Cheating Husband And Best Friend - I'm so sad...

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My husband cheated on me, (I made a weak sappy thread about it...)

He ssys I should forgive and forget coz EVERYONE cheats...

Anyway I didnt discuss my betrayal with anyone as I wanted to be sure of what I really want to do before i discuss it with anyone...

I meet up with one of my close friends to finally talk about it. I was ready to go in on how aint shyt men are bla bla bla...

We are having a nice meal and I ask how her man is doing... They are good, the usual inane relationship stuff, she is hoping he proposes or pregnancy, whichever comes first . We are catching up with gossip and stories... Then she lets slip that she slept with someone else. She tries to backtrack but I insist she "spill the beans". It seems her man was out of town for work, he travels a lot, and takes her along whenever its convineint for them both.

While he was away she got horny and bored so she slept with some guy she met on a night out. I suspect there may be more "beans" but I think I have a reputation as a prude so I suppose some people tell me edited versions of stuff.

So now I'm looking at her across the table and decided not to talk about my no good husband.

I dont cheat, I have never felt the desire to cheat or lie to my husband. So there must be many like minded faithful people out there??? So surely there has to be a man who wants monogamy out there... I fear it might be a needle in a haystack type of thing. It seems its impossible to meet a (goodlooking) faithful man?

My question is :duck: aside are people or are you cheating that much?

Coz it seema like most posters have stories about side chicks trying to leave the side and take centre stage.

I feel so down, and feel like the only way to avoid the drama is to be single? Even though being single has its own issues...


CLIFFS:
Husband cheated on me.
I decide to talk to friend and discover she has or is cheating on her boyfriend.
I feel down coz it seems no one actually wants or values monogamy.
 
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Take it from someone who's done it. I wouldn't say I regret it but it was foul to my ex. Who I did/do love.

If the opportunity arises with the right person people will cheat. And not feel any kind of way as it 'doesn't matter' unless things get 'emotional'.

The thing is in the cold light of day the people you have these ONS with are lame.
 
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Mrs. OP...

Your husband is wrong. Everyone does NOT cheat! He cheats along with a lot of people, but not everyone cheats. Same goes with your bestie.

People who cheat chooses to do so for a variety of reasons.

My thing with you is that I hope you don't assume that everyone's relationship/marriage is like yours, because it isn't. Of course there are many relationships that may have similarities to your situation, but you also have many relationships that is different.

Lastly, I am not sure if you will forgive your husband, but if you decide to do it, then do it. If you decide to go tit for tat with the cheating, then prepare for some major issues. Just don't expect your husband to be as forgiving because people who cheat usually don't play fair and will not do so if the tables were turned on them.

Hope things work out for you!
 
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Commish said:
Mrs. OP...

Your husband is wrong. Everyone does NOT cheat! He cheats along with a lot of people, but not everyone cheats. Same goes with your bestie.

People who cheat chooses to do so for a variety of reasons.

My thing with you is that I hope you don't assume that everyone's relationship/marriage is like yours, because it isn't. Of course there are many relationships that may have similarities to your situation, but you also have many relationships that is different.

Lastly, I am not sure if you will forgive your husband, but if you decide to do it, then do it. If you decide to go tit for tat with the cheating, then prepare for some major issues. Just don't expect your husband to be as forgiving because people who cheat usually don't play fair and will not do so if the tables were turned on them.

Hope things work out for you!
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I'd never cheat. I'd break up with my husband or tell him I have met someone I want to be with.
 
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There was a thread on here for men that make 6 figures and are in a ltr/marriage. All of them were cheating. one was exposed for fukking trans prostitutes in another thread and come to find out he had a 5 month old at home. I've seen dudes on here detail their loving marriage and family with their childhood sweetheart, and in another thread refer to his wife as "my main". :ahh:(nikkas ain't shyt).

About 50% of the married women I've been close friends with cheat.

Do you and your husband have kids? That would be the only reason to stay long term.
 
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I never cheated cause I never was in a relationship till I was 31(I'm 36 now)...because I know I wouldn't be faithful in my teens or 20s because that's when u dealing with prime real estate p*ssy and I can't deal with women mouths when it comes to arguing..

I'm older now and p*ssy isn't my main priority unless that p*ssy can bring me green paper
 
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Commish said:
...I am not sure if you will forgive your husband, but if you decide to do it, then do it. If you decide to go tit for tat with the cheating, then prepare for some major issues. Just don't expect your husband to be as forgiving because people who cheat usually don't play fair and will not do so if the tables were turned on them.
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I'd never cheat. I'd break up with my husband or tell him I have met someone I want to be with.
 
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Cheating is super lame.

Especially the random " I was bored and it just happened" at least let it be someone you had a weak spot for or something.


I value monogamy, I honestly think women cheat as much if not more than men now. They just hide it better. I dont think they cheat as often but I do think they cheat as much (yes there is a difference)

Also leaving because "you are bored" or got to know someone else is just as bad as cheating. Its just giving a warning before it happens.
 
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