Am I wrong for this (Bushed a friend of 20+ years for being a racist Republikkkan POS)

[feelosofer]

Naw that's what dude really think of Black people then he was never really your friend.

 

[King Static X]

You shouldn't have been "friends" with him to begin with.

 

[Prodyson]

TL:DR version...I had a meltdown and cussed out a former friend of almost 30 years and told him we ain't cool after he called me wanting to "reconnect" after not talking for 6 years and completely ended our friendship (that was already strained).

Spoiler: PART 1

Backstory abbreviated (cause I know yall want it short and sweet... knew this person since 1992...since when George Bush Sr. was President. Went to the same grade school. Went to the same high school. Went to the same college. White guy. Back in the day this guy was ridiculed by damn near everybody...especially in High school and college years. Women called him nerdy and awkward. He would have the worst sense of humor. He just be obnoxious and say the worst things at the wrong times. He would be saying racist shyt thinking it was hilarious...which pissed me off to the point I didn't even want to be around him anymore. Same with the friends I was around. They even told me not to bring him around cause they thought he was racist and obnoxious.

This guy was a Republican too...that supposedly gave it up during the Bush Jr. years. Back then I would entertain it as a difference of opinion.

Spoiler: PART 2

We hung out in my college years...which was a mistake on my part trying to mix old friends and new friends. I admit it. One night in the fall of 2007, we were on the way to a college party and I got jumped by 5 people over a 10 dollar bag of weed. And instead of defend me...this guy runs to a bar 5 blocks away leaving me to die (if I didn't run into that college party all bloodied up, I would of died). I had to get stitches in my right eyebrow (I told this story on SOHH way back when it happened in the fall of 2007).

After that incident I was really looking at this guy cross he never really formally apologized to me either.

Spoiler: PART 3

A year after that...he moved to Baltimore. And for a while when I was still living in Pittsburgh I would go visit him in Baltimore and hang out. Each time I would go up there I would feel less compelled to visit him cause he never really changed his ways. He got a job with JohN Hopkins and once got money...turned into a complete a$$hole. Talking down on me...trying to give me game on women when he was getting rejected by women left and right in the past...talking down on my accomplishments...talking down on my goals...after a while I got so sick of it.

What really made me question if I should hang out with this person was on my 28th birthday weekend and we were in Brooklyn at the Mad Decent Block Party almost 11 years ago...me, him, and his roomate (This lame white guy from some state like New Hampshire of some shyt)
traveled to NYC from Baltimore for it. They were just completely killing the vibe with their bullshyt. We're around a bunch of seksy Black women and Latinas from BK waiting in line for the concert amd this motherfukker is making Trayvon Martin/George Zimmerman jokes.

I was so pissed shyt nearly fukking ruined my whole time at the concert. Then they just nagged about EVERYTHING...about it being too hot...about the people at the concert...about the weedsmoke...the novelty of our friendship had completely worn off.

Spoiler: PART 4

2015 comes...I ended up homeless for a bit...and called him looking for him to help out...he basically told me on the phone to stop talking to him and couldn't even give me 5 bucks for food.

So then, after I got myself together later in 2016...he texts me with a meme of Darryl Strawberry (we had an inside joke about him) and then I realized that inside joke was about clowning Black Men as deug addicted failures...i told him don't call me anymore...don't text me anymore...lose my number with your fukking racist ass!

Then he says, " I'm not racist I date Black Women..."
Nevermind the Black Women he dated said he was racist too (which is why they broke up with him). At that point I had already forgotten about our convo and wanted him to go away.

Spoiler: PART 5

6 years later...he calls me again...this time he's using a woman I used to have a crush on in high school as a way to weasel back into a conversation. I guess she was in Baltimore and he randomly met up with her He calls my phone 5 back to back times and texts me a pic of him and her. I was in Walgreens running errands so I didn't pick up the phone. As soon as I came back to my apartment and answered the phone I just lost it on him. I screamed "fukk YOU YOU fukkING RACIST PIECE OF shyt!" Into the phone as loud as possible and hung up.

Then we got into a back and forth argument. I told him again to lose my number, don't talk to me...we ain't cool. I found out he voted for Trump too and called him a racist republican. I told him about how he almost left me to die at that college party 15 years ago...then he responded by saying "i would give you the shirt off my back".

Then he talks down to me. He says "you're a real smart guy" like I'm a fukking child on not older than him...then he said something about working with Black Men that were mentally ill and drug addicts...and I was so offended.

I texted him back..."so that's what you think of me? You think all Black Men are mentally ill drug addicted fukk ups you racist?" You know how offensive that is???"


Then he just texts back
"Blocked"
"Take care"


Then he texted me back all angry
"@Unknown Poster that fukking message!!!

Was I wrong or was I right?


My mom and grandma think I was being too harsh...but when I said I stopped talking to him cause he was racist...they didn't have anything to say. My Dad agreed with me and said he was proud of me and said I should of done it sooner.

I stopped reading at making Trayvon Martin jokes, though I could have stopped earlier based on other out of pocket stuff that would have already made me dead that friendship.

Wtf is wrong with you? That “friendship” shouldn’t have lasted past high school, at best.

 

[Lurkio]

shyt like this really makes me question why I post here…I could never be around some of you

This shyt was so pathetic to read…y has this cac been in your life this long? are y’all gay?

 

[Mike Nasty]

Boooooooooooy

That might be the dumbest question you could ask on this board given the FIVE SPOILERS. And you about 38-39?

Your forgiving personality is disturbing. You owe your grand parents a conversation on what they went through.

He's Nigerian

 

[Ty Daniels]

Breh, arguing with White Folks, about Racism, is a WASTE OF TIME.

Once he displayed his Racist Bullshyt, you should have bushed him then.

ZERO "Second Chances"!!!

Better yet, you shouldn't have given him a "First Chance"

 

[Sir Richard Spirit]

Y’all was fukking

 

[Kuma the Bear]

He should have been bushed after he made those Trayvon jokes. The fact that he turned you away after asking him for help due to homelessness clearly shows that he wasn't worth being in your life.

Now who voted "Yes"

 

[Tasha And]

 

[Unknown Poster]

Damn you kept around a racist cracker for some 30 years still getting into text arguments with him. You prolly staring at your phone waiting for him to text you so you can give him another piece of your mind ol sassy ass nikka

I actually talked to him less than 5 times since 2012.
When i moved to NYC 11 years ago, we stopped talking.

I should of said that in my intro post.

Sorry for the misclarification.

 

[Unknown Poster]

OP exposing himself as a lame.

It's always the most militant guys on the internet that have (racist) white friends irl

We haven't been cool for 11 years.
I haven't hung out with him in that frame.

 

[Still Benefited]

Lets be honest OP,this was really about him taking a picture with your old crush#RenderUntoCeasar

 

[Unknown Poster]

shyt first incident was enough

And I ain't even afraid to say I fukked up there.
I had a change of heart over the years.
I'll admit, I used to have some c00nish...shameful ways about me.


The older I got...and the more I started appreciating myself and understanding myself as black Man and loving my people...all those people I used to associate with back in the day I threw in the bushes. Imma keep it real.

Living in NyC changed me. My circle became more Black and Spanish and I realize I was embarassed of who I used to be and changed myself.

Like I'm not gonna lie. I knew this would have people on this board looking at me funny...and I don't blame you.

I changed.
I saw the error of my ways.
And I switched it up.
I aint even afraid to say that.

 

[Unknown Poster]

Serious question Breh OP and no disrespect. Didn't you post a similar incident a while back concerning the same situation?

Yeah. I did.
I kind of held off on talking about it cause I was nervous. But since this board has been so receptive I ain't afraid to talk about it.
That's why I don't even mind the jokes. I know a lot of this makes me look bad...that's why I had to change my circle and throw a lot of people into the bushes from my older years.

I just don't like people trying to reconnect from back in the days that I already threw into the bushes and part of me thinks I overreacted then again...no.

 

[RennisDeynolds]

Seem like he's been the same since forever. Should have dropped him after high school


Sidenote: every "cool white boy" you ever knew from high school became a Maga Trumper