All my single 30plus year ol coli females.....still have hope on marriage?

[Turbulent]

My opinion is, IN GENERAL, if you're a woman and you want to be happily married and have a long prosperous and successful marriage, you increase your odds if you marry younger and choose a principled man above all. Not saying you can't still lose but you're putting the odds on your side.

If you are an older woman, it doesn't mean you can't be happy in a prosperous marriage though. The bottom line is that we're all trying to be the happiest we can throughout our lives. The trick is to learn to formulate a plan for you happiness in the longterm. You need to map it out. One of the things i've learned this year is that happiness is a choice. another thing that i've learned is that there is no such thing as "deserve" or "owe". You don't "deserve" a certain type of man. Based on men's perception, certain men will choose you because you have what they want. If these men aren't enough for you, you will have 3 choices. Step your game up, lower your standards, or wait. Forget "fair", "double standards", "deserve" etc. This is how the world works. You decide to be happy or not. You decide on how you view things. You decide on if you lie to yourself or not to protect your ego.

EDIT: re-reading myself, i'm kinda rambling and forgot where i was going with this, lol

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

She doesn't count.......I don't know what she looks like but if her mindset resembles most of her posts and she's at least a 6 in the face with a decent body.......She'll always have quality options.............





















































You better not be no dude either..........

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

No, it's called going to a top tier university and taking multiple courses in biology and sociology The only way I can see that working is if you put a baby in her stomach at some point and turn her into a housewife

Ok..I'll play along...What's the hard science behind a woman's sex drive increasing after the age of 23?

 

[Ashley Banks]

Not in their age bracket........Don't know how you overlooked that....My cousin is a good dude...Pescetarian and what not, and homey don't even look 40....Plus his wife makes more than him...

Now my much older partner(more like a father figure actually),,,,I have no idea...His wife was cute too but I don't know what she does for a living....However, judging by her looks she could have gotten someone 45 as opposed to 55....but my partner a real cat though....so...

Why would you count men in their age bracket though? Don't you guys always say that women date older and men date younger, so wouldn't that mean you go to even older dudes for older women?

So women over 30 do in fact have options. So I don't think the 30+ (under 40) women in this thread have anything to worry about.

My opinion is, IN GENERAL, if you're a woman and you want to be happily married and have a long prosperous and successful marriage, you increase your odds if you marry younger and choose a principled man above all. Not saying you can't still lose but you're putting the odds on your side.

If you are an older woman, it doesn't mean you can't be happy in a prosperous marriage though. The bottom line is that we're all trying to be the happiest we can throughout our lives. The trick is to learn to formulate a plan for you happiness in the longterm. You need to map it out. One of the things i've learned this year is that happiness is a choice. another thing that i've learned is that there is no such thing as "deserve" or "owe". You don't "deserve" a certain type of man. Based on men's perception, certain men will choose you because you have what they want. If these men aren't enough for you, you will have 3 choices. Step your game up, lower your standards, or wait. Forget "fair", "double standards", "deserve" etc. This is how the world works. You decide to be happy or not. You decide on how you view things. You decide on if you lie to yourself or not to protect your ego.

My dad told me not to get married in my 20s. He said wait until I'm in my 30s (not exactly 30) and marry a dude in his mid to late 40s. I would rather do that. Then get married now.

 

[MikelArteta]

I thought women in their 30s didn't have options though. Now they're getting married and having kids.

not with quality men in their age range

 

[Turbulent]

Why would you count men in their age bracket though? Don't you guys always say that women date older and men date younger, so wouldn't that mean you go to even older dudes for older women?

So women over 30 do in fact have options. So I don't think the 30+ (under 40) women in this thread have anything to worry about.



My dad told me not to get married in my 20s. He said wait until I'm in my 30s (not exactly 30) and marry a dude in his mid to late 40s. I would rather do that. Then get married now.

what's your dad's reasoning?

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Why would you count men in their age bracket though? Don't you guys always say that women date older and men date younger, so wouldn't that mean you go to even older dudes for older women?

So women over 30 do in fact have options. So I don't think the 30+ (under 40) women in this thread have anything to worry about.



My dad told me not to get married in my 20s. He said wait until I'm in my 30s (not exactly 30) and marry a dude in his mid to late 40s. I would rather do that. Then get married now.

I always thought you had a lot of promise young lady

But like Reincar said, not quality in their age range perse....These guys I'm referring too are high quality dudes nonetheless

 

[Danny Up]

if a woman in her 30's doesn't have kids, i'd marry her. Even if her chances of having kids are slim, it's better than marrying a 30 year old with grown kids and no desire or ability to have anymore.

 

[Ashley Banks]

not with quality men in their age range

I thought women dated older men though?

Or do women only date older men when they're in their 20s then start dating men their age once they turn 30?

Weren't you arguing with @Poitier about age gaps between couples? why would that change for older women?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I thought women dated older men though?

Or do women only date older men when they're in their 20s then start dating men their age once they turn 30?

Weren't you arguing with @Poitier about age gaps between couples? why would that change for older women?

It wouldn't. They don't know what they're talking about. They just wanted to make us feel desperate.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I always thought you had a lot of promise young lady

But like Reincar said, not quality in their age range perse....These guys I'm referring too are high quality dudes nonetheless

 

[Poitier]

Ok..I'll play along...What's the hard science behind a woman's sex drive increasing after the age of 23?

fertility decreases exponentially after 30 yet culturally and perceptually most women self-report feeling most comfortable knowing themselves sexually and exploring themselves sexually in their 30s. A sort of perfect storm with their biological clocks ticking. You throw in a 6-10 year age gap and that's the nail in the coffin. Like I said however, you put a baby in her the first 5 years of marriage and get her then you have nothing to worry about.

 

[MikelArteta]

I thought women dated older men though?

Or do women only date older men when they're in their 20s then start dating men their age once they turn 30?

Weren't you arguing with @Poitier about age gaps between couples? why would that change for older women?

tahjts my juicy remembering everything

 

[Ashley Banks]

what's your dad's reasoning?

He just said If I do it later in life, I won't regret it. He thinks people live should their lives before they get married. Plus the guy will be more mature and so will I so we have a better chance at lasting. Don't know how true it is but all the older guys I've spoken to about this agree with him. The only time I've seen or heard something different is on here.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I thought women dated older men though?

Or do women only date older men when they're in their 20s then start dating men their age once they turn 30?

Weren't you arguing with @Poitier about age gaps between couples? why would that change for older women?

I think his stance was that it didn't happen at all and that the average gap in age difference for married couples was 2.5...And from my experiences, women marry older guys often...That was the point that I was trying to get across