Black Men Should Never Go To this particular black female therapist

[Matt504]

‘No Way Out?’ Black Male Suicides Rising Faster Than Any Other Racial Group - The Sacramento Observer

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https://www.cbs8.com/amp/article/news/local/black-male-suicide-deaths-rising-faster-than-other-racial-groups/509-1dea0383-e5d8-4ce2-95dd-12ee43b52b62

“Unfortunately, Black men often suffer in silence,” said therapist Nettie Jones, MS, LPC. “They don’t seek the help that sometimes women will reach out to get. We’ll call our girlfriends, let them know that things are not okay. But, unfortunately, Black men tend not to do that. They hold things in, they self-medicate, they are workaholics. The kind of do stuff that’s not very healthy.”

This speaks to a a point some people have bought up about the quality of male friendships and how they are utterly lacking. When we discuss therapy, brothers rush into these threads to assure that they can get from their friend groups or male elders what they could get from therapy and I believe that's bullshyt.

 

[kdub83]

1. Clearly she’s frustrated, but she did this in about the worst way possible. This could have been easily fixed with an FAQ page and a statement strung any further questions could be answered in a consultation which you can schedule here or something similar. Then direct all those type of inquiries there.
2. I don’t know if she just didn’t put the full issue out there but asking about why a person should choose her for mental health services is not unreasonable at all. I’ve alwaya asked this directly or indirectly.
3. Can’t co-sign statements saying that no man should go to a BW therapist. Probably my best experience was a BW around my age. She was extremely competent and helped me work through some deep shyt in my life.
4. At the end of the day, you should choose someone who you’re comfortable with. Right now, I’m seeing a BM because that’s what perspective I needed to have our discussions from, but I would see another BW in a second, after proper vetting.
5. Why announce it on Twitter? Just stop taking on male clients.

I don’t know one black man that needs a therapist. That’s for them weak ass cacs.

I don’t know if this is a troll comment or not, but I vehemently disagree with this statement. I know too many BM that need to talk to a therapist to work through their pain and trauma and stop using destructive ways to themselves and others to try to deal.

 

[Ziggiy]

1. Clearly she’s frustrated, ut she did this in about the worse way possible. This could have been easily fixed with an FAQ page and a statement strung any further questions could be answered in a consultation which you can schedule here or something similar. Then direct all those type of inquiries there.
2. I don’t know if she just didn’t put the full issue out there but asking about why a person should choose her for mental health services is not unreasonable at all. I’ve always asked this directly or indirectly.

So…you mean…she should’ve acted like… i don’t know…a PROFESSIONAL?


THATS why she getting called out. You, right here on a message board demonstrated more common sense and rational thinking than she did. There are ALWAYS going to be trolls on the internet if you post yourself and your services ON the internet. Its part of the reality if social media. I got trolled by a bunch of people a few years ago because I created a digital series about code switching and because I have an African name a bunch of people claiming to be African Americans flooded by DM’s on FB saying that Africans shouldn’t be making content about African American issues (I’m 100% African American) now did I go on public tirade about how I don’t want Africans watching my content? NO! Because that would be STUPID!


If a so called mental health professional can’t understand this basic principle, they don’t need to be working in that profession, because then they become a real danger to the people who they’re supposedly trying to help. This woman was in the registry specifically geared towards helping BLACK MEN. Thats extremely problematic.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

This speaks to a a point some people have bought up about the quality of male friendships and how they are utterly lacking. When we discuss therapy, brothers rush into these threads to assure that they can get from their friend groups or male elders what they could get from therapy and I believe that's bullshyt.

Getting counseling from friends much better than therapy. You probably go to a therapist, so that’s why you refuse to believe nikkas have friends and shyt they can discuss issues with. You come off as a I got a therapist ass nikka. Safe ass nikka.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Black male therapists exist. What the HELL are you talking about?

Where did I say they didn't? This thread is littered with people saying black male therapist is at a minimum.

 

[HoldThisL]

Two Black woman therapist in they 30s saved my life.

I also had a horrible experience with another Black woman therapist, so they not all the same.

 

[kdub83]

Getting counseling from friends much better than therapy. You probably go to a therapist, so that’s why you refuse to believe nikkas have friends and shyt they can discuss issues with. You come off as a I got a therapist ass nikka. Safe ass nikka.

Yes, there is absolutely a benefit to having a support system to talk through shyt about, but sometimes you need a professional to help work through some of the issues you got that’s beyond what a friend can help with. Needing to see a professional therapist is not a sign of weakness like you’re presenting it to be.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Yes, there is absolutely a benefit to having a support system to talk through shyt about, but sometimes you need a professional to help work through some of the issues you got that’s beyond what a friend can help with. Needing to see a professional therapist is not a sign of weakness like you’re presenting it to be.

You presented seeing a therapist as a sign of weakness, not me lol. You nikkas are something else. All I said was that I am of the opinion that talking to friends is better than therapy to me. It was a direct response to dude saying he thought it was bullshyt when people on here said they got counseling form a friend instead of a therapist. I disagree; plenty of people don’t have a therapist and talk about shyt with friends and fam and are ok. Obviously, some people are better off with a professional. But I’m not about to sit here and let you nikkas frame the shyt like everyone needs to see a therapist. Most people don’t

 

[O.Red]

I went on a date with a mental health professional just last week. I don’t think she is a practicing therapist but she has all the credentials and could practice if she wanted

But anyway, she was an open ‘bed wench’. I didnt known beforehand obviously, but after a drink or two it all came out. She was only trying black men bc ‘with white guys there was a disconnect in social justice matters’ Gee ya think

So on this date, just a natural thing I do is I ask questions without the person knowing I’m judging. You’d be surprised how much people spill out this way. She let it all out. All sorts of tropes and hatred and vitriol. So yea I’d never trust a fwmale therapist especially nowadays.

This is why listening skills is a superpower

 

[Child_Of_God]

What city are you in?

DC. I looked everywhere and the few ones I found were always booked and not accepting anyone.

 

[Wildhundreds]

This speaks to a a point some people have bought up about the quality of male friendships and how they are utterly lacking. When we discuss therapy, brothers rush into these threads to assure that they can get from their friend groups or male elders what they could get from therapy and I believe that's bullshyt.

Don't know how it is on these days, but 30 years ago, a man getting therapy was laughed at by other black men.. Nobody wants to really talk about how black men also took part in destroying black men as well.. Just put everything on the woman, who also did her part in fcking up black men. Nothing will get fixed if we cherry pick issues.

 

[Child_Of_God]

I don’t know one black man that needs a therapist. That’s for them weak ass cacs.

You say stupid shyt like this and then wonder why Black men are committing suicide at a faster rate compared to other groups.

This is one of the most ignorant and dumbest comments I’ve seen on here and you should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[Wildhundreds]

You say stupid shyt like this and then wonder why Black men are committing suicide at a faster rate compared to other groups.

This is one of the most ignorant and dumbest comments I’ve seen on here and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Read my post above..

 

[Child_Of_God]

Don't know how it is on these days, but 30 years ago, a man getting therapy was laughed at by other black men.. Nobody wants to really talk about how black men also took part in destroying black men as well.. Just put everything on the woman, who also did her part in fcking up black men. Nothing will get fixed if we cherry pick issues.

Even in this day and age most Black men would clown you and call you weak and a cac for trying to seek mental help via therapy (just see the replies in this thread) but nobody on this board is ready for that type of discussion.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Even in this day and age most Black men would clown you and call you weak and a cac for trying to seek mental help via therapy (just see the replies in this thread) but nobody on this board is ready for that type of discussion.

Right.. So all you really can do is separate yourself from destructive behavior and seek help for yourself. Misery loves company..

Think about the friends you have around when you're at your worst, and who's around when you're at your best. Notice how those who were around you when you're down, aren't really around when you're up.. They HATE seeing you do well. Thats a testimony to misery loves company..