Anybody NOT have a good relationship with their mother?

[Marvel]

Just honor your mother as it is according to Bible...that is what I do. Honor doesn't mean do everything she says. Just means give her the respect due to her being your mother...same goes for your father. Other than that we do not see eye to eye on most things concerning life and that is fine with me.

 

[Marvel]

Although I don't hate my mother, I do have to keep my distance with her because my tolerance is low. Us living under the same roof (even as a child) never worked. I grew up and decided to raise my kids differently with less discipline (my mom whooped me for every lil thing until I got too big, then she started trying to fight me). And not embarrass them in front of family by making a spectacle of their bad/embarrassing/private moments.

Sometimes to keep yourself from dishonouring your parents...you got to set limitations. If you visit, set a time limit of how long you talk to them. If you sense an argument is about to spring up, just leave. Some people actually enjoy drama and a combative environment. A lot of people suffer because they try and please their parents too much.

 

[Dominic Brehetto]

I competely cut my mother and father out of my life.

My parents got divorced when I was 4. They used to manipulate me against eachother. I'm sure others who've gone through divorce understand that. My father was a drunk, a drug addict an degenerate. Used to beat me, leave mealone in trap houses surrounded by junkies. When I was 12, an I can still remember every detail of this, my mother sat me down and handed me a newspaper article. It was about a woman being murdered and they had a suspect in custody. She asked me who i thought it was. My heart sank. I sheepishly said my dad? and she nodded. He was convicted and I havent spoken to him since.

For a long while I loved my mother with everything I had, no matter how withdrawn I had become. Even though that love was because she simply wasn't my father.

From ages 13-19 my mother remarried 3 times. Each one more abusive. She was so busytrying to find her own happiness she pretty much forgot I existed. Of course, I had been kicked out at 17 because I stomped out one of her husbands. She kicked me out that same day. She litrally chose that guy over me.

We kept a strained relationship going. She would degrade me every time we talked, tell me I'm just like my father and I'd end up just like him. Say whatever she could to hurt me. Eventually I gave up pretending she had ever been a good person. But, at point I needed help like most people do. I had nowhere to live. I moved in with her. After two weeks she didnt wan me there so she told me to leave but that I had to leave my stuff as payment for staying with her. I smashed in my tv with my bare and until blood andelectronics were littered everywhere. I slept outside for a few weeks until I gota hold of someone who coud help me. That was the last time I spoke to her.

To this day I have trouble maintaining arelationship. Women often become too frustrated with my inabilty to be open.

 

[Mordith]

I don't hate my mom but fukk my dad I don't respect him at all, my step pops raised me so that's my dad.

my bytch ass biological dad pretty much was scared of my step pops when I was a baby and thats why he didn't deal with me.

my uncle whooped his ass and my step pops pulled piece to that nikka dome and told him to leave me and my moms alone.

my step pops and moms been married for almost 20 years.

I don't blame that nikka......

 

[Nino Brown]

 

[Pifferry]

I don't like her. We have nothing in common, she's never taught me any good.morals but tried to shape me into something I wasn't, she lost my three baby brothers, was a horrible influence on my sister, sold drugs, disrespected my Great Grandma who I consider to be my real mom but still have problems with, wad in and out of jail, dated bad men, and she still tried to parent me.
fukk anyone who says you should love your mom just because she's your mom.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Great thread

 

[Nomad1]

My mom's dead

 

[The G.O.D II]

I don't know how a black man can have a bad relationship with momma. The only way thats possible is if she was a pure crackhead. Dads tho. I get a lot of shyt because I barely talk to my dad and nikkas be like "at least you got a pops yada yada" but fukk that. He was a scum bag always. Just scream and get frustrated at me for no reason all the time. Then he remarried to this fat pig who was a judgmental christian freak. The type who breath the bible(didn't wear pants, claimed anyone not saved would burn in hell) I just semi cut him out my life

 

[Pifferry]

I don't know how a black man can have a bad relationship with momma. The only way thats possible is if she was a pure crackhead. Dads tho. I get a lot of shyt because I barely talk to my dad and nikkas be like "at least you got a pops yada yada" but fukk that. He was a scum bag always. Just scream and get frustrated at me for no reason all the time. Then he remarried to this fat pig who was a judgmental christian freak. The type who breath the bible(didn't wear pants, claimed anyone not saved would burn in hell) I just semi cut him out my life

What's not to understand? Because she gave birth to me she automatically deserves my undying love?
No she's s duck up and a BAD parent, get outta here with that
But it's okay to hate your dad huh? fukking ridiculous

 

[GoPro]

Me and moms are neutral. She pretty much did the bare minimum: gave me food, shelter, and gifts. It's difficult to find her greeting cards cause they be talking about love, affection, guidance blah blah blah, but I never got any of that. She was hands off with my education from 6th grade on. Never celebrated birthdays except for a cake up until I was around 15, can't ever remember a birthday party. No hugs. No "I love you's". Nothing. I ain't sad about it or anything, but I promised myself I would be totally different with my kids.

I do stand to inherit a grip though, IF I outlive her.

 

[Dat Migo]

cant relate, my mom is a saint

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

 

[Illuminatos]

My mom used to tell me I'm going to Hell because I wouldn't stop listening to that "filthy and demonic" rap music.

What kind of parent tells their 14 year old kid that they're going to Hell over rap music?

 

[Pifferry]

Here's a few of the things I went through as a little kid:

1) She used to put shyt in my food and threaten me that if I didn't eat it all she'd beat me. So whatever she put in my food made me gag and throw up, and she sat there laughing hysterically and poking me in the head, while I was crying and vomiting all over myself and continuing to try and eat that food she tainted with something.

2) Used to beat the shyt out of me with any and everything she could get her hands on. Belts, cords, rolled up newspapers, shoes, you name it. It got to the point where she would make a sudden move and i'd flinch like I was about to get hit. She saw my reaction to this and found it funny, I think she got off on the power trip.

3) She used to stab me with utensils like forks and knives.

4) Used to cuss at me and take out all her frustrations on me verbally every day. Yelling, cussing, calling me all kinds of names non stop.

5) As I got older she could no longer harm me physically or anything like that so at one point she pulled a gun out on me. She used to start arguments with me on purpose when I was a teenager just so she could escalate them. Again it's like she got off on the power or drama of it all. She even called the cops on me one time because I cussed at her once, even though she pulled the burner out on me and cussed at me like 10000 times right beforehand.

So no I don't have a good relationship with my mom, and frankly don't care if she lives or dies.

So when someone has a bad relationship with their mom, don't assume that person is a bad person or in the wrong. You have no idea what that woman could have done to that person when they were growing up.

My mom's not nearly that bad she's just a consistent stream of fukk ups.
She may have dealt drugs and lied and dated bad men and insulted my grandma and came in and out of jail and lost my three baby brothers and negative influenced my sister and was a hypocrite and disapproved of my personality and tried to force me to become her ideal son but she still loved Mr and wasn't abusive and bought me presents.
No good family memories with her though but gottdamn you went through hell. Glad you held up man.