Does anyone actually WANT to be married and have children?

[Mac]

Im already married ( 2 yrs this year) Been together for 7 years (high school sweeties) Got a 1 yr old son together. its not bad. Im a comfy housewife doing this all day ( as well as whatever he likes). So Im good.

 

[Urbanmiracle]

I do. fukk it. Gotta be the right female though.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Getting wifed up and having a couple kids.

 

[Black]

Im already married ( 2 yrs this year) Been together for 7 years (high school sweeties) Got a 1 yr old son together. its not bad. Im a comfy housewife doing this all day ( as well as whatever he likes). So Im good.

what part of florida?

 

[YBE]

I want a son one day. I'd lace the youngin with game

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All that marriage stuff though

 

[winb83]

As a society we aren't built for marriage anymore just like we aren't built to work for the same company for 30+ years and retire from it. In my parents age there wasn't cell phones and text messages and Facebook / Twitter and all these ways to connect to people. It's too easy to cheat now. People have too much access to each other. At the first rough patch there's too many other people waiting in the wings.

Do you want to eat the same meal every day and every meal for the rest of your life? At some point either you or the person you're married to might get bored with that meal and want something different. in this connected world its very easy to sneak in a different meal and that could ultimatly undermine and destroy a marriage. Those who want marriage and a family are chasing an ideal, a fantasy. Could it become reality? Yes but the truth is there's not much you can do to make it real. Your fantasy ultimately hinges on the whims of another human being you can't control.

I know guys who married high school sweethearts and had been together for over 25 years, most of my life and it still ended in divorce.

If the marriage fails and the family becomes broken the dream can quickly turn into a nightmare. Monthly payments for close to 20 years maybe more if alimony is involved possible fighting. you'll be trapped with your failure for decades if not for the rest of your life with no way of undoing it.

Marriage and a family are risk not worth the reward IMO.

 

[-G$-]

yes

and yes

 

[MikelArteta]

As a society we aren't built for marriage anymore just like we aren't built to work for the same company for 30+ years and retire from it. In my parents age there wasn't cell phones and text messages and Facebook / Twitter and all these ways to connect to people. It's too easy to cheat now. People have too much access to each other. At the first rough patch there's too many other people waiting in the wings.

Do you want to eat the same meal every day and every meal for the rest of your life? At some point either you or the person you're married to might get bored with that meal and want something different. in this connected world its very easy to sneak in a different meal and that could ultimatly undermine and destroy a marriage. Those who want marriage and a family are chasing an ideal, a fantasy. Could it become reality? Yes but the truth is there's not much you can do to make it real. Your fantasy ultimately hinges on the whims of another human being you can't control.

I know guys who married high school sweethearts and had been together for over 25 years, most of my life and it still ended in divorce.

If the marriage fails and the family becomes broken the dream can quickly turn into a nightmare. Monthly payments for close to 20 years maybe more if alimony is involved possible fighting. you'll be trapped with your failure for decades if not for the rest of your life with no way of undoing it.

Marriage and a family are risk not worth the reward IMO.

Ps there is no reward, marriage is for women and children, not for men.

It provides women with security and stability, and the kids being raises in a two parent home, less chance of being raised in poverty.

For men nothing.

 

[Nintendough]

I still consider it but I don't want take a loss. College showed me a lot of things that makes me not want to anymore.

 

[MikelArteta]

I would like to but I don't want take a loss. College showed me a lot of things that makes me not want to anymore.

Like?

 

[Mac]

what part of florida?

Jacksonville

 

[Nintendough]

Like?

I don't have unrealistic expectations but I still have standards. Too many ones who had potential got ran through. The ones who didn't get ran through weren't really attractive, even though some of them got ran through too. I can't get married with a peace of mind knowing that I could possibly be #85.

 

[Economics]

Can I do a marriage contract to where the license/marriage is up for review every 5 years for renewal? Then if it ain't working out and we terminate the contract/marriage allows us to keep the w.e. assets we each had before and split the ones gained together accordingly? If we had something like that I'd be more willing to jump in. An iron clad contract. I don't care for shyt to be going before a judge to be decided on their bias/whim or some outdated dogma.

I actually had the fortune of being proposed to by an ex, I was so taken aback when she did it I was like and thought she was bullshytting then she hit me with the face and I was like o shyt. I couldn't do it, long story short that relationship deteriorated fast after that because any argument she started I was like and you just I don't want to settle.

I couldn't get married w/o a clear and concise prenup before (I need protection for my assets I accumulated), I need us to get this too (Safeguard Guaranty Corp Offers Divorce Insurance | Inc.com). I just can't allow the courts to have a woman break me off like that. Because when it happens the same people who encourage marriage and shyt don't work out be like tough shyt my man you should've known better, picked a better woman, or protected yourself.

As for kids maybe. I wouldn't want to put a kid on this Earth simply because I want one or continue my bloodline (I already have fam doing that) that's selfish to that for that reason alone IMO. I'd like to keep an open mind to stuff so maybe some lady will convince me its worth it one day

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't have unrealistic expectations but I still have standards. Too many ones who had potential got ran through. The ones who didn't get ran through weren't really attractive, even though some of them got ran through too. I can't get married with a peace of mind knowing that I could possibly be #85.

Tis true

Plus it's so risky, your wife can get fat, stop giving you sex, stop working and there is nothing you can do.

 

[TheBigBopper]

No such thing as meaningless sex. If you're having fun, you're having meaningful sex.