Are OLDER brehs who are 35+ with no kids or a wife that way because they are really SOCIAL OUTCASTS?

[Estarossa]

It has moreso to do with the fact that I do as I please… I’m not investing all that time and money into kids and marriage just to fit in.

If I decide that I want to get married and/or have kids I will… if I don’t I won’t.

 

[Sad Bunny]

i figure in my case (age 40) I’m neurodivergent (undiagnosed). I hate sharing my living space for more than a day or two

also a late bloomer, enjoying sleeping with a variety of women

I’ve made my peace with being seen as a weirdo. seeing quite a few of my friends get divorced and deal with bad ass kids, another reason I’m good

This too I know plenty people who were married in late 20s and divorced by early 30s. Broken homes. Bad, sad and depressed kids. Just seems like a bad decision IMO

I know many friends with kids but they can’t live as freely as my spouse and I.

You're missing the point.

By that age your age peers socially and family wise have either a wife or a child or both.

The process of your peers getting married and having children would have started YEARS BEFORE.

So with societal expectation + the process with your peers happening how are you then getting to 35+ without one of the two or even both if you are socially INCLUDED?

i have friends with and without kids. I have married friends and non married friends.

My social circle is large though and spread out across the USA so it’s not like I’m a kid and I can hang with them every day after work anyways

Not everyone is married with kids and there is a such thing as babysitters.

 

[Shadow King]

I'll be a bit of both. Oh how the turntables.

 

[ogc163]

If you're 35+ and your friends and family members your age have either a wife, kids or families while you don't, you are the odd person out

Even if you are Black?

I wasn't aware the Black marriage had jumped up to where marriage was highly prevalent.

 

[SNG]

Honestly I’ll be 38 by the time I get married which is in a few months. For me I feel like I found the right person to start a family and to me it’s no point wasting time if we both want to have kids. Yes there are growing pains with kids but it doesn’t last forever. I wish I started younger but I had to learn that just because a chick looks bad as shyt doesn’t necessarily translate to a good wife. Luckily this one I paid attention to all the internals we communicate well, we troll each other and know how to have fun basically my fiancé is my homie. I was locked up with her in Covid for like half a year in a one bedroom and we made it through and it took our relationship to another level.

Also the dating game now is too fukked up with trannys, nikkaz being bisexual and shyt fukking the game up.

 

[the cac mamba]

i own a condo thatll be paid off when im 45. if i had kids, i'd have to buy a house that wouldn't be paid off til im 65

 

[Commish]

OP..

There will be adults who will not be married nor get married throughout their lifetime. There will be adults who will not have kids throughout their lifetime.

Granted, those who fit the aforementioned are a minority, but they exist.

As for them being social outcast, well...

Let me ask you this..

Would you want to be around ppl who would mistreat you based on your lifestyle choices??

The only thing that should matter is you and yours along with those who choose to deal with you. Everyone else is whatever.

My thing is this..

If you gonna have kids, then be married first! Don't have kids out of wedlock! Give your kids a shot to be born with two married parents in the household.

Maybe the legitimate child(ren) will have a good chance of growing up to become well adjusted and functioning adults while living within their formative years as a well adjusted and functioning child(ren)..

Lastly, should you decide to marry and have a family, your friends and family will naturally drift apart with exceptions.

But, at the end of the day, ppl should live their lives as they see fit. Bump what other ppl outside their social and family circle have to say about it.

Less ppl in your life the less bs you have to deal with, so...*shrugs*

 

[Born Rich]

I explained.

Social pressure/expectation.

If you’re 35+ and your peers have one of the two or both there’s no way you’re not going to feel out of place.

all the homies are married and most of em have kids...ii'm the only single one...

still talk shyt in the group chat...pull up to see them, the wives and kids when ii'm in town...still take a guys trip every year...we hittin SD this year for my graduation...

we been locked in before the wives and kids...don't feel outta place at all...

 

[Easy-E]

Everytime the baby bug bites me, I make a full recovery...plus I'm bytchless ATM

 

[DonRe]

If you steady fukking and living a balanced social/economical life, i dont see why you would succumb to any pressure.

In certain cultures though, they may and will deem you gay or impotent. Which it aint your fault of course, but comes with a lesser than stigma.

Kids and family aint for everyone.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

I’m just getting my George Clooney on

Exactly.

Money
Autonomy
Piece of mind
Flexibility
Dampened stress
Pivot without explanation
Reserving the right on damn near everything
Balance
Options

This can be done with lessened compromise

 

[Brandon M.]

why would one get married willingly ,in the prime of his life if he looks good is getting money and is getting bytches in real life and off these apps with ease?

yalll be asking some wild questions on the coli in 2024 lmao

 

[ba'al]

I'm younger than 35 but I would like to get married one day but most of the chicks I grew up with in the hood grew up fatherless and hated men. Particularly black men. They were sexually attracted to men but would always bytch and complain about men all day. I ain't trying to hear that shyt.

These chicks you get with but not for the long term if you value your peace of mind. Like to start petty arguments for no reason.

Also I tend to attract Helga from Hey Arnold type women. Angry for no reason than the next minute looking at you with puppy dog eyes asking why you ain't talk to her. I had one Spanish chick come up to me that I worked with and never spoke to just started yelling at me one day than fliriting the next. I just ignored her.

Salute to ya'll nikkas who can pull and attract mentally stable women.

Also I got a vasectomy and never ever gonna have kids.

 

[TEH]

Or you could mind your own business

Thank you

I hate these market research threads

 

[UpAndComing]

Women who are not Financially intelligent are an immediate turnoff. If she is not able make money on her own, and not able to save money as well, I rather be single and see my bank account grow

Finances are the #1 reason relationships fail, nothing comes close. Until I find a woman who is financially intelligent, I rather remain single