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yeah I was volunteering a couple months ago and we were building a garage. Me and this dude were shooting the shyt, talking, laughing, having fun while working. And a group of girls a couple feet away are watching us, and one says "I thought they were gay". That shyt ain't make no sense to me and I don't know why she said that but ight.

I don't really have an issue with all that. I don't like it when dudes check me out though. And for some reason good looking dudes like to compare themselves with other good looking dudes, size them up, one up them etc.
That's another thing. The guys who are attractive and are always around other guys. Women notice that. Especially if all the other guys you are with are attractive. It looks a certain way.

Adding to the fact that you say your romantic life is private (about who you date) and not on display.
 

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Where women approaching you at? club and bar don't count. I've had chicks stand near me or right beside me, but I can't recall much direct approaches. I don't count a chick calling you cute to your face as you walk past them as approaching tho.

Bars and clubs don't count? :guilty:

Nevermind then :guilty:
 

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Also if a guy is into himself/knows he's handsome and fixates on it, a lot of women won't find him attractive. Modesty is key.

Women can get away with being conceited (at least to a certain degree).
I don't fixate on it. I look into a mirror about twice a day for about two minutes.

I did in the past though like I mentioned before. You would be into yourself, but at the same time you would compare yourself with other good looking men, find "imperfections" within yourself that aren't really there, etc. Breeds a level of insecurity etc.

Glad I'm over that. I'm more focused on other things and becoming greater as a man then how I look.
 

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That's another thing. The guys who are attractive and are always around other guys. Women notice that. Especially if all the other guys you are with are attractive. It looks a certain way.

Adding to the fact that you say your romantic life is private (about who you date) and not on display.
That makes sense. Most extremely good looking dudes that aren't gay are players though.
 

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Also if a guy is into himself/knows he's handsome and fixates on it, a lot of women won't find him attractive. Modesty is key.

Women can get away with being conceited (at least to a certain degree).

This.

I think I qualify..

Most of that ego tripping shyt by OP I experience..

But I don't dwell on it and I damn sure don't boast about it.. I don't even joke about "how handsome I am" :childplease: ....

When girls tell me boy you know you fine as hell or you so sexy I either brush it off or halfway ignore it. I don't even feel right saying thank you, which is rude but I'm just like that...

:whoa: Don't get me wrong, I have a healthy ego.. I just try to keep it balanced.
 

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This.

I think I qualify..

Most of that ego tripping shyt by OP I experience..

But I don't dwell on it and I damn sure don't boast about it.. I don't even joke about "how handsome I am" :childplease: ....

When girls tell me boy you know you fine as hell or you so sexy I either brush it off or halfway ignore it. I don't even feel right saying thank you, which is rude but I'm just like that...

:whoa: Don't get me wrong, I have a healthy ego.. I just try to keep it balanced.
You go to citches love a nikka they can't figure out but it's cliche so you gotta have balance
 

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This.

I think I qualify..

Most of that ego tripping shyt by OP I experience..

But I don't dwell on it and I damn sure don't boast about it.. I don't even joke about "how handsome I am" :childplease: ....

When girls tell me boy you know you fine as hell or you so sexy I either brush it off or halfway ignore it. I don't even feel right saying thank you, which is rude but I'm just like that...

:whoa: Don't get me wrong, I have a healthy ego.. I just try to keep it balanced.
What are some of your "out there" experiences due to being good looking?

In high school had teachers throwing the p*ssy at me, older women knowing I'm underage throwing the p*ssy, I've had older women approach me on the train or bus (probably didn't know I was underage). My ass was too scared, shy or anything to ask for the number or make any moves given that I was underage. Baddest chicks in school chasing you, had a popular top 5 in looks white chick with a red neck boyfriend play footsies with me in class.

College.. professors throwing the p*ssy or distancing themselves from you cause they ain't tryna go there :francis:. I would have either done a lot of damage or have been dead right now if I messed with all these women who were in relationships or had families. Would have had at least one husband come and try and kill me for fukking his wife.
 

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What are some of your "out there" experiences due to being good looking?

In high school had teachers throwing the p*ssy at me, older women knowing I'm underage throwing the p*ssy, I've had older women approach me on the train or bus (probably didn't know I was underage). My ass was too scared, shy or anything to ask for the number or make any moves given that I was underage. Baddest chicks in school chasing you, had a popular top 5 in looks white chick with a red neck boyfriend play footsies with me in class.

College.. professors throwing the p*ssy or distancing themselves from you cause they ain't tryna go there :francis:. I would have either done a lot of damage or have been dead right now if I messed with all these women who were in relationships or had families. Would have had at least one husband come and try and kill me for fukking his wife.

Some of the same shyt..

High school a few teachers giving me "weird (if only)" looks...

I wasn't a shy kid but highly immature. A fair amount of the hot girls were attracted to me but I wasn't bagging them because my game at that time didn't match my looks...

In the hood older women would hit on me too ...some invited me over to "hang out"...The old dudes in the hood were jealous as fukk... I remember I had this BAD older one invite me over to smoke a J... She was in her 30s me like 14 or 15... I was so inexperienced and nervous the ho got mad and damn near raped me :mjlol:


When my game caught up it got really bad :snoop: ...The unchecked ego

I actually did fukk the hot (pawg) married neighbor once. ...The same day I met her. She was on the porch chillin.. Hubby was gone on a trip.. I said "Hi neighbor"... We chatted in the yard a few... Got number... Texted... Invited over.. Boom... Had to hide under the covers when one of the kids came barging in the bedroom bcuz that lil halfbreed knows my face.. He would've wasted no time telling dad "Hey dad ,guess who was in mommy's bed when you were gone" ... He probably wouldve tried to kill me......Life #5 out of 9 used

...Chicks with teen daughters.. "My daughter says you're cute" "My daughter says she hopes to find a guy cute as you"

....Sometimes I don't even have to holla (cold approach)... Just a head nod and smile seals it.

...So yea:francis:
 

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You're right about being handsome not being the cure to all of life's ills

@Nutritious Quata' Water You're a #goldengod too? :ohhh:

That explains why we both have our problems with @KOOL-AID :lolbron:
 

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I feel you as a handsome nikka. It's annoying sometimes though, I've been in many of situations where I don't want to be fukked with but a woman would cat call at me or try to throw a friend on me because I'm handsome. There's been times where I would completely ignore it with my headphones in because it gives me anxiety especially when I'm not in the mood for shyt and I walk into a room filled with women and I feel their eyes looking at me, when I don't wanna be fukked with I don't wanna be fukked with. I understand why women curve us how they do. Sometimes I wish I was average looking so women would get off my back and people would stop expecting some shyt out of me. Not even bragging, shyt gets annoying :mjcry:. It's like people expect me to be a Chris Brown with supreme confidence, good jokes and super hoe pulling abilities, when I'm just a normal ass nikka with average game and funny when I wanna be
 

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I was handsome growing up. Now I'm gorgeous! Just fukkin perfect. But I was lying in bed wondering why sex is so hard to find when I really want it, but when I don't it's there.

so i logged on. #Sleepless


Is it just your face OP, or the total package?
 

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I feel you as a handsome nikka. It's annoying sometimes though, I've been in many of situations where I don't want to be fukked with but a woman would cat call at me or try to throw a friend on me because I'm handsome. There's been times where I would completely ignore it with my headphones in because it gives me anxiety especially when I'm not in the mood for shyt and I walk into a room filled with women and I feel their eyes looking at me, when I don't wanna be fukked with I don't wanna be fukked with. I understand why women curve us how they do. Sometimes I wish I was average looking so women would get off my back and people would stop expecting some shyt out of me. Not even bragging, shyt gets annoying :mjcry:. It's like people expect me to be a Chris Brown with supreme confidence, good jokes and super hoe pulling abilities, when I'm just a normal ass nikka with average game and funny when I wanna be
Bruh this is me. The attention is uncomfortable when you aren't in the mood. I don't go to places where a lot of people are at a lot so it's not as bad. But if I go to a mall, shopping center, etc it's BAD. It's better if I'm with someone though, as I can just interact with them and that'll distract me from the attention.
 
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