blatantlyobvious
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I was browsing the forums today and I ran across this interesting thread on the "key to longevity in relationships", and my response to it got me really thinking about how human thoughts and behaviors are rapidly evolving. My response is as follows:
*The key to longevity in an open relationship is to be willing to be share your partner with someone else--aka expose yourself to the wealth of STI's than you already are when with a single partner in a (seemingly) committed relationship.
The harsh reality of it all is that open relationships are more-so for the young who are not fully ready to commit themselves to a single person for an extended amount of time than it is the people with experience in not only "the gay world" but the real world and the dating scene. So many young men and women--gay, straight, and bi alike--are so sex-driven that many of our elders view us as the generation incapable of loving... as if we all truly lack the capacity for love. As sad as that is, it seems to be true. When you meet a guy, whether it's online or at the club or at Wal-Mart, he may tell you that he's looking for friendship, but in reality, he's predominantly looking for sex and the relationship--friendship--aspect of it may or may not be necessary afterwards.
Of course this is neither true for all young men nor is it limited to just us; there are plenty young guys out there that are willing to give you their all, committing to an honest, closed/monogamous relationship, and there are older gents that are completely opposite of this. This has certainly evolved since the now seemingly archaic concepts of monogamy have somehow meshed into polygamy, or polygyny in our case.
Since it varies from person-to-person, there is nothing that can be universally done to organize this, and there are so many people condoning this lifestyle that it's pointless to advocate against it. All we can do is watch what happens as the years go by. I'm sure the diseases will evolve, the idea of love will be a figment of our imaginations--a piece of our past--and sexuality's fluidity will be more recognized and practiced, possibly removing the need for orientation-related denominations, as more and more people are starting to identify as simply "them" (meaning they are neither gay, bi, or straight--they are simply "them"--they are attracted to anyone that attracts them regardless of gender).
Brace yourselves; evolution is more than physical--the evolution of thought is where it'll begin.*
What do you guys think of this? Do you see this happening? More and more people are self-identifying as nondenominational on so many levels beyond religiously that I can see sexual orientation truly being a thing of our past soon.
I, too, as a comfortable, openly gay man, have thought about the possibility of falling for a woman in my future because I have found myself attracted to masculine lesbians. The problem I'm faced with is my dissatisfaction with vagina. Of course, if I wanted to be procreative, I would certainly try to have vaginal intercourse with a biological woman to keep my bloodline going, but I would have to work around my dislike for vagina. I would have to find a way to keep my dikk hard when having sex with them--blocking out their feminine appeal and moans while having sex with them (yuck). My attraction to masculine, lesbian women, however, is not homosexual, bisexual, nor heterosexual--it's pretty much undefined, if not androphilia. My heterosexual behavior expressed when having procreative sex with the opposite sex does not shift my orientation from homosexual to bisexual or heterosexual, either--it is just a behavior. I am not affectionally, or romantically, oriented towards the same sex (at least to date), and I am sure that these same statements can be made by a lot of gay men in our queer society. Hell, I have even witnessed this behavior being exhibited in the heterosexual communities with the girls and guys that are simply having sex with the same sex for pleasure or experimentation whilst sticking to leading a predominantly heterosexual life, dating members of the opposite sex as they are who they are affectionally attracted to.
I won't babble too much on this since I am very curious to know what all of you think about. Please be critical when responding to this forum topic, guys. I know it is a lot to take in, and your responses do not have to be as drawn as mine, but be logical, respectful, and open-minded. I don't want to have to block insolent trolling. I just want to see where everyone's head is at in regards to this evolving thought. I am looking forward to your insightful and interesting responses, so thanks in advance.
Dee
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*The key to longevity in an open relationship is to be willing to be share your partner with someone else--aka expose yourself to the wealth of STI's than you already are when with a single partner in a (seemingly) committed relationship.
The harsh reality of it all is that open relationships are more-so for the young who are not fully ready to commit themselves to a single person for an extended amount of time than it is the people with experience in not only "the gay world" but the real world and the dating scene. So many young men and women--gay, straight, and bi alike--are so sex-driven that many of our elders view us as the generation incapable of loving... as if we all truly lack the capacity for love. As sad as that is, it seems to be true. When you meet a guy, whether it's online or at the club or at Wal-Mart, he may tell you that he's looking for friendship, but in reality, he's predominantly looking for sex and the relationship--friendship--aspect of it may or may not be necessary afterwards.
Of course this is neither true for all young men nor is it limited to just us; there are plenty young guys out there that are willing to give you their all, committing to an honest, closed/monogamous relationship, and there are older gents that are completely opposite of this. This has certainly evolved since the now seemingly archaic concepts of monogamy have somehow meshed into polygamy, or polygyny in our case.
Since it varies from person-to-person, there is nothing that can be universally done to organize this, and there are so many people condoning this lifestyle that it's pointless to advocate against it. All we can do is watch what happens as the years go by. I'm sure the diseases will evolve, the idea of love will be a figment of our imaginations--a piece of our past--and sexuality's fluidity will be more recognized and practiced, possibly removing the need for orientation-related denominations, as more and more people are starting to identify as simply "them" (meaning they are neither gay, bi, or straight--they are simply "them"--they are attracted to anyone that attracts them regardless of gender).
Brace yourselves; evolution is more than physical--the evolution of thought is where it'll begin.*
What do you guys think of this? Do you see this happening? More and more people are self-identifying as nondenominational on so many levels beyond religiously that I can see sexual orientation truly being a thing of our past soon.
I, too, as a comfortable, openly gay man, have thought about the possibility of falling for a woman in my future because I have found myself attracted to masculine lesbians. The problem I'm faced with is my dissatisfaction with vagina. Of course, if I wanted to be procreative, I would certainly try to have vaginal intercourse with a biological woman to keep my bloodline going, but I would have to work around my dislike for vagina. I would have to find a way to keep my dikk hard when having sex with them--blocking out their feminine appeal and moans while having sex with them (yuck). My attraction to masculine, lesbian women, however, is not homosexual, bisexual, nor heterosexual--it's pretty much undefined, if not androphilia. My heterosexual behavior expressed when having procreative sex with the opposite sex does not shift my orientation from homosexual to bisexual or heterosexual, either--it is just a behavior. I am not affectionally, or romantically, oriented towards the same sex (at least to date), and I am sure that these same statements can be made by a lot of gay men in our queer society. Hell, I have even witnessed this behavior being exhibited in the heterosexual communities with the girls and guys that are simply having sex with the same sex for pleasure or experimentation whilst sticking to leading a predominantly heterosexual life, dating members of the opposite sex as they are who they are affectionally attracted to.
I won't babble too much on this since I am very curious to know what all of you think about. Please be critical when responding to this forum topic, guys. I know it is a lot to take in, and your responses do not have to be as drawn as mine, but be logical, respectful, and open-minded. I don't want to have to block insolent trolling. I just want to see where everyone's head is at in regards to this evolving thought. I am looking forward to your insightful and interesting responses, so thanks in advance.
Dee
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