A man is "supposed to be" the foundation of his home. He is "supposed to" adhere to the law and principles that God has provided in order to effectively lead his household.
A woman is supposed to be the help for the foundation. Provide insight into what she feels and sees to give the man more information to make more informed decisions. She is "supposed to" submit to his leadership if he is following the guide that God left behind. So she has to read and know the Word as well.
Just as she is "supposed to" submit, her husband has to love her as Christ loved the church, meaning it is understood that he will die for her. So if he has chosen to lay down his life for his wife before she has done anything means that he will lead her with understanding and compassion, but lead her nonetheless.