any of yall were raised around or by narcissists?

[Womb Raider]

Dad is a narcissist. Constantly have to watch how I move and avoid arguments at all costs.

 

[Kornball The Conqueror]

how'd that shyt affect you?

stunted my development, pretty sure I'm suffer from schizoid personality disorder

 

[Dont@Me]

Dad is a narcissist. Constantly have to watch how I move and avoid arguments at all costs.

yup....the walking on eggshells to protect their fragile ass ego is real. Yet, they're the first one to call someone sensitive, but you cannot give them any form of criticism without them raging. Can't stand these people.

stunted my development, pretty sure I'm suffer from schizoid personality disorder

i could see that happening as a defense mechanism. i do find joy in relationships, but extremely rarely seek them out. I have no attachment to any of my family and moved states years ago and never "long" to go back and i don't miss any of them or anything either. I definitely am a loner though. I've lost long-time friendships and kinda just

 

[K.O.N.Y]

just finding out how living with an older narcissistic sibling has affected me and several habits i have to this day that have quite literally fukked up my life.
my behavior, philosophies, way of life, everything is affected by it and i find myself internally raging randomly throughout the day of punchin the head clean off this nikka while i softly whisper in his ear how i wanna end him for good. All those years of abuse that only resurfaced decades later and i got no one to talk to about this shyt that understands or would even want to hear it.


some folks had narcissists as parents which is even worse, but my parents sat by idly while my brother abused me and chucked it up to "sibling rivalry".
it's so deep that i'm honestly resenting my dead dad over this shyt right now.

trust me your not alone bro. And yes im talking about a parent

These types will make you catch a case

Most of this just drifts off into "thats just the way they are" in black communities/households but NO these people have whole personality disorders and it deals with mental health

Doing a deep dive in the MH portion of this helped me deal with it better

 

[WTFisWallace?]

My ol girl is a huge narcissist, my dad is/was the total opposite. They had me at an older age and I'm their youngest child....I didn't think it effected, as my mom left the house when I was around 12 or so. (Separated not divorced, old school Haitians don't divorce, even the woman leaving the house is super odd in Haitian culture)



I never thought it effected me, and in a lot of ways I respected my mom as a woman for moving how she did because it's so against the grain to her culture. Still do in a lot of ways. But her narcissism comes with a lack of emotion for others and is willing to put herself before god and set fire to any relationship she has if it's in defense of her self/own fukk ups.


Didn't realize it effected me (and to a degree passed on to me) til my dad passed last year. She showed her ass on a level that's not really reparable, which led to me reviewing our relationship, family dynamic, and past offenses or lack of care.



In defense of herself or to seek attention, has legit tried to destroy me & my siblings' relationships, marriages, way we view our father. lover her tho

 

[Dont@Me]

trust me your not alone bro. And yes im talking about a parent

These types will make you catch a case

Most of this just drifts off into "thats just the way they are" in black communities/households but NO these people have whole personality disorders and it deals with mental health

Doing a deep dive in the MH portion of this helped me deal with it better

i've started doing this less than a week ago and this is what is resurfacing everything and bringing up these wild emotions.
Maybe this is just the initial phase of getting better (i hope at least), but i hope i don't stay stuck on angry.
All of these "that's just how they are" apologists and enablers need to eat a dikk too, and i'm about done with the toxic positivity and people just wanting everyone to get along. They all gettin cut off. I could curse out my mom and dead dad over letting this abuse fly and fukking me up like this, but part of me knows that they don't even know the half (i don't even know if that makes it better).

 

[Menna]

just finding out how living with an older narcissistic sibling has affected me and several habits i have to this day that have quite literally fukked up my life.
my behavior, philosophies, way of life, everything is affected by it and i find myself internally raging randomly throughout the day of punchin the head clean off this nikka while i softly whisper in his ear how i wanna end him for good. All those years of abuse that only resurfaced decades later and i got no one to talk to about this shyt that understands or would even want to hear it.


some folks had narcissists as parents which is even worse, but my parents sat by idly while my brother abused me and chucked it up to "sibling rivalry".
it's so deep that i'm honestly resenting my dead dad over this shyt right now.

Bro get away from the Narcissist or sociopath or histrionic or cluster B personality disordered human… there is no changing or fixing create your own life just about everyone has narcissistic tendencies but a real narcissist will bring everyone around them down there is no getting even or getting over but you can move on and create a life for yourself…This is the best explanation I can find vid is below

. My friend of 20 years was a narcissist him and his wife wanted me to fukk his wife while he watched…They named me godfather to their child…I got out of that and disappeared…You can keep your brother at a healthy distance while you make money and stay healthy… there’s no one there brah it’s just a machine operating on emotions mostly lower negative emotions…get away

What you are dealing with if you choose to deal with it

 

[WTFisWallace?]

And yes im talking about a parent

These types will make you catch a case

Most of this just drifts off into "thats just the way they are" in black communities/households but NO these people have whole personality disorders and it deals with mental health

I definitely ascribed to the "that's just the way they are" stuff, especially with family. But there's gotta be limits. Unfortunately as family (from her children, husband, sisters) we let my mom go way past that limit. But after last year, I had to stop communication outside of major family events. The lack of access to me, somehow triggers her more into a defense/attack mentality.



My brother has seen it for a a while but I always blew it off, but last year while my dad was on his death bed.....saw a look in my mom's eye that had me like

damn near some evil Split shyt going on

 

[BandOfGypsys]

I suspect my Mother, she definitely fits most of the traits.

 

[Dont@Me]

Bro get away from the Narcissist or sociopath or histrionic or cluster B personality disordered human… there is no changing or fixing create your own life just about everyone has narcissistic tendencies but a real narcissist will bring everyone around them down there is no getting even or getting over but you can move on and create a life for yourself…This is the best explanation I can find vid is below

. My friend of 20 years was a narcissist him and his wife wanted me to fukk his wife while he watched…They named me godfather to their child…I got out of that and disappeared…You can keep your brother at a healthy distance while you make money and stay healthy… there’s no one there brah it’s just a machine operating on emotions mostly lower negative emotions…get away

What you are dealing with if you choose to deal with it

I've been no contact from my brother for over a year ain't no way i'm "loving him from a distance". I fully hate that nikka and wish him a lifetime of torture before he even expires . He had a majory surgery months ago and i felt nothing but apathy and never checked up on him or anything. I've clearly got worse (or beginning to get better) since then, because i'm far past the point of apathy and am angry now.


thanks for the video. i've been watching a lot of Dr. Ramani's videos



you seem to know wussup to stay away from these people, which i usually do anyway....i just never was able to deep dive into it because i didn't know he was a legitimate textbook narcissist.

 

[Dont@Me]

I definitely ascribed to the "that's just the way they are" stuff, especially with family. But there's gotta be limits. Unfortunately as family (from her children, husband, sisters) we let my mom go way past that limit. But after last year, I had to stop communication outside of major family events. The lack of access to me, somehow triggers her more into a defense/attack mentality.



My brother has seen it for a a while but I always blew it off, but last year while my dad was on his death bed.....saw a look in my mom's eye that had me like

damn near some evil Split shyt going on

let me guess.....she plays the, "boy, i'm yo MAMA!" card to guilt trip you into accepting her negative ways huh?

 

[K.O.N.Y]

i've started doing this less than a week ago and this is what is resurfacing everything and bringing up these wild emotions.
Maybe this is just the initial phase of getting better (i hope at least), but i hope i don't stay stuck on angry.
All of these "that's just how they are" apologists and enablers need to eat a dikk too, and i'm about done with the toxic positivity and people just wanting everyone to get along. They all gettin cut off. I could curse out my mom and dead dad over letting this abuse fly and fukking me up like this, but part of me knows that they don't even know the half (i don't even know if that makes it better).

Yea but u have to take into account that a lot of elders weren't looking at this from a neuro ,more scientific perspective, mostly was just maybe spiritual at best

I forgave alot of ignorance for that reason. They are not using the same tools you are using to make assessments

Finding out that all this time you were dealing with a person with a social disorder, is like watching a movie with a major plot twist at the end

One that makes you look at all the scenes differently from the beginning when you go back through it

Thats basically me making sense of why this person was acting this way since my childhood.

 

[Menna]

I've been no contact from my brother for over a year ain't no way i'm "loving him from a distance". I fully hate that nikka and wish him a lifetime of torture before he even expires . He had a majory surgery months ago and i felt nothing but apathy and never checked up on him or anything. I've clearly got worse (or beginning to get better) since then, because i'm far past the point of apathy and am angry now.


thanks for the video. i've been watching a lot of Dr. Ramani's videos



you seem to know wussup to stay away from these people, which i usually do anyway....i just never was able to deep dive into it because i didn't know he was a legitimate textbook narcissist.

I’ve listen to her she’s good the guy I posted has been in the game longer…

I only hinted at “keeping in touch” cause he is blood meaning a happy birthday text or happy holidays shyt…but if you don’t feel like it you prob better off going no contact…for now.

I don’t know how old you are but when you were young you prob surpressed a lot of the trauma so you could survive and now it’s coming to the surface…

I would continue to learn about the condition watch the vids learn , meditate, go make some money and workout…

I would guess your not 60 years old so your life isn’t over you will get better through learning about the condition and you have to give it time…

I had to leave two little girls to get away one was a god daughter I never thought I’d have to do that…leaving grown adult friends who cares but I know I hurt those kids your brother is older than you and a dikk … this ain’t no thing sign up for online therapy shyt if you need it or just live life and things will fade…create a goal…learn an instrument or get a part time job make money and interact with more people…get out there create a different life…

The good news is you aren’t the narcissist the trauma is like dirt on you it will wash off it’s not you … stay up

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

You gotta cut a narcissistic completely off and not even entertain 1% of the bullshyt. Just cut them out your life. If you passive they gonna manipulate the fukk out of you. If you confrontational it’s just gonna be arguments and toxic shyt all the time. Having a zero tolerance for fukk shyt better is the best thing you can do for peace of mind. If I was a mental health professional I would prescribe zerotolerance pills. Made by No fukk shyt Rx. 1000 milligrams per pill. Im taxing too. I need $40 a pill. No wholesale. All breakdowns

 

[Menna]

because i'm far past the point of apathy and am angry now.

You are angry because of the negative effects he had on you and the time wasted not being able to be yourself and you had his narcissistic influence on you now you realize it and also realize there’s more work to do to get over it or come to terms…yea it’s a lot of time wasted or not spent being who you could of been but what can you do you didn’t pick him as a brother the only sin here is what you do with the knowledge you have now … you know better and are in more control of your life make better choices for your life everyday …6 months from now you good…we have things we have to do everyday every week every month to be successful here there’s no time to waste you were already sidetracked it’s time to course correct…Take care of yourself