Fellas, you ever sleep with a close female friend of yours?

[Black Magisterialness]

I have 3 times....2 times it became a relationship and once it was what it was...


i still talk to the 3rd one we cool but she moved so i guess it isnt really a situation to be awkward....i don't see how people can't just agree to have sex and leave it at that.

 

[ThumpDaddy]

I have had sex with 2 of my female friends and we are still cool to this day. Both of them are married with children now but we still call each other from time to time and we still cool. They come to me with their problems and such and I try to help out. Like one was talking about leaving FB because some of her old fukk buddies been trying to get at her and she wasn't getting the attention she wanted from home. I mean, I feel it can be done.

 

[Ric Shaw]

yea, it doesnt work out well

in the end someone catches feelings

(i did)



she was a dimepiece tho, seriously top 5 ive ever hit

That's what happened with me. I got caught up in how fine she was. I was feeling some type of way when she talked to guys right in front of me while im sitting on the couch with her.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I say go ahead and hit it. Best case scenario=y'all become freinds with benefits.
Worst case= not freinds anymore. I say what good is a female freind if you can't hit it anyway

there are a few problems and other reasons why i wouldn't. first of all, she has a boyfriend and the guy is already highly suspicious of our relationship (and i can tell every time i meet the guy too, and she's mentioned it to me as well). honestly, i don't even see why they're together, every time i see them, it seems like he's not having a good time and he doesn't want to be around her. as for her, she seems like she's uninterested in him when they're out. secondly, she reminds me too much of my first girlfriend. and that's not in the good sense. i feel like if i did get with her, it'd be like i was entering back into my old relationship from a certain point. and that point would be where things between me and my girlfriend were fading and i was becoming uninterested in the relationship or the redundancy of it.

plus, i've already slept with one of her friends, so i can see that being an issue in the future because it was already one when it happened. you could sense the jealous undertone the whole time i was dealing with her friend. so, to prevent another can of worms from opening, i just try to limit my interactions with her to curb the chances of something happening. i don't need that drama in my life considering the fact i'm trying to focus very hard on my music right now...

 

[RandomRN86]

It's actually easier the other way around...as a female that decides to mess around with her male friend when shes clear about what the situation is. But yea...the friendship will eventually end. Her new dude (when he figs) the truth, will end that.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

I don't think it's the food. I think it's the fact that she wanted to hang out with him afterwards and he played her to the left like a jump

Listen to this man.

She expects the baseline of yalls relationship to be that of friends, but you treated her like a jumpoff as soon as you smashed.

You probably did that because you didn't want to confuse things and yall start acting like a couple, but you went too far with it. Now she all
Girls don't like to be treated like hoes, especially by someone they genuinely care about.


Now have a sit down with her, make up with her, and dont throw this FWB for life opportunity in the bushes.

 

[MewTwo]

I don't get how you guys can fukk a girl (especially a close friend) and not give a shyt about her afterward. It just seems that alot of you guys treat females like furniture/sex objects and that your 'friendship' was just a ruse to get them in bed. No wonder alot of women have their guard up to protect themselves from guys like you.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Do you have any strictly platonic male friends, and if so what do you gain from their frendship.


And I mean real freinds, not acquaintances.

Yeah, one of my best friends is a male (yes, he's straight). I don't "gain" anything from his friendship, he's cool and we get along.

 

[Peruvian Connect]

I don't get how you guys can fukk a girl (especially a close friend) and not give a shyt about her afterward. It just seems that alot of you guys treat females like furniture/sex objects and that your 'friendship' was just a ruse to get them in bed. No wonder alot of women have their guard up to protect themselves from guys like you.

Girls do that shyt too. You be friends yall fukk or whatever, then she like we should try it, and u be like cool. Then next thing she fukking soem other dude. I means its whatever but at the same time, they can't be getting all mad when you do it back.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Yeah, one of my best friends is a male (yes, he's straight). I don't "gain" anything from his friendship, he's cool and we get along.

Ok fair enough. If your attractive and he's hetero I can't se why he would want to just be your freind. Maybe I'm just different

And when i said gain. I didn't mean it in a bad way like you were using him. I ment things like companionship, laughs, things in common, emotional support things like that. Do you guys share those type of things?

 

[61 Corpses]

Yeah I did this on four different occasions with four different female friends when i was younger. Sometimes when yall are just chillin and drinking, shyt gets out of hand

To make a story short, 3 of those chicks it messed the friendship up because they got too emotional and wanted a relationship out of it. The 4th chick, we both wanted more...but she moved to Jersey for grad school. She still hits me up on facebook, but I'm still not over her

 

[Ashley Banks]

Ok fair enough. If your attractive and he's hetero I can't se why he would want to just be your freind. Maybe I'm just different

And when i said gain. I didn't mean it in a bad way like you were using him. I ment things like companionship, laughs, things in common, emotional support things like that. Do you guys share those type of things?

We aren't attracted to each other, so I guess that's why it works out so well.

@ the bold; We do share those things, it's like a regular friendship. Sometimes he doesn't want to be around a bunch of dudes and sometimes I don't want to be around females.

 

[wutang512]

I don't get how you guys can fukk a girl (especially a close friend) and not give a shyt about her afterward. It just seems that alot of you guys treat females like furniture/sex objects and that your 'friendship' was just a ruse to get them in bed. No wonder alot of women have their guard up to protect themselves from guys like you.

Says the nikka the actively goes out and pays for "High Quality women"

Your the last person that should even be commenting on how other men treat women when you giving them money to throw that ass back.

 

[patscorpio]

yup back in 2002..she was my friend from hs...and our colleges were only 15-20 mins away so after one visit it got a little deeper....slight awkwardness afterwards...after a couple more encounters it was all gravy....there was an understanding...if one of us got into a relationship it was all platonic; if we were both single then it was back to being lovers and whatnot...went on and off for 7 years..now that is a long time to be going on and off...there were sparks here and there that it could be something more mostly from her but we are too different personality wise for a relationship so it never went to that level....now she's married and ive been in a relationship for 3 years..good times though

 

[MeachTheMonster]

We aren't attracted to each other, so I guess that's why it works out so well.

@ the bold; We do share those things, it's like a regular friendship. Sometimes he doesn't want to be around a bunch of dudes and sometimes I don't want to be around females.

I don't see how you could share all these things and not be somewhat attracted to each other. And you better make sure he feels the same as you, cause he could be waiting to get his feelings hurt.