23.5 Million Women Live Alone In America

[Magic Mulatto]

I STARTED THIS COMPASSION SHIIT

N THIS THE MUFUCCIN THANKS I GET?

 

[SleezyBigSlim]

I have Never met a women thats happy being single

I have never met a married happy women

I never met a happy woman

 

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No women are gonna have to hold this L. You forget about all the media about single women complaining about a lack of men to date when that wall comes for them.

Generally women are more independent in the west nowadays and especially in the Black community there's an emphasis on sex and less on marriage.

Even if you want to use the stat about men being healthier married. That maybe true but women are way waaaaaaay waaaaaay more wealthier while married. Women seem to forget that.

Theres no L to hold. Marriage isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, especially for women, so they are smart to exercise caution towards the institution instead of caving into societal pressure. Pressure we can even see being applied in this thread and every thread we have about marriage or single women Lol!

Dudes legit lose their absolute shyt if a woman even mentions enjoying the single life. She ain’t even gotta be bashing men. Just the idea of a woman enjoying being single makes some dudes go full retard. WHY?!

Chicks aren’t even saying it CAN’T benefit women, but acting like it’s should be the be all end all for women when many are clearly suffering in them is irresponsible.

Marriage these days is a crap shoot and does absolutely nothing to guarantee anything for a woman especially as more women increasingly become breadwinners, but it can come with a LOT of stress and not even the guarantee of protection and provision. Meanwhile, if a chick does decide to pump brakes, you’d think as much as some of these dudes allegedly hate on women, they’d be happy that a lot are beginning to think more critically about it instead of just wanting to get with somebody just to say you got somebody.

But that’s not the case. Which is baffling. These dudes literally complain all damn day long about women.
We evil. Bitter. Single. Conviving. Trying to pressure men into marriage. Lying. Don’t wanna be friends with em. Fukk these hoes. Not marriage material. Aggravating. #GMB. Don’t do it, reconsider. Ole ball and chain. Child support!

But as soon as a chick agrees and says “Yeah guys, I ain’t that eager to get married either!”
Same idiots get overly sensitive, and legit hurt on some

“Y-you can’t get happy without me!!!”
“Y-YOU LYING! You not having fun!”
“Y-you betta hurry up or u gon die alone!”
“FEMINIST!”
“YOU BITTER!”

There’s gotta be a better way to have a more mature discussion about the benefits and disadvantages of marriage for women instead of dudes literally getting ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL the way in their feelings to insult single women in a flawed attempt to scare or shame them down an aisle that many men themselves are allegedly and loudly against.

Ole “I can not like carrots but you lying if you don’t like em” head asses.

I love men but sometimes, ya’ll be trippin. Hard.

 

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I think the problem is people project their insecurities onto others in this conversation. Where does the idea of a woman enjoying the single life, imply that she wouldn’t also enjoy a relationship?
It seems like a lot of men feel unneeded or unwanted when women say they are enjoying the single life and it causes them to lash out.

Women thinking critically about their relationships is a good thing. It doesn’t mean men are unappreciated or unneeded or unloved. But the reality is that a lot of traditions we’ve raised women to identify with, haven’t been as good or healthy for them as promised. But you can’t even discuss it without dudes automatically defaulting to “W-well IT AINT EASY FOR ME EITHER!” Or “YA’LL LYING!” “FEMINIST!”

I personally come from a two-parent household, so I know how great marriage can be, but I also know how detrimental it can be if rushed.
So the pressure and shaming shyt is useless.

 

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Working Moms Get Little Reprieve From Household Demands

Yeah I’ll look over his post again later when I get back, but a lot made no sense. One of the leading stressors for women is the fact that even as women are increasingly becoming breadwinners, they are still also in the hook for majority of work in the homes as well.

“Some studies suggest that women have almost three times the workload of their husbands. Interestingly, these proportions stay about the same, regardless of whether a wife has a full-time job, and whether or not her husband is currently working.”
Who’s Cleaning the House?

“According to the United Nations, "Despite their increasing presence in public life, women continue to do 2.6 times the unpaid care and domestic work that men do."
The Difference Between a Happy Marriage and Miserable One: Chores

In fact, divorces among older women indicate that it’s worse in retirement b/c they feel they still never get a break from having to care for a man. It impacts their mental and physical health a lot.

But you can’t even discuss it without hackles being raised.
Here’s an article that was fascinating.
Only Happy Marriage Is Healthy for Women

There’s a LARGE body of research that has been done for decades detailing the health risks or decreased benefits of marriage for women.
https://clarkrelationshiplab.yale.e...that occur within and outside of marriage.pdf

Women Who Stay Single or Get Divorced Are Healthiest

The good news is that happy, satisfying, egalitarian marriages, are great for women. But ones where women are working, AND getting cheated on, and doing majority of the work at home and raising kids, actually contribute to the deterioration of women’s health. So being happy single is better than being unhappy in a relationship just to say you got somebody.

If it’s right, it’s great. Otherwise it’s not worth it.

 

[HARLEM AL]

That’s a silly red herring. It’s commonly accepted that there is greater variance in men than women so by sheer probability you’ll have the few sickos. The average single dude is out here chillin with COD Warzone while the single women are crying about not being able to get sponsored or dikked by a man

Never listen to what they say. It’s bullshyt and should be used as a distraction unless she say no about giving you some p*ssy(Had to clear that up otherwise what I said would be made out as if I’m ok with dudes R-word women). Social media is showing these broads are losing their fukking minds. All that independent shyt went out the window as soon as this virus came about. And when this shyt is over best believe p*ssy is going to ramped out chea!

"Women" posting ducktales

Simps caping for hoes

You hate to see it


I swear the moment a woman discovers she's pregnant, she dumps the baby's father. Then on Tinder talking about "I have a 3-month old who is my world and will always come before you."

And this is the problem with our society. Especially the black sector. That’s why you’d have the women getting knocked up with small majority of the men(providing the seed) and have either the government or the new dude to take care of the child(s). Then they will claim it as independence.

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

they live alone, but they ain't lonely. got the bf/fwb chilling in the bedroom and friends coming over all the time.

This should've been the thread closer. Plus with social media, a chick can post a random photo of herself & get all types of likes and comments. A breh does that, crickets

 

[Easy-E]

But regardless of these factors contributing to the narrowing of the gap, it still remains. And sociologists assert that the consistent pattern of men not only being more likely to remarry, but also remarrying faster than women is interesting, especially since culturally men are thought to be reluctant about commitment.

One would think that as caustic as men are culturally to the “ball and chain” or the #GMB crew, this gap wouldn’t exist at all. Men will have to answer those mysteries for themselves.

Note: I didn't say women don't wanna be alone. In this thread or elsewhere.

My problem with your conclusions is they make it seem like women are evolving in their thinking and men still want this;

Family Court has made it to where men do not want to commit to marriage when the divorce rates are so high.

Also, don't forget, most women aren't getting married because of economics. So, think about the pressures men have to maintain a job and make sure they don't make less than a spouse.

See any article that explains why less people are getting married and getting married at older ages.

We look at marriage just as oppressive as ya'll, but, with goofy assessment that we are just too immature for commitment.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Most women desire to be with a man, facts. I have women I dated in the past that didn't work out, one year later they're sending me friend requests on Facebook wondering how I'm doing. You're going to want a man, especially if you have a kid. One of my former coworkers is a single mom and miserable because she has no one else at home to help raise her son. Man needs woman, woman needs man, it's the way God made this world.

Real talk

 

[HARLEM AL]

Note: I didn't say women don't wanna be alone. In this thread or elsewhere.

My problem with your conclusions is they make it seem like women are evolving in their thinking and men still want this;

Family Court has made it to where men do not want to commit to marriage when the divorce rates are so high.

Also, don't forget, most women aren't getting married because of economics. So, think about the pressures men have to maintain a job and make sure they don't make less than a spouse.

See any article that explains why less people are getting married and getting married at older ages.

We look at marriage just as oppressive as ya'll, but, with goofy assessment that we are just too immature for commitment.

There it is. The truth

 

[Rawtid]

Family Court has made it to where men do not want to commit to marriage when the divorce rates are so high.

Also, don't forget, most women aren't getting married because of economics. So, think about the pressures men have to maintain a job and make sure they don't make less than a spouse.

See any article that explains why less people are getting married and getting married at older ages.

We look at marriage just as oppressive as ya'll, but, with goofy assessment that we are just too immature for commitment.

To the second bold point, both genders have different perspectives of "oppressive". Men see it as oppressing their sexual recklessness and women see it as oppressing their time and overall freedom within the partnership, like having to work, be a maid, mind the children and cater to the man all while he works. Yes, I do feel it's a bit immature to view marriage as your last opportunity to experience new p*ssy however, I applaud they aren't getting married because with that mindset it's a disaster waiting to happen.

Back to the first point, both genders claim not to want married because of economics, which is ass backwards to me because regardless of what anyone says, marriage has a myriad of financial benefits. It's a great wealth building tool, but couples have to utilize it correctly. Marriage isn't the problem, people's interpretation of it is the issue.

 

[Easy-E]

To the second bold point, both genders have different perspectives of "oppressive". Men see it as oppressing their sexual recklessness and women see it as oppressing their time and overall freedom within the partnership

Back to the first point, both genders claim not to want married because of economics, which is ass backwards to me because regardless of what anyone says, marriage has a myriad of financial benefits. It's a great wealth building tool, but couples have to utilize it correctly. Marriage isn't the problem, people's interpretation of it is the issue.

 

[Rawtid]

Most women desire to be with a man, facts. I have women I dated in the past that didn't work out, one year later they're sending me friend requests on Facebook wondering how I'm doing. You're going to want a man, especially if you have a kid. One of my former coworkers is a single mom and miserable because she has no one else at home to help raise her son. Man needs woman, woman needs man, it's the way God made this world.

I don't understand how someone can be miserable raising their own child. Did she not discipline him? I can understand being frustrated, struggling a bit financially, but as a single mother there is an abundance of resources available to her. If the father is completely absent and she has no family, she can find mentors or try some form of therapy.

With that said, as long as two people are on the same page, partnerships can be beautiful. Being single is better than being stressed.

 

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Note: I didn't say women don't wanna be alone. In this thread or elsewhere.

My problem with your conclusions is they make it seem like women are evolving in their thinking and men still want this;

Family Court has made it to where men do not want to commit to marriage when the divorce rates are so high.

Also, don't forget, most women aren't getting married because of economics. So, think about the pressures men have to maintain a job and make sure they don't make less than a spouse.

See any article that explains why less people are getting married and getting married at older ages.

We look at marriage just as oppressive as ya'll, but, with goofy assessment that we are just too immature for commitment.

Lol! There are a bunch of men who DO still want that dynamic, only they also want that PLUS women to also pay half. Which is where the double burden issue comes from for women.

We can see these male yearnings for the “good ole days” in countless uptick in men’s movements. Every time a man is on his “go back to the kitchen” steez only it’s been updated with “go back to the kitchen while still holding down the job too!”

Meanwhile, just as men are literally shaming a chick for being single, becoming hypersensitive if a chick even mentions having fun outside of a relationship, same Men fake pump about how they view marriage as oppressive. They say it a million times. Ad naseum. Over and over again.

I even said this myself. But ironically, many also get super mad when women decide they might enjoy being single as well...even if we not bashing men.

Maybe you can help me understand why it’s okay for men to be skeptical of marriage but get offended and start getting in their emotions when women are?
Do u see the inconsistency? It makes no sense.

What it looks like is that some men want to maintain the illusion that they are reluctant to marry on some “GEEEZ I guess I’ll do it” energy. Meanwhile, they also feel the need to simultaneously try and shame women into the very set up they themselves are allegedly reluctant about.
“You gon die alone!”
“Y-you lying. Can’t be single and happy!”

What purpose does this serve instead looking critically at the institution of marriage with its benefits AND disadvantages for both parties.
This thread was literally about why WOMEN might wanna remain single.

And it never fails. Every single time a woman conveys the benefits of being single and why it might work for her for, legions of bitter dudes fall all over themselves to shame, fear monger, or start talking about themselves even while they claim to not want marriage either.

Make it make sense.

 

[Geek Nasty]

Note: I didn't say women don't wanna be alone. In this thread or elsewhere.

My problem with your conclusions is they make it seem like women are evolving in their thinking and men still want this;

Family Court has made it to where men do not want to commit to marriage when the divorce rates are so high.

Also, don't forget, most women aren't getting married because of economics. So, think about the pressures men have to maintain a job and make sure they don't make less than a spouse.

See any article that explains why less people are getting married and getting married at older ages.

We look at marriage just as oppressive as ya'll, but, with goofy assessment that we are just too immature for commitment.

Love this last line. People completely ignore this.