“We already grew up within a pimp culture with hiphop. This manosphere stuff is some new shyt for the whiteboys really. For black men its basically rhetoric thats preaching to the choir.”
Man, thank you for stating this because they won’t hear it from a woman!
This shyt is in the music little Black boys listen to. Black girls have been dealing with young men with a “pimp” mentality from the start of our dating lives
The only way you avoid this shyt is if you are actually middle/upper middle class raised around guys who come from families who don’t allow hiphop “culture” to heavily influence them.
You don’t have a population filled with 20something YO Black men searching for wives, not finding any in our community and then marrying a bunch of women of other races. Most Black girls are dating black men who aren’t thinking about marriage until much later, which still benefits y’all because we are on a clock and you aren’t.
Just Google “marriage culture”. In tact cultures push daughters AND sons to get married young. But they also create support systems for those young people to help them along. That is not
our current culture in the US/west.
Teen girls are dealing with teen boys listening to rappers telling them the goal is to have a “collection”
Teen girls learn things from other teen girls who learn things from their mamas.
Teen girls are taught at a very early age, and I'm speaking about black teens, is to make a man do x y and z. Black teen girls around this country all have the same hand book to go off of on how to manipulate a boy. This is before the age of 18 teen girls learn how to game dudes.
Granted it to your statement about the music, many teen boys don't wanna have a collection, it's certain dudes that fit the description that want to have a collection of girls, and why is this, it's because teen girls go after the same dude.
Popular dudes get the most attention that's 10-15% of the male population in HS, so if you are in that 85-90% male teen population in HS, your pimp days are only dreams, you're pretty much content on any decent looking girl giving you attention.
Most male teens are virgins.
The 20 something year old males that are not looking for wives, let's go deeper, were they raised by single mothers? Most are, so who in that house is teaching that man to value family? To value manhood, to get married?
That dude is taking on the characteristics of his mama who is also single and maybe bitter and stuck in her dating life. Do you think she is telling her son to go out and get married, when she herself isn't married? Most single mothers want son husband, that son becomes her husband in many cases.
I said this, and this is my opinion, no hard data yet, but when a 20 something year old black male gets to that age, 20 something, it's very rare that his mama can control him or guide him. It takes a special woman or a male mentor to really shape that male outlook on his future as a husband in the grand scheme of things. He has to see examples of marriage, if his mama ain't married, his aunties not married, sister etc m, his homeboy mama not, the last thing on his mind in many cases would be marriage at 20 something.
When I see 20 something year old black males getting married early and he has come from a single mother, I tend to say that the woman he's marrying is truly special. If she doesn't have any kids. She understands somewhat the assignment.
It's a lot of factors that go into why nowadays 20 something year old black men are not marrying, how was he treated by his past relationships? Does he have trust issues, is he stable, mama more than likely isn't so stable, she's an emotional wreckage. I would say that he won't be stable and unbalanced from a man stand point. How can he be the head of a household when he doesn't know how that looks? Other than from his mama stance and that doesn't scream to him, let me marry something.
I get it but the hole goes deeper on why 20something year old dudes are not quick to marry these days. I fully understand it
As we have these honest discussions we will begin to understand how it is important to have a man in the house at all times. We will begin to understand how to at least try and put a band aid on this situation if anything, but it's only going to get worse for the women
You need a man, women need guidance and structure
Let me say that, I'm speaking on 20something meaning early 20s
Eventually they come around 
