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They want the big wedding day and cute kids but most of them are no longer wanting actual husbands anymore. The husband pretty much serves as a vehicle to provide for the kids. They aren’t actually infested in doing the ‘work’ of marriage anymore. If they can get a kid anf some form of check to secure themselves (child support, alimony whatever). They don’t care after that. A child and some form of long term income. Without the ‘work’ of having a man to take care of.
This has been my personal observation.