I'm fretting over it because I am a person that has to gain something from putting in effort. And I am, in massive amounts. I pay monthly for this gym membership, I go 5 days a week, and stay in that gym at least an hour and a half.
Getting pissed at not getting significant gains from my hard ass work is all.
And hell yeah I'm doing it for the women. If women isn't one of your main motivations for getting in shape and looking good then it's practically pointless if you live in a 1st world country.
i understand your frustration. i'm also struggling to get results.
a piece of advice someone told me once. it's not always how hard and for how long you grind. a lot of it is how smart you grind.
your goal is to see abs. abs definition has more to do with bodyfat percentage. its not about how much you weigh. i was reading an article yesterday about cyclical dieting. the article claims that it's a way of dieting that makes you lose fat and gain muscle at the same time. but it said that for it to work you'd have to be around 12-10% bodyfat or less. so i would suggest to start by measuring your bodyfat and you'll know where to go from there.
if you're 6'2 and 180 and can't see your abs, losing more weight will make you look sickly and you may STILL not be able to see your abs. they say muscle burns fat so maybe a good way would be to focus more on building muscle then on losing weight. and to build muscle you need energy for when you workout.
much props for putting in the amount of work you put in (5 days a week is a lot of gym time). it takes a lot of will and dedication. but if you put in that will and dedication in an inefficient strategy, you won't get you effort's worth. i've only been going to the gym for 2 months so i'm no authority. but knowledge is key. assess your goals. look up what physiological factors affect your goal, look up ways people have achieved similar goals, what professionals are saying, etc. find a strategy and commit to it. make it measurable and give it a time frame. THEN put all that time and energy and focus (the grind) in that strategy.
i'll repeat myself, ab definition has more to do with bodyfat%, not weight. this is a good starting point for researching a strategy.