@Prynce listen, I been there, breh. Disassociate yourself from niceness and switch to a merit-based system in which even getting a smile will cost someone an arm and a leg.
You offer nothing more than you get in return, so you dont be out here spreading the love like a lil bytch
You need to be a walking black hole, breh. They dont reflect light, and they swallow everything within reach. Being nice usually means having empathy and an unreasonable willingness to self-sacrifice for folks who wouldnt loan you a dirty sock to cover up a bloody wound with.
Think more in terms of "you". What do you want and what would make you happy. If kowtowing to someone else doesnt further that goal, discard pleasantries. Move on. Family and friends get first crack at your benevolence, everyone else can eat a dikk and lick the balls. Only then are you free to instill your energy in those who deserve it, and not any person walking around so they dont "think you a re a bad guy." Newsflash, those people you hold the door open for dont give a fukk about you. They wont ask you about your day or listen to your story when you need an ear. Extend no courtesy to those who dont immediately enrich your life.
Granted, dont be an unrepentant a$$hole, but make your "niceness" be your reward to good people, not your default setting. Your niceness probably also keeps you from saying what you really want, because you and I came up to believe we have to be sensitive to other peoples plight before we address our own.
fukk that. You say what needs to be said and be ready to walk if people dont like it. If your lifes mission isnt to have a bountiful number of friends and people who adore you that arent related, switch your style up.
Want friends who are girls? Keep doing what you doing. Want girls to be attracted to you? Do something to spark emotions. Nice guys dont spark emotions without dumb luck. fukk luck.
You should be who you want to be, not for anyone else, not even your parents.
Respect, playa.
