Anybody NOT have a good relationship with their mother?

[Ronnie Lott]

What bothers me is that many people judge you on your relationship with your mother. If you don't have a good one, you're labeled a bad person by many. Like it's our fault we have shytty moms?

This is very true. If a man to tells a chick that he dates that he had a fukked up relationship with his mom, the chick is gonna look at the dude like

She is almost gonna look down on him and judge him in a negative manner. But if you talk about your father in a negative fashion, that is then met with support and the chick would be like "yeah, nikkaz ain't shyt"

 

[Ronnie Lott]

It's kind of stereotypical in my mother's culture for mother's and daughters to have good relationships and I definitely didn't. For a long time I blamed her for my father's death, haven't lived with her since I was about 17, and I'm just now repairing my relationship with her. She's very elderly so I figure I just let her cook. But I don't enable her behavior, that's the problem she has with me and why we don't even live in the same city lol. I love her and support her, but distance has helped me heal some wounds and it's work in progress.

Why do you think he was responsible for your fathers death

 

[zayk35]

OG 1985 crackhead mom who once literally tortured me when I was 5or6 cause she lost $5 .....to this day she has never acknowledged that shyt......so fuk mama

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

wait so where was your pops when all this was going on? You didn't tell him about it or he didn't try to stop it? Or were they not together?

He was at work. She was a stay at home mom who would pull all this shyt while he was gone, but then flip the script and act all nice when he got home. Then she'd make me out to be the bad guy because obviously I didn't want to be around her or even speak to her. I tried to tell him, but honestly he's always been a weak ass nikka who had to look to my mom to lead. So he basically relied on her to handle everything besides making the money, which I think drove her even further crazy because she couldn't handle that pressure. So while I told him, he just stayed silent and turned his mind to other things, kind of a see no evil, hear no evil type of thing. Which I obviously resent and think of him as a bytch for it, but on the other hand he provided financially to the point where he eventually paid for my college and bought me a nice car, so to me I can't complain about him much.
He knew she was crazy though, he had two daughters (step for my mom) who got out when they were teenagers, and went to stay with the grandparents. They refused to even come back and visit my dad because they didn't want to be around her. He hasn't seen his own daughters in years because they're so reluctant to go home.

It's a pretty fukked up situation, and really I've just scratched the surface of the whole story here.

 

[mbewane]

Damn some serious stories in here...My Moms passes away 10 years ago (I'm 33) but I had already been living away from home for like 7-8 years at that point, for reasons totally unrelated to good or bad parenting. I had a quite good relationship with my moms but now that I've grown up I realize a lot of stuff she didn't pass that down to me, and I kind of resent her (my pops too) for that. I understand the issues she had, and I fear I would repeat the same errors and thus I don't feel like having kids.

 

[The Bilingual Gringo]

Particularly males. I know females tend to hate their moms off and on but it seems to be taboo for a man to not like his mom. But I don't like mine. She did a half assed job of raising me and my brother, would buy weed when there was no food, bad with money etc. etc. now she's living here complaining up a storm. She's finally leaving and she's trying to drag my name through the mud with the rest of my family. Crazy, they have a willing ear for drama but not offering a place to stay rent free. Honestly, I should have let her live under a bridge. Moms aren't always right or good, they just have good PR.

I barely talk to or see my mother. She ran around on my father when I was younger, while he was working like crazy to support the lifestyle she wanted. The split up, I went w/ my dad and he raised me as a single parent, as life went on, I understood how relationships work and here we are. She made her bed, now she has to sleep in it. Our conversations are the equivalent to the person you kind of knew in high school and you see 15 years later.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Moms aren't always right or good, they just have good PR.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Now I dont feel so bad about my fucced up relationship with my moma. I would be so embarrassed bout some of the shyt she would do.

 

[mtu wa chuma]

no. Aint a woman alive that can take my mothers place.

Absolutely. i'd gladly die for that beautiful bytch. the amount of sacrifice mine has made for me and still does humbles me and i will worship her till her my dying breath.

sorry to hear about yours liggins.

 

[HalfwayHandsome]

Absolutely. i'd gladly die for that beautiful bytch. the amount of sacrifice mine has made for me and still does humbles me and i will worship her till her my dying breath.

sorry to hear about yours liggins.

 

[Colicat]

Absolutely. i'd gladly die for that beautiful bytch. the amount of sacrifice mine has made for me and still does humbles me and i will worship her till her my dying breath.

sorry to hear about yours liggins.

 

[HIVAIDS]

My mother had me when she was 19. She couldn't handle me at age four and gave me to pops.

My pops has been my friend,mother,and father.

My mother gets no love. When I was 14 decided to look for her though family channels and found her. I had to look for her.

When I was homeless at the age of 16 called her told her my situation,the c*nt told me "good luck" and didn't offer me to stay at her house.Ever since then I cut her off.

 

[HoloGraphic]

Me and my mother don't get along. I expect more from someone so demanding. But it's

 

[ReggieFlare]

I got a pretty good relationship with her, but I have learned to not trust her with anything that involves money.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

He was at work. She was a stay at home mom who would pull all this shyt while he was gone, but then flip the script and act all nice when he got home. Then she'd make me out to be the bad guy because obviously I didn't want to be around her or even speak to her. I tried to tell him, but honestly he's always been a weak ass nikka who had to look to my mom to lead. So he basically relied on her to handle everything besides making the money, which I think drove her even further crazy because she couldn't handle that pressure. So while I told him, he just stayed silent and turned his mind to other things, kind of a see no evil, hear no evil type of thing. Which I obviously resent and think of him as a bytch for it, but on the other hand he provided financially to the point where he eventually paid for my college and bought me a nice car, so to me I can't complain about him much.
He knew she was crazy though, he had two daughters (step for my mom) who got out when they were teenagers, and went to stay with the grandparents. They refused to even come back and visit my dad because they didn't want to be around her. He hasn't seen his own daughters in years because they're so reluctant to go home.

It's a pretty fukked up situation, and really I've just scratched the surface of the whole story here.

Jesus, dude, how are your relationships with women? I can't imagine going through all that as a kid and having normal romantic relationships