Attractive 45 yo female posts that she thinks men are feminized, shyt storm ensues

[Larry Lambo]

I think that men should look for interest to be shown before pursuing to be honest, otherwise you come off as a harasser.

Interest meaning, flirting back, smiling if you smile at them, etc. Without at least flirting you're setting yourself up for a fail.

So what if you come off as a harasser. Caring about that sounds like a viewpoint of a person that does not have confidence in themselves. Men lead, women follow. Leaders don't care about whether someone is thinking they are "harrassing" them as long as they know they acted appropriately after she has expressed non-interest. To me you can at least say hi, and see how she responds to that.

You put your bid in, and if she's with it cool. If not, no big deal. I wouldn't even call it an L, it's just wasn't meant to be with her.

I'm not going to take myself out the game because I might come off as a harasser. When that fat chick in the club tries to holler at you, she ain't worried about whether she is harassing you. She's just putting her bid in.

But everyone has their own strategy. I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting for signs of interest, and I've done it myself at times. But I've also approached women that didn't see me or did not show any signs that I could interpret. Some I was successful with, some I was not. But I enjoy approaching women so it didn't matter to me. It's a rush to spit at chicks, especially if the woman is highly attractive. Maybe others feel differently but that's how I think.

 

[b_priest9mm]

all these laws in favor of women and these social standards they still want in place despite crying for social/gender equality is why there were paid 30 cents less

this is what happens when you do nothing and call men bitter who talk about the laws and social hypocrisies women are putting in place against men. boo hoo

women's entitlement is astounding. this woman is 45 years old with no man still expecting men and everyone else to conform to what she wants instead of putting in action herself. i guess that's why she's modeling for reddit now.

This right here is why I refuse to approach 90% of the time.

The deck is astoundingly stacked against us.

But never mind that shyt, we have minds to read and tall buildings to leap in a single bound.

 

[Super Future Luther King Jr.]

Best post from the thread:

Rathadin comments on 45 F

POWERFUL POST

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I truly believe many of them simply don't know how.

Oh, the stories I have........

I ain't doing shyt, let's hear 'em

 

[Nemesis]

Not just reddit. Alot of guys on the coli feel the same way. Some of you guys even believe that females should pay for dates.

feelings of a THOT.....


any chick that is too tight to put her hand in her purse cant be taken seriously.....

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

So what if you come off as a harasser. Caring about that sounds like a viewpoint of a person that does not have confidence in themselves. Men lead, women follow. Leaders don't care about whether someone is thinking they are "harrassing" them as long as they know they acted appropriately after she has expressed non-interest. To me you can at least say hi, and see how she responds to that.

You put your bid in, and if she's with it cool. If not, no big deal. I wouldn't even call it an L, it's just wasn't meant to be with her.

I'm not going to take myself out the game because I might come off as a harasser. When that fat chick in the club tries to holler at you, she ain't worried about whether she is harassing you. She's just putting her bid in.

But everyone has their own strategy. I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting for signs of interest, and I've done it myself at times. But I've also approached women that didn't see me or did not show any signs that I could interpret. Some I was successful with, some I was not. But I enjoy approaching women so it didn't matter to me. It's a rush to spit at chicks, especially if the woman is highly attractive. Maybe others feel differently but that's how I think.

Exactly.

I'm not approaching on some "ayo ma, ayo ma" so why should I give a fukk when it takes less than 30 seconds to express disinterest? Especially in a big city like NY or LA, if you see a fly chick and don't put your bid in, you may NEVER see that woman again. Bad chicks are a dime a dozen out here but sometimes you see chick who got so much style and finesse about her you think "man if I even got a .0000001 percent chance of pulling her, I gotta shoot my shot". If you take the L..who cares? nikkas need to let go of the ego. Even if she comes at you fowl calling you a lame or broke or something...once again...who cares? That type of behavior exposes her as a bird anyway, so you prolly won in the long run. That chick you let walk past you could be a one night stand...or the mother of your kids.

 

[SunZoo]

"Physical cues to approach?"

What does that even mean? If you like what you see then you should spit, plain and simple. If she doesn't want to be bothered she will let you know after you approach. By not approaching you eliminating the possibility of success without even trying. That's lame to me.

Obviously these cues (to approach, or to back the fukk off) can be more or less subtle...but what kind of an a$$hole pulls tries to approach a woman with headphones on? I've seen a nikka actually pull a woman's ear bud out to try and speak to a woman who had no intention of speaking to anyone at that time and get cussed out/damn near slapped. Same with trying to cold approach a woman mid-stride with her head down like she's moving with a purpose.

People keep saying men can't read minds but anybody with decent communication skills (something people in general lack, especially men) can see when there is a rapport or when there is an opportunity to establish one.

 

[LadySimone]

"Physical cues to approach?"

What does that even mean? If you like what you see then you should spit, plain and simple. If she doesn't want to be bothered she will let you know after you approach. By not approaching you eliminating the possibility of success without even trying. That's lame to me.

Plus if you are a high value male then it doesn't matter whether she showed physical signs of interest. If you're an average looking physician, why the hell would you wait for physical cues? You know how many dudes smash chicks that weren't physically feeling them at first? But then they open their mouth, and either their game or their perceived wealth got them the draws.

I said for the most part. And it's got more to do with the actual approach then approaching itself, some men are down right insulting.

And personally there is nothing wrong with getting offended when certain (unattractive men) approach.

If you're a bummy looking dude I should be offended you stepping to me. It's like dam nikka you ain't brushed your teeth in weeks, you don't have other priorities than trying to Mack?

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Not just reddit. Alot of guys on the coli feel the same way. Some of you guys even believe that females should pay for dates.

they should pay for some... this ain't 1930 when you can't work... how i'm makin 60 and you making 50 and i'm taking you out 3 nights a week on my dime... you get the first one free... after that, you better be bringing the weed or buying the wine or something..... unless of course you giving up the buns... that's a fair trade


now i'm all for opening doors, pulling out chairs, approaching first, being a gentleman... but when it comes to, "lets go on date number 6" and i've spend close to a half a G, and she spent nothing but time and my money.... nah... that's not going down no more

A 45 year old women posting pictures on Reddit seeking attention. If she was getting attention in real life she wouldn't be posting thirst lingerie photos on a site that houses all sorts of weirdos. There is something off about her mentally, most likely. She is single for a reason.

exactly... she saying what she wants and what she's attracted to

meanwhile she's 45 fukking years old, still out here thotting, now on the internet thotting, not even able to find the man she's looking for, and lonely as fukk, arguing with internet nikkas

 

[Shadow King]

Females spent the last 60 years trying to be men...well ladies this is what y'all get I've said it multiple times on here the ball is in women's court as far how courting/relationships/families will play out for the next century. Either we're exactly equal and you ignore gender roles or we're not and you have to accept gender roles. You can't do both.

Women get mad at the fact the men that they want aren't approaching them not that men in general aren't approaching women (not true at all btw, breh's need to stop acting like it is).

Most men will continue to approach women they feel they have a good shot with.

End of story.

This also.

 

[karim]

so a 45 year old desperate and insecure enough to post half naked pictures of herself on reddit in order to boost her selfesteem is trying to shyt on men for not approaching?

bytch, if you were 21 you would get approached you're 45, which means the masculine, good looking, confident men you're looking for are either married or going for younger girlsyou can bytch and complain in order to hide your insecurities and post pictures online so that people will lust over you from a distance, or you can get over yourself and do what cougars do, aggressively seduce the guys you want

edit: checked the thread on reddit, and found this

No one does approach me, and it is disappointing, and no, i wont hit on a man, thats a turn off to me. Not sure how any of that makes me crazy. Anyway, its just become a silly discussion once you start throwing the "crazy" label around because you have no real argument to make.

Would this work for a younger man with you (someone on his 20)? Say, if he approached you confidently on the street.

No but thats because im not interested in men in their 20s, i would be flattered and respectful, but nothing would work as far as picking me up.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Females spent the last 60 years trying to be men...well ladies this is what y'all get I've said it multiple times on here the ball is in women's court as far how courting/relationships/families will play out for the next century. Either we're exactly equal and you ignore gender roles or we're not and you have to accept gender roles. You can't do both.


This also.

maybe she didn't agree with that. Some women want it one way, some women want it the other way, some women want it both ways.

 

[Neuromancer]

maybe she didn't agree with that. Some women want it one way, some women want it the other way, some women want it both ways.

I see a lot more of this from women of my gen. Thank Gods my girl isn't like this.

 

[karim]

maybe she didn't agree with that. Some women want it one way, some women want it the other way, some women want it both ways.

she is 45 years old there is a reason single woman become more aggressive with age: because they have to

 

[hatechall]

She'll be fine, white men are notorious captain save a hoes.

Black men are too, when they have money in their pocket, and if the ass is fat enough