PlainSight
Anon
What do you mean?
Are black women paranoid about being used for sex?
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What do you mean?
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
Woman gets used for sex and gets left with kid or is affected by her mistakes.
If the fear of being used for sex was more common everybody would be better off.
PlainSight
Anon
Oh seen.
Think some women feel the fear and do it anyway. Affairs of the heart and sex is never simple.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
Anyway, this thread is 3 pages and still no tangibles. Getting a man is easy, keeping him aint...yeah you heard that before, then act on it and dicuss the keeping aspect, instead of all this whining and blaming the other side.
Withholding the draws aint a badge of honor when still act like a cu*t.
Then you sit on the coli wondering why your in the bushes
What he is saying is there are 1030984309487093 threads a day on the coli complaining and pointing the finger at the opposite sex and race (sometimes the same) on why relationships don't work, and not enough on how to keep them after that first time... but there is no one reason, every situation is different.. Holding out on sex is not, going to change how a guy treats you, if anything we look at you in a negative light for playing games... during the first few dates you should be spending your time trying to figure out what type of person this guy is, then you should be able to get an idea of his intentions. you shouldn't be paranoid or have any preconceived notions going into a relationship, that clouds your judgement..
If a guy had sex with you and stopped calling after, either the sex was wack, or there is something else about your personality they don't like. We need to stop pointing fingers and look in the mirror, especially if this continues to happen to you..
and I don't always expect every chick to come in my house to get naked, sometimes you just don't want to go out, but still want to see that person...
If you wanted to post that, then post it. But that was not what he was saying. If you didn't catch the tone. Acting like a c*nt? Really? Don't try to apply thoughtful and serious conversation to some one who wasn't trying to have it. He was finger pointing and just typing to type. The thread isn't about being in relationships. It's about dating and getting to know some one.
A guy can have sex with you and not call for a number of reasons. Just because it's those to reasons for you, doesn't speak to all men. It's not just call back it's not take things past that and that is what the thread is about. And I'll just take the "you" as a general because I didn't speak to my personal experiences in here. My post weren't finger pointing I put responsibility on both parties.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
Ok.. What I was trying to say, was, there is a bunch of generalization and finger pointing going on and no useful information, or any....... nevermind I don't know why I expect thought provoking conversations on here
In order to find out if and why these woman are paranoid, you would need to speak to one of these types of people and ask about their situation then we can figure it out for their specific reason..
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
This is true, I don't understand why men don't understand this.. I have had too many conversations that goes likeDo you know what deceitful and manipulative mean? Too many hoes or selective hoes out here for a guy trying to ruin a person who was trying to be selective. Just because she didn't have someone to "school" her or school her well enough doesn't take the blame off the guy. He is still a scumbag. Especially someone straight up lying how sad is that? Some women do learn the hard way but again doesn't take the blame away from the guy. After a while if anything they share it. They all have some responsibility. Don't try to justify the things you do by blaming the women you used or their parents. Either way you are still a Cad
Wanting something doesn't mean you should have it do it. That's why I said if the female can't stick to her guns and she knows she can't handel it, she needs to not put herself in those position. Yea sometimes a woman is not trying to look like a hoe, but a lot of the time she is trying to feel like a hoe and can't handle f*ckbuddy situations. You "finesse" a chick then wonder why she starts blowing you up or asking questions like "where is this going". Knowing a female is really not trying to do something, and she has expressed that over and over but you see her weakness and pressure her anyway...Yea y'all are adults I am not going to act like women are defenseless lambs. We have responsibilty in this to know better and learn from mistakes etc. But taking advantage of a weakness is still being manipulative. You said yourself
Meaning you know some women are not.
The homie: man I took (insert random sex pill) smahed for hours, I gave her the business
two months later of doing this, while being nice and hanging out with her
The homie: man I had to cut ole girl off, she was catching feelings, I don't know why these chicks keep messing up a good thing.
Me:
That's like spending weeks and months being an a$$hole to your co-worker, then being surprised when as soon as they get in a management position you all of a sudden are out of a job.
Ok.. What I was trying to say, was, there is a bunch of generalization and finger pointing going on and no useful information, or any....... nevermind I don't know why I expect thought provoking conversations on here
In order to find out if and why these woman are paranoid, you would need to speak to one of these types of people and ask about their situation then we can figure it out for their specific reason..
What do you mean? How can you expect thoughtful conversations of you are taking bits and pieces of a post? How was my response not thoughtful? I took your whole post and responded. You had a thoughtful post but you tried to tie it to someone who was doing the exact thing you have issue with. Does that make sense? Yes there is a lot of finger pointing here but did you read all the post in the thread? There is a lot of actually discussion. Why they are paranoid was already addressed by women who are actually in the dating world and it wasn't putting all the blame on men. I was just trying to clarify what the thread was about because the guy you quoted, post had nothing to do with it. I already said what I had to say on the matter.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
I wasn't referring to you when I said that, I was clarifying what I was trying to say in my initial post..
Action Mike
All praise..
No.
It was the same thing just different tones, i was annoyed. But do you understand where i was coming from?
Tone is important changes the post, wasn't a post for thoughtful conversation. The thread isn't about being relationships and keeping a man so no. Just like I asked him did you read the thread?
Action Mike
All praise..
Then what is it about?
You said earlier its about dating and getting to know someone...so then what is the endgame for op?
A relationship, no?
Keeping a man instead of the alternative, which is the thread title, 'used for sex', no?
Get past your feels about tone and be a better raedawn.
Then what is it about?
You said earlier its about dating and getting to know someone...so then what is the endgame for op?
A relationship, no?
Keeping a man instead of the alternative, which is the thread title, 'used for sex', no?
Get past your feels about tone and be a better raedawn.
the premise of the thread is a woman dating and being afraid of being used for sex. If she is already in an actual relationship, they are past that point.
I'm not in my feels at all. None of my post say that. I have put nothing personal in here like that
You are are who has feelings in here to the point you were angry typing no? I just pointed out you post made no sense and wasn't relevant or contributing to the thread.