Men value women based on how women are valued by other men. Black women have a harder time getting relationships with black men on average and I do strongly believe that affects many black mans perception of how valuable black women are. As much as women want to, a man cannit understand motherhood or what it's like to be a woman. It doesn't affect them the same.I think this is most important. Even if mom and dad aren't together, the son needs to see a man respecting a woman period. And most of these men don't see other men doing it. They end up hating mom, and I'm not saying she is perfect. But men need to see men respecting women. And that is a problem in our community.