Gen Z woman goes viral floored by 35-year-old man’s text after first date

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Diyhai said:
what should the text have been?
reading that much into one text is dumb imo
If he doesnt text you for a week you know what it is :mjlol:
but he could easily text her the next day or weekend, asking her out again
worst than a bytch thats wondering why you not answering her text and you living life
taking a shower or sleep
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To be honest, the smoothest thing would have been to not send a text. Wait for her to text you and match her energy. If you don't hear from her after a few days, text her something about setting up a date/meetup.

It's always best to let the girl come to you on her own time within her own vibe. Then you just affirm her vibe by matching it and she will feel like things are going good. She will want things to go further.when i say matching her vibe, i mean if her level of energy is at a 9 you give her 7 or 8. It may sound nerdy but honestly, it becomes second nature after a while
 
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I honestly completely understand why she would be overthinking that shyt. im surprised most of yall dont.

even while growing up the use of punctuation and capitalization in texts was always seen as corny nikka shyt. way too stiffy and professional.







i always got clowned for it so i stopped :mjcry:
 
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African Peasant said:
How old is the weirdo in the OP.
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Of course there are silly women in every age demographic#AWomansNature. But divesting is all about increasing your odds to find happiness right:mjpls:?


So no reason fo young men to limit themselves to young genz women who are far more likely to be insane. Seeing they are further removed from the era of Claire Huxtables and certainly Correttas:respect:
 
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Turbulent said:
To be honest, the smoothest thing would have been to not send a text. Wait for her to text you and match her energy. If you don't hear from her after a few days, text her something about setting up a date/meetup.

It's always best to let the girl come to you on her own time within her own vibe. Then you just affirm her vibe by matching it and she will feel like things are going good. She will want things to go further.when i say matching her vibe, i mean if her level of energy is at a 9 you give her 7 or 8. It may sound nerdy but honestly, it becomes second nature after a while
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playing games and not expecting her to do the same
what if she has the same strategy and is waiting for you to text first?
now that it is been a few days, does she think you are not interested?
its wild adults really think like this
I don't play games and would bush anyone who does
it would only get worse with a serious relationship
 
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Still Benefited said:
Of course there are silly women in every age demographic#AWomansNature. But divesting is all about increasing your odds to find happiness right:mjpls:?


So no reason fo young men to limit themselves to young genz women who are far more likely to be insane. Seeing they are further removed from the era of Claire Huxtables and certainly Correttas:respect:
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Don't limit yourself of course. But don't buy the mature women nonsense either.

Women near 30/30 are as dumb as the younger women in their 20's. They were 25 in 2020, not in 1980. They ain't better. They just older with a job.
 
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Diyhai said:
playing games and not expecting her to do the same
what if she has the same strategy and is waiting for you to text first?
now that it is been a few days, does she think you are not interested?
its wild adults really think like this
I don't play games and would bush anyone who does
it would only get worse with a serious relationship
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I said in my post if it's been a few days and she hasn't called or texted, you text her and make a date.
 
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Arris said:
modern dating is inherently emotionally exhaustive, that's why

you just can't do that with every connection you make. It's a rare individual who can like you:manny:

I agree with your stance but the more experience and even lack of experience people get as they grow older they do things to shield or protect their feelings. too many ghostings, too many honest rejections, too many slow fadeaways, too many breakups, etc... etc... people naturally develop calluses
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this seemed like a really genuine thing to say. appreciate that man. I never think of it as being rare, but yeah, you are probably right about that.

I do find aspects really exhuasting, texting being the most but still do it in the way that feels authentic to me.

I meet more women than I can even handle, but all that does still eat at me, I guess it's the lack of authenticity in their interactions and people's intense defense mechanisms.
 
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Diyhai said:
I read that, but you don’t think the extended time to respond won’t cause her to question?
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If she sends a message i think you should reply in a timely manner so as far as responding I'm not saying you should wait a few days. In this example however, it's not a "response" since she didn't send anything. What I'm saying is that the guy should give her the space to process her feelings (a few days) and maybe once she's ready she will initiate a convo (at which point you match her vibe so she feels like you are at a similar place as her emotionally, and at the same time you set up the next date). Also, logically if person A invites person B on a date, it makes sense for person B to reach out first to say thank you, i had a great time, etc.

If she does not initiate a convo and a few days have passed (i don't want to give a specific number of days cause it's not set in stone) then you initiate the convo and set up the date. It doesn't matter if it causes her to question because 1. You have no control over her thoughts so why worry about it and 2. She would be a hypocrite to blame you for not reaching out sooner because she did not reach out at all to begin with.

This is generally how i see things and how i do. I'm no supreme authority so people can do what they want. What I'll say is that in my experience, when the date went well they will reach out soon after even if it's just to send you a meme or whatever.

My original point was that if he smashed, telling a girl the next day "had fun last night, have a great day" without setting up the next date is the equivalent of telling her "the sex was great. Peace". It's cold. Unless he didn't want to see her again but even then, he should have just not texted anything. And if he did want to see her again but wasn't ready yet/busy, he should have waited until he was ready and then texted her. Whichever way you slice it, it's not a good text but i don't think it deserves a social media post. But i do empathize with her slightly...
 
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