Are black women paranoid about being used for sex?

[The Mad Titan]

Dating is messed up for the genders now, no race needs to be mentioned. In most cases it goes a younger man hurts a younger woman and then the younger woman hurts another man, and then the man hurts another woman and the cycle continues.

Also women are listening to these knuckle head men and acting out in the worst of way. Women and young girls are mimicking nikki and rihanna because thats what the dudes like and dudes are mimicking futures, and wanyes because thats what the ladies like. :disgusted:




Clearly all men aren't out for sex, but men will settle for sex much quicker than women in my experiences personally, and in with my talking with other dudes. Like @Raedawn07 said a man is only going to go as far as you let him.

I dont know many black women irl, that are paranoid about being used for sex, I know alot of women(black and white) with kids that dont want to get hook on a dude's pipe game and let it take them from there responsibilities as a parent. So they try to keep sex out of there life unless its with a boyfriend that is going to be around for the kid.


I dont know if its were I live but the women here are aggressive when it comes to sex, they want it and they dont want to waste time if thats all they want at the moment..

The game is all messed up.



I only know one person in person off this site, but I can tell who's been messed up or over from relationships from the average joe, the freaks, the nice girls and guys and the bytches and no good nikkas after so long...

 

[KinksandCoils]

It's a fear for me. I've had men who are in a relationship, engaged, and married come at me either completely on some bullshyt or said something they shouldn't have said cause they were involved. I'm sure white women fear this too although they seem a bit more trusting.

 

[Raava]

I wouldn't even say trying to get p*ssy is wrong.

Especially if it happens....... it's not the guys fault the girl decided to allow him to enter, right?

If a guy is deceitful to get it, it is his fault. If it is manipulative, it is. If he is taking advantage he has some fault.

 

[Colicat]

Nice conversation ladies... .... I am intrigued to read everyone's responses..

I'm not sure what the question is but I am sure that there are plenty of shared experiences

 

[Blackking]

If a guy is deceitful to get it, it is his fault. If it is manipulative, it is. If he is taking advantage he has some fault.

it's not her parents fault for not raising her right - telling her to not give up the p*ssy with not REAL committment?


and it's not her fault for not having better judgment?



and he's not the good guy for helping to teach her a valuable lesson

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

some of yall absolutely are lol, it's completely understandable too

sometimes even the girls that know of the "chilling" and "netflix" lines still fall for it lol

I remember telling a chick I bought a new tv and we should watch a crazy action movie on netflix to test the resolution quality...

she hit me back like "I know what that means"


I was like "dont worry, I'm a good guy, I wouldnt do that to you. I like to get to know girls before I get intimate with them"

and i still smashedddd

If a guy is deceitful to get it, it is his fault. If it is manipulative, it is. If he is taking advantage he has some fault.

Some of us guys have great finesse game. Many women are explicit in letting men know that theyre not fast girls and not down to "chill"

Most men foolishly press the issue, but you should fall back. If a girl is sincere with her not wanting to chill, she wont get finessed.

But a substantial amount of women say that to make themselves feel good inside. Deep down inside they really want to get fukked but dont want to come off as a hoe

Those sexual thoughts will be swimming in her subconscious, and when the man doesnt feed it she'll get very antsy and curious. Some women are good at controlling themselves and wont do anything, others will make a move out of sheer curiosity & thirst.

Once she makes that move it's over, the p*ssy is practically mine.

That's not being manipulative, that having finesse game

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

some of yall absolutely are lol, it's completely understandable too

sometimes even the girls that know of the "chilling" and "netflix" lines still fall for it lol

I remember telling a chick I bought a new tv and we should watch a crazy action movie on netflix to test the resolution quality...

she hit me back like "I know what that means"


I was like "dont worry, I'm a good guy, I wouldnt do that to you. I like to get to know girls before I get intimate with them"

and i still smashedddd



Some of us guys have great finesse game. Many women are explicit in letting men know that theyre not fast girls and not down to "chill"

Most men foolishly press the issue, but you should fall back. If a girl is sincere with her not wanting to chill, she wont get finessed.

But a substantial amount of women say that to make themselves feel good inside. Deep down inside they really want to get fukked but dont want to come off as a hoe

Those sexual thoughts will be swimming in her subconscious, and when the man doesnt feed it she'll get very antsy and curious. Some women are good at controlling themselves and wont do anything, others will make a move out of sheer curiosity & thirst.

Once she makes that move it's over, the p*ssy is practically mine.

That's not being manipulative, that having finesse game

Honestly, I don't even think it's "finesse game" especially with younger woman. Its more like a peer pressure type vibe. A lot of times young women are pressured to have sex, It has nothing to do with your finesse, Sorry hate to break it to you. If a women wants to have sex with you she's already made up her mind before hand. However, that decision on when she is ready to do it can be very faulty. Being perceived as a hoe is NOT whats running through many womens minds during that time. Like i said this is more so with younger women and inexperience women, but it still does not exclude other women.

 

[Raava]

it's not her parents fault for not raising her right - telling her to not give up the p*ssy with not REAL committment?


and it's not her fault for not having better judgment?



and he's not the good guy for helping to teach her a valuable lesson

Do you know what deceitful and manipulative mean? Too many hoes or selective hoes out here for a guy trying to ruin a person who was trying to be selective. Just because she didn't have someone to "school" her or school her well enough doesn't take the blame off the guy. He is still a scumbag. Especially someone straight up lying how sad is that? Some women do learn the hard way but again doesn't take the blame away from the guy. After a while if anything they share it. They all have some responsibility. Don't try to justify the things you do by blaming the women you used or their parents. Either way you are still a Cad

some of yall absolutely are lol, it's completely understandable too

sometimes even the girls that know of the "chilling" and "netflix" lines still fall for it lol

I remember telling a chick I bought a new tv and we should watch a crazy action movie on netflix to test the resolution quality...

she hit me back like "I know what that means"


I was like "dont worry, I'm a good guy, I wouldnt do that to you. I like to get to know girls before I get intimate with them"

and i still smashedddd



Some of us guys have great finesse game. Many women are explicit in letting men know that theyre not fast girls and not down to "chill"

Most men foolishly press the issue, but you should fall back. If a girl is sincere with her not wanting to chill, she wont get finessed.

But a substantial amount of women say that to make themselves feel good inside. Deep down inside they really want to get fukked but dont want to come off as a hoe

Those sexual thoughts will be swimming in her subconscious, and when the man doesnt feed it she'll get very antsy and curious. Some women are good at controlling themselves and wont do anything, others will make a move out of sheer curiosity & thirst.

Once she makes that move it's over, the p*ssy is practically mine.

That's not being manipulative, that having finesse game

Wanting something doesn't mean you should have it do it. That's why I said if the female can't stick to her guns and she knows she can't handel it, she needs to not put herself in those position. Yea sometimes a woman is not trying to look like a hoe, but a lot of the time she is trying to not*** feel like a hoe and can't handle f*ckbuddy situations. You "finesse" a chick then wonder why she starts blowing you up or asking questions like "where is this going". Knowing a female is really not trying to do something, and she has expressed that over and over but you see her weakness and pressure her anyway...Yea y'all are adults I am not going to act like women are defenseless lambs. We have responsibilty in this to know better and learn from mistakes etc. But taking advantage of a weakness is still being manipulative. You said yourself

Some women are good at controlling themselves and wont do anything

Meaning you know some women are not.

 

[mcdivit85]

I'm on lipstick alley sometimes and when I go to relationship alley there are threads upon threads of black women being warned about "chilling" at a guys house. They all warn about how you will be used for sex and if you go over there you ain't shyt (but have a baby by Future and they will rally around you like a some earth mother).

There just seems to be this prevailing belief that all black women must protect themselves against being used for sex.

Now I'm not naive. I know some dudes are bummy broke and just want to get laid but is there ever any chance of genuinessness emanating from a black man and his romantic intentions?

I personally believe that black women have been traumatised by dating black men. All the optimism, fun, specialness, happiness and joy of a new relationship has been sucked out of them.

I don't think I have ever heard most of them speak positively about dating. It's like there is never a honeymoon period only a cessation of combat.

The gender war has surely ruined dating for black women.

Maybe they should date white men to get that hopefulness and optimism back.

 

[Queen]

Sex is marriage, not a recreational activity.

 

[Blackking]

Sex is marriage, not a recreational activity.

word... @Raedawn07


you choice to have sex before marriage then Anything that happens is on you.

 

[Rawtid]

I guess it depends on the woman. For most men sex is just sex and some women don't deal with that very well so they would rather not put themselves in a position to have sex with a guy they are pretty sure doesn't want anything else from them.

 

[Raava]

word... @Raedawn07


you choice to have sex before marriage then Anything that happens is on you.

Sex before marriage doesn't give people the right to treat others like crap. People should be selective though.

 

[jeh]

Now I'm not naive. I know some dudes are bummy broke and just want to get laid but is there ever any chance of genuinessness emanating from a black man and his romantic intentions?

Yes, its always a chance. A chance for it too be a generous and sincere encounter or date. And theres a chance it could be the worst hell date ever. Dating game: where nothing has changed......some men and women want just sex........some men and women to want and need to be loved.

People get used everyday. Useless or useful is up to that particular person because it's about self control. "Game" is only good if YOU BELIEVE it. Not saying women have to be prudes or guys have to be jerks and "manipulate" con or game people into doing things that person had no intention of doing. Using finese and the gift of gab is one thing, but doing it to get in some p*ssy or a man wallet is not cool. Still it's up to the individual to make a sound and logical choice To know when a man is trying to get some ass.

 

[Blackking]

Sex before marriage doesn't give people the right to treat others like crap. People should be selective though.

how is smashing , treating them like crap?. ... if anything time is money so choosing you to dikk down is charity - you get penis + life lessons for free. Better bargain than college.

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