DMX Breaks Down When His Son Checks Him! + Iyanla: Fix My Life Starring DMX (Full)

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poor choice of words on my part. what i meant by not being a "bad dad" is that dmx was there, apparently he didnt do drugs around the boy and wasnt destructive around him, like iyanla tried to paint him as being, and the boy always fell back whenever dmx shut that chit down. thats what i meant by that.

but lol @ iyanla only being "somewhat manipulative". cmon now.

nobody chooses to be a crackhead. and in dmx' case, he didnt even hook himself on crack. somebody laced his blunt. and im 99.9% sure that his wife knew all this chit before she started having kids by the bul.
X was obviously destrcutive around his son, that's clear. From what I've seen, X is/was a bad dad all the around. I don't deny that he loves his son and has done things for him financially but as far as being a good father, I just don't see it.

You don't seem to have any personal experience with drug addicts, I have plenty. You buy that "I didn't intend to smoke crack and get hooked, somebody laced my blunt" stuff because you don't know any better. I know that's bullshyt. A person might take a pull of a laced blunt(hype) by accident, maybe even 2 pulls just to make sure that they weren't tripping by the taste of the 1st pull. No way that a person smokes a whole blunt laced with crack by accident though. You can't even be in the same area as someone who's smoking a blunt laced with crack without being able to tell, the smell is too distinct. Laced blunts smell like burnt plastic when being smoked.

Seriously though, this thing about "nobody chooses to be a crack head" is straight BS. People are crack heads because they choose to be. Crack is certainly not impoosible to kick if you really want to. I've known several people who have kicked it. I've known even more people who are functional crack heads. Functional crack heads are people who are able to maintain a crack habit while still holding down a job and keeping a place to stay. I've known people who could go 3-6 months without smoking crack, only to relapse and go on binges because they chose to. Being a head is a choice and X just isn't ready to give his crack, alcohol, and weed habits up.
Naw that's the part I can't rock with. X has been a crackhead since before his son was born. Addiction isn't something you choose and it isn't something you just choose to stop. It would have been easy for him to say "yeah son I'll stop smoking crack" but that's not realistic. People stop for years and then still relapse. Once an addict always an addict. If his son really wants to help him and have a relationship he has to understand that. It's not a matter of just saying I'm gonna stop smoking crack. It's an ongoing battle that has to be fought everyday.
Addiction may not be a choice, but putting yourself in a position to be addicted is a choice. Addiction is something that you can break or choose to end though. It's not easy but it certainly is possible. People do it all the time. Yes, sometimes addicts go years without using only to relapse and that's proof that it's a choice. If you can go years and years without using, your body isn't just going to force you to use one day. You have to make that choice to relapse.


His son decided that he didn't want a relationship with his dad. Which is his choice to make. But he allowed ole girl to manipulate him and his father for ratings. If he wanted to stand up a be a man and tell his dad he wasn't going to accept it anymore he should have done that. But he took the passive aggressive route and hid behind ole girl and the guise of trying to help his dad. When in reality he just wanted to scold him and make him say sorry. This therapy session wasn't to help X it was to help his son.
No, X decided that he didn't want a relationship with his son. X decided that a relationship with his son isn't worth changing his life for, which is sad as fukk. His son clearly told him that he wanted a relationship with him but only if he would commit to trying to get clean and stop being a head. His son did stand up and tell him that he wasn't going to accept him being a crack head anymore, and that's exactly what he should have done. One of the biggest reasons that addicts don't get clean is becaue they have people in their lives who enable them. If X can't give up crack and all the other self destructive behavior to rebuild a relationship with his son, then his son doesn't need him. Some of you keep trying to focus on the lady as if she's responsible for X being a crack head who's apparently a shytty father as well. It's not her fault, it's X's fault. The therapy session wasn't to help X because X doesn't want to be helped.
 

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Just peeped this finally

heres my take:

1. lady was dead wrong for gettin in the middle of there discussion. and I dont fault dmx for blowing up on her. after he asked her to shut the fuk up, she should of respected that this is between dmx and his son and shut the fuk up.

2. Yes his son is a bit of a square who plays guitar, but what do you expect from a dude from the burbs. atleast he's being himself and not tryna act hard like Jo Jo. I respect his son for knowing his dad is a G and not feeling like he has to be that way, and just be himself. n!ggas hate on jo jo for actin tough, and then you hate on dmx's son for being himself :rudy:

3. I also agree with DMX to a certain extent. he shouldnt have to change himself for a relationship with his son. its not like he's stealing from him to buy crack, or selling his sh!t to buy crack. but at the same time I feel his son that dmx probably acts like a lunatic when he's drunk/high. so I get both sides. if dmx alcohol/drug abuse is affecting his son that much then he also has the right to want his father to change.

overall sad situation.
 

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Just peeped this finally

heres my take:

1. lady was dead wrong for gettin in the middle of there discussion. and I dont fault dmx for blowing up on her. after he asked her to shut the fuk up, she should of respected that this is between dmx and his son and shut the fuk up.

2. Yes his son is a bit of a square who plays guitar, but what do you expect from a dude from the burbs. atleast he's being himself and not tryna act hard like Jo Jo. I respect his son for knowing his dad is a G and not feeling like he has to be that way, and just be himself. n!ggas hate on jo jo for actin tough, and then you hate on dmx's son for being himself :rudy:

3. I also agree with DMX to a certain extent. he shouldnt have to change himself for a relationship with his son. its not like he's stealing from him to buy crack, or selling his sh!t to buy crack. but at the same time I feel his son that dmx probably acts like a lunatic when he's drunk/high. so I get both sides. if dmx alcohol/drug abuse is affecting his son that much then he also has the right to want his father to change.

overall sad situation.

"Something's got to give
It's got to change cause now I got a son
I've got to do the right thing for shorty
And that means no more getting high drinking forties
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"Something's got to give
It's got to change cause now I got a son
I've got to do the right thing for shorty
And that means no more getting high drinking forties
"

I feel u. but his son is grown now. I mean as long as Dmx isnt going to see his son while drunk or high I don't think it's as bad. Dmx should stop smoking crack though for his own health.. . I'm jus sayin what Dmx does in his own time..I dunno I feel what he's sayin. But I also see his sons point of view.. So I'm sort of in the middle :yeshrug:
 

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I feel u. but his son is grown now. I mean as long as Dmx isnt going to see his son while drunk or high I don't think it's as bad. Dmx should stop smoking crack though for his own health.. . I'm jus sayin what Dmx does in his own time..I dunno I feel what he's sayin. But I also see his sons point of view.. So I'm sort of in the middle :yeshrug:

If anything is responsible for ruining your career, destroying your marriage and creates a divide between you and your son/children and jeopardizes your freedom then maybe you should realize that thing isn't good for you.
 

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you're wrong. he did do drugs around the kid. there's two types of "doing drugs"

the type where you snorted, popping pills, or shootin up in front of your kids. X didnt do this.

then there's the 2nd way. when you just come around your kids after you are already high, drunk. X did this. his kid just didnt know it until looking back on it now. perhaps thats why he was so wild 24/7.

well if you wanne be technical.:manny:

but how you gonna act like iyanla isnt the one that made the conversation go sour? were you watching the same video?

X was obviously destrcutive around his son, that's clear. From what I've seen, X is/was a bad dad all the around. I don't deny that he loves his son and has done things for him financially but as far as being a good father, I just don't see it.

You don't seem to have any personal experience with drug addicts, I have plenty. You buy that "I didn't intend to smoke crack and get hooked, somebody laced my blunt" stuff because you don't know any better. I know that's bullshyt. A person might take a pull of a laced blunt(hype) by accident, maybe even 2 pulls just to make sure that they weren't tripping by the taste of the 1st pull. No way that a person smokes a whole blunt laced with crack by accident though. You can't even be in the same area as someone who's smoking a blunt laced with crack without being able to tell, the smell is too distinct. Laced blunts smell like burnt plastic when being smoked.

Seriously though, this thing about "nobody chooses to be a crack head" is straight BS. People are crack heads because they choose to be. Crack is certainly not impoosible to kick if you really want to. I've known several people who have kicked it. I've known even more people who are functional crack heads. Functional crack heads are people who are able to maintain a crack habit while still holding down a job and keeping a place to stay. I've known people who could go 3-6 months without smoking crack, only to relapse and go on binges because they chose to. Being a head is a choice and X just isn't ready to give his crack, alcohol, and weed habits up.Addiction may not be a choice, but putting yourself in a position to be addicted is a choice. Addiction is something that you can break or choose to end though. It's not easy but it certainly is possible. People do it all the time. Yes, sometimes addicts go years without using only to relapse and that's proof that it's a choice. If you can go years and years without using, your body isn't just going to force you to u

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lol @ me not having experiences with drug addicts. you dont know me b, so save the ridiculous assumptions. that chit put sectors of my family in dissarray, and i know alot more smokers outside of my family, but we not even gonna get into all that. youre the one thats speaking from inside a small box right now, not me. and if you actually know addicts, you know that completely shunning them, likely leads to more usage. pain is pressure & pressure busts pipes. literally.

and yes, like homie said, "once a crackhead, always a crackhead". even if you recover, youre gonna relapse 8 times out of 10. all of them may not go back to being a complete junkie, alot of them revert back but to the role of a functional J. thats the whole point of JUST SAYING NO. one hit is all it takes for most people.

and yes, i do believe the laced blunt chit. obviously YOU dont know anybody that got they chit laced. im not saying that he didnt double-back and take another hit. i dont know. prolly. not arguing that. but one hit is all it takes dukes.
 

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Addiction may not be a choice, but putting yourself in a position to be addicted is a choice. Addiction is something that you can break or choose to end though. It's not easy but it certainly is possible. People do it all the time. Yes, sometimes addicts go years without using only to relapse and that's proof that it's a choice. If you can go years and years without using, your body isn't just going to force you to use one day. You have to make that choice to relapse.
The addiction never goes away. They have to fight it everyday. You cannot "end" addiction, just manage it.

No, X decided that he didn't want a relationship with his son. X decided that a relationship with his son isn't worth changing his life for, which is sad as fukk. His son clearly told him that he wanted a relationship with him but only if he would commit to trying to get clean and stop being a head. His son did stand up and tell him that he wasn't going to accept him being a crack head anymore, and that's exactly what he should have done. One of the biggest reasons that addicts don't get clean is becaue they have people in their lives who enable them. If X can't give up crack and all the other self destructive behavior to rebuild a relationship with his son, then his son doesn't need him. Some of you keep trying to focus on the lady as if she's responsible for X being a crack head who's apparently a shytty father as well. It's not her fault, it's X's fault. The therapy session wasn't to help X because X doesn't want to be helped.

Did you miss the part where he said he has changed and is trying to get better?

He said he's the most clean he has ever been. I'd say that's a commitment to getting better. But his son didint ask for that. His son gave a rigid ultimatum that wasn't about helping X, but it was about the son feeling justified in shunning his dad. His son is not in a position to enable him. He's not giving him money, he's not providing a place for him to live, he's not bailing him out of jail. All he would be doing is answering a couple phone calls, and maybe spending some time with his father. Nobody said anyone else is to blame for his condition. All people said was that they exploited his condition for personal gain, under the guise of trying to help him.
 

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The son came off like a straight up bytch. And the reason X spazzed on Iyanla is cuz the bytch kept cutting him off instead of letting him speak. She want X to let his son speak , then when X starts to speak she cuts him off... ...the hypocrisy. I'm not excusing his crackish ways, but I agree with him when he was against putting his relationship on such a drastic condition and ultimatum. You can't expect a drug addict to go cold turkey after smoking crack more years than his son been alive. Instead his son, should be working with him to get off his addiction. I'm pretty sure X didn't/doesn't smoke crack in front his son. Xavier spending time with him and doing shyt together will slowly ween him off of it, because he won't have time to smoke the crack, if he's spending all his time with his son. I believe X loves and wants a relationship with his son, and his monologue about him trying to be a good father came off as genuine to me :yeshrug:

And the "no, you don't have to" at the end, yeah fukk that bytch. Don't tell my son not to hug me. Regardless of what, if he loves me unconditionally, it shouldn't have been a problem.

Just my 2 cents, anyway, see ya'll at my funeral.
 

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This song sums of the good soul within X :to:
 
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