Bums do get shamed and they are a minority sleeping with a “majority” who gets nonaccountability and are seen as heros for ruining lives.Ain’t nobody a divestor, agent, etc. I haven’t dated white men. Stop.
I saw this shyt online and thought I might get one more plat before the year ended.
I’ve commented in a few other threads since this and this is my first time stepping in here after making it. I didn’t actually think it’d get to 8 pages.
NOW, what I will say is that the single-mother automatically = child going to jail thing is rampant in these online videos and it’s ridiculous, but I will most certainly acknowledge how necessary a father is in the household/life of a child and how lost a child could be without his influence and guidance.
In the end, I think we need to focus on telling both sexes how to be more responsible.
I feel like we keep skirting around the issue.
YES a lot of these women make stupid decisions when it comes to the men they share their bodies with, AND a lot of these men make stupid decisions to not be around for the kid they created. This isn’t ONLY going to be solved by women just not having sex. We need a culture that teaches BOTH sexes to value moving on to the mature stage of life and having kids within wedlock.
Shyt is outrageous in our community because BOTH sexes lack shame. There are other cultures where the women don’t want to get pregnant out of wedlock AND the men also feel shame for possibly creating children out of wedlock. How to WE go back to being a culture where both the women AND men are shamed for shytty behavior?
It’s shameful to spread your legs for a bum, a scammer, a dude who already has kids out of wedlock.
But it should be equally as shameful to BE a bum, a scammer, or a dude who has a child out of wedlock.
We have ppl who are not emotionally and financially equipped to have children creating lives and putting kids in fukked up situations where they may have no supervision or guidance that keeps them from being influenced by the streets. Thus, jail.
We gotta deal with the poverty/low-incomes. The bad neighborhoods. The people who for whatever reason can’t use condoms and birth control. The people who think marriage is a more serious commitment than creating LIFE.
So the whataboutism shyt gotta stop. Men who aint even bums are getting shytted on while the women are being glorifed by mama you the mvp ent