DrBanneker
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I guess I could look this up on Reddit but every question there is answered by "it's obviously logical, why not accept it!" so maybe I can get a Black opinion here
European brehs/brehettes may have the most insight?
When I grew up in the 90s/00s someone calling their SO "partner" almost always meant a same sex partner. It wasn't until I traveled to Europe on business some years later did I see 'partner' being used more, mostly by young cohabitating couples, sometimes with kids. I didn't think much of it then and didn't really see it in the US.
In recent years I have seen it more often, first with young liberal Whites and now with some Black people. It is interesting since the Black people I see using it seem to be basically married but call themselves 'partner' and the woman almost never takes the man's last name---not even hyphenated. They could be living in the same home for years and raising kids together but don't seem to formalize. Granted, the majority of Black folks I have met, especially women, that do this have non-Black partners so maybe that is a cultural influence? Black couples living together non-married seem to typically say 'fiance/fiancee' on the 'the marriage is next year sometime' front.
Is this an equality thing? Or a "government shouldn't sanctify relationships" thing (as if common law marriage hasn't existed forever). I can understand cohabitation but I don't understand why they would live a whole married life without saying husband or wife. I personally couldn't rock like this but not my life
European brehs/brehettes may have the most insight?
When I grew up in the 90s/00s someone calling their SO "partner" almost always meant a same sex partner. It wasn't until I traveled to Europe on business some years later did I see 'partner' being used more, mostly by young cohabitating couples, sometimes with kids. I didn't think much of it then and didn't really see it in the US.
In recent years I have seen it more often, first with young liberal Whites and now with some Black people. It is interesting since the Black people I see using it seem to be basically married but call themselves 'partner' and the woman almost never takes the man's last name---not even hyphenated. They could be living in the same home for years and raising kids together but don't seem to formalize. Granted, the majority of Black folks I have met, especially women, that do this have non-Black partners so maybe that is a cultural influence? Black couples living together non-married seem to typically say 'fiance/fiancee' on the 'the marriage is next year sometime' front.
Is this an equality thing? Or a "government shouldn't sanctify relationships" thing (as if common law marriage hasn't existed forever). I can understand cohabitation but I don't understand why they would live a whole married life without saying husband or wife. I personally couldn't rock like this but not my life
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