Can you cheat and still be in love with someone else?

[DaPresident]

Just seems like an oxymoron to me. I'm talking true love, like marriage type. Like the last person you'll ever love (romantically) on this earth. We all get urges (me included) and I have a gf. Urges are human nature, we have eyes and a brain...

But going thru and actually having sex with somebody else while you're under the premise of being in a relationship with someone else (and saying you LOVE the person) tells me that the "love" just isn't that strong. You can LOVE someone without being IN LOVE with them. But if you're "IN LOVE" with them, then no you can't cheat and claim to still be "IN LOVE" with them because you've contradicted yourself.

People do hurt each other when they love each other, but to INTENTIONALLY do it (by cheating) proves that you aren't as IN LOVE with them as you think. You would never INTENTIONALLY hurt someone you're IN LOVE with.

 

[little4209]

Nah

 

[Mask and Da Glock]

Just seems like an oxymoron to me. I'm talking true love, like marriage type. Like the last person you'll ever love (romantically) on this earth. We all get urges (me included) and I have a gf. Urges are human nature, we have eyes and a brain...

But going thru and actually having sex with somebody else while you're under the premise of being in a relationship with someone else (and saying you LOVE the person) tells me that the "love" just isn't that strong. You can LOVE someone without being IN LOVE with them. But if you're "IN LOVE" with them, then no you can't cheat and claim to still be "IN LOVE" with them because you've contradicted yourself.

People do hurt each other when they love each other, but to INTENTIONALLY do it (by cheating) proves that you aren't as IN LOVE with them as you think. You would never INTENTIONALLY hurt someone you're IN LOVE with.

You're making good points and i think you're right no doubt, I'm a romantic (in a literary sense and i guess literal sense) so I agree with you. But logically i have to say yes to the thread questions. This is really a topic on the demonizing of non-monogamous relationships. For me sex and love with the woman I love, and plan on proposing to, is different in every sense than the one time I slipped up. I dunno...it's easy to explain away logically but love isn't logic so it's kind of an impasse on how to find the true answer.

 

[Huellz Santana]

Just seems like an oxymoron to me. I'm talking true love, like marriage type. Like the last person you'll ever love (romantically) on this earth. We all get urges (me included) and I have a gf. Urges are human nature, we have eyes and a brain...

But going thru and actually having sex with somebody else while you're under the premise of being in a relationship with someone else (and saying you LOVE the person) tells me that the "love" just isn't that strong. You can LOVE someone without being IN LOVE with them. But if you're "IN LOVE" with them, then no you can't cheat and claim to still be "IN LOVE" with them because you've contradicted yourself.

People do hurt each other when they love each other, but to INTENTIONALLY do it (by cheating) proves that you aren't as IN LOVE with them as you think. You would never INTENTIONALLY hurt someone you're IN LOVE with.

i had a long response typed up to this but i'll just say
you eitehr get it or you dont. love is no where as simple as you're making it seem. in reality, the people you love are MOST likely to get hurt by you​

 

[DaPresident]

I feel y'all...I'm not trying to make this a SIMPLE answer.






But I have to say, I was saying all that in theory. Yes the ones closest to us hurt us the most, thats b/c we are the most vulnerable around and with them. Still doesn't change the crux of the matter which is if you're IN LOVE with them 100% then you wouldn't cheat b/c you love them TOO MUCH. I guess I'm saying if you giving somebody 100% of your love, then cheating is the LAST thing in your mind, b/c you're so happy and content with them...Idk, I mean I DO see what y'all are saying and yes, it is very hard to say and convey. It ISN'T black and white, but thats my thinking on the subject. I love my GF very much, and yes, living in DC I see PLENTY of beautiful women I'd love to have (and have sex with) but I love my girl too much to even entertain the idea of cheating on her. She isn't Halle Berry or Paula Patton, but she's MY Halle or Paula so I just keep it pushing.

I honestly do see it from you guys' pov tho...

 

[BlvdBrawler]

I used to think yes, but now I'm not so sure.

 

[MikelArteta]

Nah

 

[Mowgli]

Even Kings who had Queens had concubines. Then again, wifey knew about them and they lived on the kings grounds....

 

[TruStyle]

Ya you can. Any one who says they would never cheat or even think about is someone who's never been in a real long term relationship.


True love and soul mates and whatever other fairy tale shyt you fools wanna call it does not exist.

So there's how many billions of people on this earth and your true love just happened to live in the same busted city you do.

 

[-G$-]

i don't see how that's possible .

 

[Hollywood Co]

You can cheat and love someone but by cheating you obviously still put your needs and desires before their feelings therefore you probably don't love them as much as you thought you did and you don't respect them very much either.

Love is so complicated though. You can find yourself loving someone more than you thought you would because of the pain they may brought you or something you did to them and seemingly falling out of love for no particular reason at all.

 

[SuburbanPimp]

Nah, I mean, how can you TRULY love someone and cheat on them. It's like an oxymoron to me. If you TRULY loved someone, then you wouldn't do ONE THING to hurt them.


Not saying you DON'T have feelings or care for them immensely if you cheat, but by the very nature of cheating you're saying that there is something wrong with the love/relationship when you step out on somebody...Even if you don't get caught, I don't think you can honestly LOVE somebody but then turn around and cheat (whether emotionally, physically, or mentally) with someone else...

You cheated cause you're looking for SOMETHING you aren't getting at home...

Nope, Its not always SOMETHING you don't have at home..

Men cheat cause we can.. And we like something different

We don't want hurt the person we love, But if she never finds you cheated how are you hurting her?

I'm not heartless, But my conscience doesn't eat me up inside when I used to cheat and didn't get caught..

I just don't have the desire to cheat anymore myself, My wife makes me happy and I know that even some bomb ass pu$$y isn't worth ruining a good and healthy relationship..

 

[Patrick Kane]

Of course you can.

What does fukking some new pu$$y have to do with you being in love?

 

[Uffie]

i cheated for revenge. but i did used to love him... or so i thought i did. but i loved him for someone he wasnt. so the answer is....


NO.

 

[Mask and Da Glock]

I feel y'all...I'm not trying to make this a SIMPLE answer.






But I have to say, I was saying all that in theory. Yes the ones closest to us hurt us the most, thats b/c we are the most vulnerable around and with them. Still doesn't change the crux of the matter which is if you're IN LOVE with them 100% then you wouldn't cheat b/c you love them TOO MUCH. I guess I'm saying if you giving somebody 100% of your love, then cheating is the LAST thing in your mind, b/c you're so happy and content with them...Idk, I mean I DO see what y'all are saying and yes, it is very hard to say and convey. It ISN'T black and white, but thats my thinking on the subject. I love my GF very much, and yes, living in DC I see PLENTY of beautiful women I'd love to have (and have sex with) but I love my girl too much to even entertain the idea of cheating on her. She isn't Halle Berry or Paula Patton, but she's MY Halle or Paula so I just keep it pushing.

I honestly do see it from you guys' pov tho...

I feel you that's true, I've only slipping once with my girl of a year and she was away and i was way too fukked up, nothing I'm proud of at all but at this point just don't make the same mistake I guess.