Dealing with a s/o thats extremely busy

[Just like bruddas]

we did discuss it but im not trying to make her feel guilty because she does have a lot on her plate

i do have a life

and you should be apart of that plate. If she was taking care of everything that she feel is important then you wouldnt have made this thread. You seem reasonable so I dont think youre asking for her to drop everything, but if she sees it that way then

 

[DuncanWebayama]

breh...I am 3000 miles from my G/F but we make time to talk at least one time a day.

 

[DuncanWebayama]

Too many fish to be caught up with one that don't wanna be caught. They will suck ya freedom dry if u let em so enjoy the time u have now.

nah breh, when you found that one fish that's different from the others you wanna keep it, don't give up so easily breh.

 

[Remote]

nah breh, when you found that one fish that's different from the others you wanna keep it, don't give up so easily breh.

Yeah but it has to go both ways.

 

[Desirous]

I need my space, so for me, once a week is cool. I don't like talking to anyone 24/7...I need my alone time and it doesn't have anything to do with me not being into that person, but "too much of one thing isn't good." I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but I'll use my parents as an example. There isn't anyone in the world that I love more than them. I see them once a week and talk to my mom once a day. The rest of the time, I split between my friends, dating, work, and or just alone time to catch up on tv shows I like, reading, whatever it may be. It's different when you live with someone, but even then, people need personal space.

If you're the type that needs to see your s/o 3-4 times a week and she's not, then you guys maybe aren't the most compatible.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Do you guys live in separate cities or something? Once or twice a week would be no dice for me. Even when I was in grad school and working full-time, I made time to see my guy, because he helped de-stress me and because our relationship was just as important as the ones I had with family and friends. If I could find time for them, I could find time for him.

 

[DuncanWebayama]

I need my space, so for me, once a week is cool. I don't like talking to anyone 24/7...I need my alone time and it doesn't have anything to do with me not being into that person, but "too much of one thing isn't good." I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but I'll use my parents as an example. There isn't anyone in the world that I love more than them. I see them once a week and talk to my mom once a day. The rest of the time, I split between my friends, dating, work, and or just alone time to catch up on tv shows I like, reading, whatever it may be. It's different when you live with someone, but even then, people need personal space.

If you're the type that needs to see your s/o 3-4 times a week and she's not, then you guys maybe aren't the most compatible.

GTFO, "aren't compatible" that's that luv bullshyiet that most people nowadays are into that makes sure chit don't last. It ain't about compatability, it's about TRUST/LOYALTY/COMMITMENT, if you have more time to do all that shiet, then to call someone you are trying to make things work with you got chit misconscrewed (i know how to spell it). You don't need to call someone 24/7 either.

Do you guys live in separate cities or something? Once or twice a week would be no dice for me. Even when I was in grad school and working full-time, I made time to see my guy, because he helped de-stress me and because our relationship was just as important as the ones I had with family and friends. If I could find time for them, I could find time for him.

real ass chit

 

[Action Jackson]

Its all about making time. So many people now want to just see their S/O when its convenient for them. Relationships take work and effort if she isn't willing to put that in now then she won't later. You'll find someone that will give you the time you need. I'd tell this chick the deal see if she changes and if not cut her from the team.

 

[Soundbwoy]

Do you guys live in separate cities or something? Once or twice a week would be no dice for me. Even when I was in grad school and working full-time, I made time to see my guy, because he helped de-stress me and because our relationship was just as important as the ones I had with family and friends. If I could find time for them, I could find time for him.

same city but she's 40mins away(i drive she doesnt have à drivers licence yet), were both introverted so its not like i need to be with her 24/7

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

same city but she's 40mins away(i drive she doesnt have à drivers licence yet), were both introverted so its not like i need to be with her 24/7

Introversion has nothing to do with the want/need to spend time with your s/o... my husband is an introvert, but he still finds time to send me a text when I'm at work to tell me he loves me and makes sure we have "us" time, even though we're both busy people. I appreciate that, because it lets me know that even though things can be hectic (and they generally are during the week for us), he's still thinking about us as a couple, and I do the same.

You said she doesn't have a driver's license... how old are you two, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Desirous]

GTFO, "aren't compatible" that's that luv bullshyiet that most people nowadays are into that makes sure chit don't last. It ain't about compatability, it's about TRUST/LOYALTY/COMMITMENT, if you have more time to do all that shiet, then to call someone you are trying to make things work with you got chit misconscrewed (i know how to spell it). You don't need to call someone 24/7 either.

Some people are more needy and that can bug those that aren't and need their space. Trust, loyalty and commitment has little to do with how many times you see each other in a week. You can see your girl 4 days out of 7 but be with a different chick the other 3 days vs seeing her twice a week but not cheating on her the other 5 days out of the week.

It's about finding a balance and time to see each other based on what works for the BOTH of you...so if once a week is perfect for her, but not enough for him, then yes, she can compromise and try for twice a week, at least...but if he needs to see her 6 days a week then it will eventually become a problem in their relationship.

 

[Desirous]

Its all about making time. So many people now want to just see their S/O when its convenient for them. Relationships take work and effort if she isn't willing to put that in now then she won't later. You'll find someone that will give you the time you need. I'd tell this chick the deal see if she changes and if not cut her from the team.

Agreed. Exactly my point - maybe she's not the one for him. Some people need more time and others less time...so the compatibility factor is key here.

 

[Raava]

People make time for who they want to. You should talk to her first thought.

If a person is too busy to make time for a relationship they don't need to be in one at the moment.

 

[Arishok]

Do you two at least talk on the phone/text? I wouldn't mind not seeing someone because they're busy but I would at least like to hear from them every other day. I agree with raedawn07 though, it may not be that she doesn't care, it may just be that she's not ready for a relationship because she's bad with communication/time management when she's busy.

 

[FukyourFort]

its understandable to need your space but there's a big grey area in-between talking 24-7 and seeing each other once a week. why would you be in a relationship where you see each other once a week? whats the point just be fukk buddies cause you aint spending no quality time building anything once a week. and if you move past the dating stage to living together how is the person who only needs one day a week gonna adapt to 7 days a week?