This is true for men AND women but people will slit their wrists b4 admitting to it because everybody has to give a certain amount credence to what their genitalia regards as attractive while pretending others don't exist. And b/c people are married to their victimization b/c it lends credence to future c00ning endeavors. ("I was amazing and nobody wanted me so I had to get a white man/woman!" Translation:
My goofy ass mad b/c the above average men and women of my own race ignored me, but I'm better than the dudes/chicks in my lane so I'm going to try and be the very best like no one ever was to attract a non-blk mate and show those bytches/nikkas what they missed out on! Yeah!
In reality if I'd put forth that same effort for the people of my own race, I probably would have-- who cares about reality! I'll only improve for white people to teach blk people a lesson about overlooking me!
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So everybody is resentful of the best looking mates for being passed up even as they pass up others. Which drives me insane b/c they mad at someone else for doing the same exact shyt they do to others. Lmao! And this is fine but don't be a hypocrite and whine about people expressing their preferences when u doin the same.
And the beat goes on.
Cue hurt nikka/bytch psalms: "I hate you!" "Fat bytch!" "How dare u?" "You want me to date a fugly chick/dude!"
You raise some good points, but the difference is that men don't have the option to sleep around with women above their level, and play the victim role while gaining sympathy from their peers. You can say women don't want casual sex, but a lot of them are doing very little if anything to prevent that from happening. Plus with "selling the dream" a lot of women are in phony situationships. Again, once this facade of a relationship ends, she's the victim, and all men are dogs.
A man doesn't have that option and will either have to go for a woman he can get, or play the sideline, which doesn't get sympathy but in fact severe criticism. It's to the point where it's difficult for a man that doesn't get sex to maintain friendships with other men, due to how harsh the peer pressure and criticism is. Dudes are kinda wacky in terms of caring about whether their friends get laid. It's bizarre but the status quo. On the flip, some women that choose the wrong dudes may get judged slightly but it's nothing compared to what men get for going without sex.
So basically, there's less incentive for women to have realistic expectations, and this is reflected in today's dating norms. There's a reason that places like Tinder and POF exist, and it's mainly to capitalize off of women's desire for men out of their league, and men's desire to have sex in any way possible.
Yes, I agree that both men and women have unrealistic expectations. But the punishment for men on a social level is more brutal, while women can be unrealistic and very few people are critical of that.
Long as she has that ass...
