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So, let me first visually show an example of a classic "Pick Me:"
- typically overweight
- typically just cute
- typically low standards and lack of self-love/esteem.
The Coli's Definition of a "Pick Me:" A Black woman or woman who takes up or supports Black men.
The Real Definition or MY Definition of a "Pick Me:"
- a black woman or woman who wants a man so bad ; or is invested in keeping her man from stepping out - due to her "basic" homely status. A chosen "Pick Me" lives in fear that her man/husband and relationship can be taken away at any time - more so than the average woman.
- a trained mouthpiece for repeating the same ish she hears some Black men say about Black women.
- no matter what "A Pick Me" will side with a man even when other Black men don't agree with them. Her goal is male acknowledgment/validation, a compliment, her beloved "it's still good Black women out here" label --- and the BIG payoff -- that DM/Message leading to that late night call.
"A Pick Me" go-to tactic is called:
Lastly, my view on dating: I date a lot. Every relationship I have even been in - I go/went through the dating phase -- 5-8 + dates - doing all types of stuff (events/concerts, cooking classes, working out together, museums, biking, parties, dinner, etc) - free and paid. I usually prefer the man to choose the date. I like surprises. They usually are creative dates where we get to know each other well. I only date those who enjoy and understand why dating and going out on date(s) are a mandatory step in getting to know someone who you are interested in.
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So, I really wanna know - is a woman like the one in the video really attractive to you? Meaning her personality and her views? Do you think it's ok for a woman to act like that - using "nikka" and "bytch" every other word? Though a lot of you seem to like and take up for "Pick Me's" - would you really be with one?
Be nice please
and leave my reps alone
- typically overweight
- typically just cute
- typically low standards and lack of self-love/esteem.
The Coli's Definition of a "Pick Me:" A Black woman or woman who takes up or supports Black men.
The Real Definition or MY Definition of a "Pick Me:"
- a black woman or woman who wants a man so bad ; or is invested in keeping her man from stepping out - due to her "basic" homely status. A chosen "Pick Me" lives in fear that her man/husband and relationship can be taken away at any time - more so than the average woman.
- a trained mouthpiece for repeating the same ish she hears some Black men say about Black women.
- no matter what "A Pick Me" will side with a man even when other Black men don't agree with them. Her goal is male acknowledgment/validation, a compliment, her beloved "it's still good Black women out here" label --- and the BIG payoff -- that DM/Message leading to that late night call.
"A Pick Me" go-to tactic is called:
The Sleuthing Thirst Trap: she investigates the Black man, takes on/adapts his views on "females" and" "bytches" then she waits for her turn or hopes a BM will see "she's a great catch." Usually, a Black men likes her comments + viewpoints so he responds/reaches out -- she smiles ... then she makes her move.
Note: "A Pick Me" success rate is interestingly really low - because men are visual - so her personality may be what some men would like.... cause they feel like they are with their homie -- but when they see pictures or her in-person -- a friendship is the only thing entered into -- or a "inside only" Friends with Benefits situationship. She usually agrees - but she wants more - so the "Pick Me" is back on the prowl.
Note: "A Pick Me" success rate is interestingly really low - because men are visual - so her personality may be what some men would like.... cause they feel like they are with their homie -- but when they see pictures or her in-person -- a friendship is the only thing entered into -- or a "inside only" Friends with Benefits situationship. She usually agrees - but she wants more - so the "Pick Me" is back on the prowl.
Lastly, my view on dating: I date a lot. Every relationship I have even been in - I go/went through the dating phase -- 5-8 + dates - doing all types of stuff (events/concerts, cooking classes, working out together, museums, biking, parties, dinner, etc) - free and paid. I usually prefer the man to choose the date. I like surprises. They usually are creative dates where we get to know each other well. I only date those who enjoy and understand why dating and going out on date(s) are a mandatory step in getting to know someone who you are interested in.
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So, I really wanna know - is a woman like the one in the video really attractive to you? Meaning her personality and her views? Do you think it's ok for a woman to act like that - using "nikka" and "bytch" every other word? Though a lot of you seem to like and take up for "Pick Me's" - would you really be with one?
Be nice please
and leave my reps alone
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