I wonder how many of you guys in here are fathers...
There is a line between being abusive & doing it as a matter of discipline...
I have two boys, a 12yr old & 4yr old.
I remember about a year or so ago my oldest went to the store with his mother(my wife) and she told him he's not getting a toy this trip to the store because he thinks he's supposed to always get one. So he stole some cars or something from the store.
I asked him why he did it, and I explained to him before I spanked with a belt why I did it. Being a black child, if they would've caught him, there's no telling what the white supremacists wouldve did. It was about teaching him consequences for actions..
My little one is really active but I don't even have to raise my voice, they have a fear of me in the sense of not doing things I don't approve of. I'm not their friend first, I'm their father but I'm teaching my oldest who is a JR that he's a reflection of me when he walks out of the house and I hope he makes wiser choices than I did.
As far as AD, he maybe shouldve kept that to himself. But I know the local media and even different poster on redskins sites were saying they didn't want him on the team at first because of that incident but now suck his dikk weekly saying he's the MVP of our team. Society has changed so much from the 90's from when I was raised till now.
Repped
As a father myself I really value and feel fraternal with the opinion of other fathers.
I agree that People don’t understand the difference between discipline and abuse.
My child is five and I can count on one hand how many spankings he’s got in his life, but he KNOWS that if we get past the “talk level”, or the “punishment” level which is no toys or electronics and he has to sit down and think about what he’s doing wrong, then he’s treading on ass spanking level. Which rarely happens cause he KNOWS he don’t want that. Even though it’s only a couple smacks on the but with pants on at this age ( if I ever have to go ass whooping level when he gets older I’m breaking out the belt
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I then have a talk with him to make sure he understands that his behaviour was FAR too out of line and this is why that action was taken after several warnings, and that he understands.
He’s much more disciplined than his cousins who DONT get disciplined physically and basically overpower thier parents by yelling and screaming when thier parents try and talk to them. I can see the frustration and embarrassment in their parents.
My wife’s brother and cousin both married white women who don’t believe in hitting kids(one of them is an early childhood teacher) and anybody who sees our kids together automatically notices my child is the most disciplined one.
I’m sorry, but it’s hard for me to take opinions on parenting from people who don’t have kids.
If people can’t tell the difference between discipline and abuse then that’s on them.