You ever have a dying friendship that you don't know how to get out of?

[FreedMind]

My God am I actually a fukking p*ssy or what. I have a friend I'm not particularly fond of anymore, and I basically don't know how to go about ending that friendship. Should I scorch that bridge or play the long game?

I'm getting giddy thinking of the day where I can snub him out of an invitation to my imaginary wedding.

Discuss.

 

[ⓑⓞⓝ ⓑⓞⓝ]

Hi
I've been through this. I just stopped talking to them. It probably wasn't the best way to do it, but my other actions didn't work and they were constantly bringing down my mood. I'm generally a positive person. I couldn't deal with it anymore.

If they won't listen, I'd just end it. Good luck.

 

[FreedMind]

Hi
I've been through this. I just stopped talking to them. It probably wasn't the best way to do it, but my other actions didn't work and they were constantly bringing down my mood. I'm generally a positive person. I couldn't deal with it anymore.

If they won't listen, I'd just end it. Good luck.

Good post; why did you say it wasn't the best way to do it, though?

 

[rabbid]

honestly, just send the burn notice. a text is all they really need. i try to call but these nikkas typically if the friendship was already dying, they'll think of any excuse in the book not to answer your call anyway. i have never burnt a dying friendship and felt bad after.

now sometimes, usually in the case of women, they'll send a long ass text fighting you about this and that, but if its not a acknowledgement of the problems, then its just proof that shyt should've ended already.

 

[Sunshine]

The path with the most growth is actually telling him what the problem is and letting him know the friendship no longer serves you. If you ever run across him again, and life has a way of making that happen, no one can make you feel like a coward for ghosting. Whatever you decide, be tactful and calm.

 

[ⓑⓞⓝ ⓑⓞⓝ]

Good post; why did you say it wasn't the best way to do it, though?

Well, for me it was like I never met them. I still don't acknowledge that there was ever a friendship. But I really did reach my breaking point. I guess when I think about it now, I would have preferred a more mutual ending, but oh well.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Overthinking it.

Just stop talking to them.​

 

[Thanos]

You gotta communicate that out, some people do change, but most the friendship is over.

 

[Unknown Poster]

You just have to tell them how you feel and just end that.

I told a former friend of almost 30 years a couple of weeks ago to never call me again because they were a racist trump supporter and I would never forgive them. We hadn't spoke in 6 years before this. He thought he could get back into my good graces after he refused to help me out when I was homeless over 6 years ago.

He even said "I'd give you the shirt off my back" and he never did that...he didn't even give me $10 when I was homeless.

and I remember when we were walking to a college party almost 15 years ago I got jumped by 5 people and he ran like a bytch to the nearest bar or and left me to die. Best believe i unloaded every grievance that I ever had against him in that call.

He blocked me afterwards.


Just tell the truth.

 

[Why-Fi]

if it's dying just wait

 

[Amo Husserl]

We cut that off like gangrene.

 

[Womb Raider]

Distance

 

[Black Mamba]

Just block the nikka

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

Just do you and stay busy

I’ve had plenty of friendships that just grew apart and in some cases we got cool again

but don’t burn the bridge …just do you cause people change you never know that person could grow into someone you can be cool around again as well as be beneficial to a situation later in life

 

[ThirdAct]

Distance

Yeah that's the best way to get out it. If he hits you to link up just tell him you're busy.