEVER STAY WITH SOMEBODY JUST CUZ U GOT A KID IT WONT WORK

Just to correlate what a few people said that I think are good ideas:

1) OG move like one poster said is to control your side piece. She needs to know she is just your side piece before you get involved, she needs to know that your BM and kid are your first priority

2) You could be open with your BM. Tell her you were feelin' her when you first met her, but she looks a lot different now. You don't want to cheat on her, so if she could get back on her fitness routine, you wouldn't feel temptation as much. You could maybe "accidentally" slip in some sidepiece talk to see if she's down for an open relationship that doesn't interfere with the household.

3) You just break up with her

I definitely think after a woman has a child, she is in her most fragile state physically, so that's when she's hoping the most that you as her man will still make her feel sexy and wanted, so this whole sidepiece thing is coming at a bad time, but hey man, gotta do whatchu gotta do sometimes

 

[MikelArteta]

you have one life to live, be a man and leave your girl if you don't want to be with her, who gives a damn what anyone says, nothing worse than wasting your life being a "good guy" when your heart is elsewhere

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

You're not understanding what I'm saying. He doesn't need to be with the mother of his child to be a good father, but if he still wants his family intact then he shouldn't act upon his sexual desires. Having desires to sleep with another person is natural, but what matters is his reaction to it.

edit: Also he wouldn't be a good spouse to me if he had side pieces, but that wouldn't take away from him being a good father.

what about if you knew or were introduced to the side pieces?