They cant get the women they want. Can't want an IG model and just be a regular dude
Thats the thing though, most dudes aren't realistically chasing those types of chicks. If you see the girls most of these guys feel bad about not getting, 90% of coli consensus would be she is basic or something...trust that regular dudes for the most part want regular women. What they dont have is patience and/or ability to schmooze
And acquire them. It becomes this feedback loop of trying to get at one chick, failing, and self sabotaging every attempt thereafter. Or its the guys who befriend women but never take the romantic leap, or wait until after she firmly planted him in friend territory to do so.