Russel could have chosen any woman he wanted
Russel DID have his way...
and he did choose a chick with a baby
First off It ain't about Russell's choices it's about what his choices signify. Of course russ had his way, he's a devout Christian who probably sees taking care of out of wedlock children as the morally pious thing to do, which is all fine and good, for him and ciara. Not all men are thinking like him though.
Secondly what's not talked about enough is the fact that men are prone to undervaluing themselves the same way women are prone to overvaluing themselves. Not that I know for fact that this is the case for Russ, but he might have took one good look at ciara and said to himself "this is as good as it's gonna get," when in reality, for a man of his caliber, it could be better.
if you think the SMALL amount of women with chldren who find sucessful men are enough to influence a whole demographic...
then how come the LARGE amount of women with chldren who are alone doesnt?
You didn't stop to think while typing this, why there is such a large amount of women with children who are alone in the first place? The simple truth is women tend to value feelings over facts and love a feel good fantasy and will block out anything that contradicts those good feelings. So yeah they'll look at ciara and see themselves in her and won't even stop to really think about why their own reality doesn't line up let alone be thinking about the many other women who are in their position.
As a matter of fact looking back at your response we're in agreeance on this, they don't base their mindset on the real world, where you're mistaken is that you think what russ and ciara have going on is somehow indicative of what's realistic and to be expected in the real world. If that was the case then there wouldn't be so many bitter single mothers wondering why they can't find love, they'd have their own "russ" to speak of, relatively speaking. What he and ciara have going on is some shyt straight out of a tyler perry movie.
Wholesome Christian mr perfect saves beautiful and talented yet wayward woman and her illegitimate child from lifelong damnation at the hands of her no good thug baby daddy. Fitting considering mr perry makes his bones catering to the sensibilities of women and what they want to see.
And I'm not understanding your reasoning to throw the self righteous label on me. You act as if I'm saying having children oow is an unforgivable sin and single mothers deserve to be alone and bitter for the rest of their life. When all I'm advocating for is for those kinds of women to practice some self reflection and hold themselves accountable. If I wanted them to be alone and jaded I'd sell them dreams about what they "deserve" like everybody else in their life did and then fall back and watch when reality doesn't line up with the bs they've been fed.
If more women understood the real like i do instead of putting their faith and feelings into fallacies that do them no good then naturally less woman would be bitter because they would have their eyes on the right men to try for fruitful relationships with and would be more mindful of their actions knowing it would hurt them in the long run, instead of what we have now, a bunch of hurt and confused lost causes running to public internet platforms to shyt on and lay blame on entire races of men that don't deserve being villainized. I'm not for that shyt at all.